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Demisexual is a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum defined as someone who does not experience sexual attraction until they have formed a close or deep emotional connection or bond with someone.^[1] It is sometimes defined as one who only experiences secondary sexual attraction.^[2]

Demisexuality may be considered a type of Greysexuality, Mesi Asexuality, and/or Aliquasexuality.^[3]

Counterparts for other forms of attraction include: Demiromantic, Demiplatonic, Demisensual, Demialterous, and Demiflectic, among others.

Demisexuality is sometimes described as the "opposite" orientation to Fraysexuality (sexual attraction that fades when an emotional bond is formed). One who is both Demisexual and Fraysexual may or may not use the term Apexsexual.

Primary and Secondary Sexual Attraction Model

Primary Sexual attraction is sexual attraction based on information which is instantly available, such as appearance, voice, smell, or fashion.

Secondary Sexual attraction is is sexual attraction based on information which is not instantly available. This includes personality, experiences, talents, and similar factors.^[4]

The Primary and Secondary Sexual Attraction Model was created by AVEN user Rabger on September 2nd, 2005 to address perceived issues with AVEN's then-current definition of Asexuality.

Benefits of the model over the older definition is the distinction of Demisexuals from both Allosexuals and Black Stripe Asexuals, something not taken into account by the previous AVEN standard.^[5]

Emotional Bonds

The emotional bond a Demisexual forms can be Romantic, Platonic, or any other type of connection. What counts as a "close/deep bond" varies between individuals.

It may take several years to develop or it may form more suddenly (i.e. sharing an intense experience with someone over a week may cause a bond to form)

Some common factors for Demisexuals forming bonds are:

Emotional intimacy
Familiarity
Knowledge (of an individual's personality, beliefs, past, etc.)
Shared experiences

However, it is important to note that the formation of any emotional bond(s) does not mean a Demisexual person will automatically feel sexual attraction towards said individual(s). It is simply a prerequisite for the possibility of sexual attraction to occur.^[1]^[6]

Misconceptions

There are many misconceptions about Demisexuals and the Demisexual label. Demisexuality is not celibacy, a moral choice, "being picky", caused by a fear of sex, or an issue with low sex drive or hormones.^[7]^[8]^[9]

Demisexuals may choose to have casual sex or sex without attraction, sex stances vary from individual to individual just like any other orientation.^[10] While some Demisexuals may prefer sex with attraction, this is not a rule or a requirement to be Demisexual.^[11]

Similar to other orientations, Demisexuals may have any romantic orientation (Demisexual Homoromantic, Demisexual Aromantic, etc.) They may also choose not to use the Split-attraction Model ( or identify as a Non-SAM Ace.)^[12]

They may also choose to use additional sexual orientation labels alongside Demisexual (Demisexual Homosexual, Demisexual Bisexual, etc.) if they wish.^[13] Some Demisexuals are simply "just Demisexual".^[14]

Identities

Some examples of identities and microlabels relating to demisexuality include:

History

The term demisexual was coined in 2006 on the AVEN forms by user sonofzeal, who described his experience of not being sexually attracted to individuals without first forming an emotional connection. Sonofzeal felt neither asexual nor allosexual and created the term to more accurately describe needing an emotional bond as a prerequisite to sexual attraction. The term started to gain widespread popularity in 2008.^[15]

Flag

Demisexuality is included in the Asexual pride flag's Grey stripe along with Greysexuality.^[16]

The Demisexual flag was made by Wikimedia user Vimopu, who uploaded it on April 22nd, 2013.^[17]

While no meanings were given by Vimopu, the same colors as the Asexual flag are used and are often assumed to have the same or similar meanings.

Black: Asexuality
Grey: Gray-A and demisexuality
White: Allosexual partners and allies
Purple: Community^[16]

The third alternate demisexual flag was designed by tumblr user crimsxnflxwerz on August 2, 2018.^[18]

Etymology

The prefix demi- means half or partial.^[19]

Resources

https://web.archive.org/web/https://crimsxnflxwerz.tumblr.com/post/176552753131/i-was-thinking-of-ways-to-redesign-the-demisexual

[:0-1] 1.0 ^1.1 https://demisexuality.org/articles/what-is-demisexuality/

[2] ttps://web.archive.org/web/20220713031303/https://glaad.org/amp/ace-guide-finding-your-community

[3] ttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gray_asexuality#Demisexuality

[4] ttp://wiki.asexuality.org/Primary_vs._secondary_sexual_attraction_model

[5] ttp://wiki.asexuality.org/Primary_vs._secondary_sexual_attraction_model

[6] ttps://thedemisexual.com/being-demisexual/

[7] ttps://asexualitytrust.org.nz/what-is-asexuality/demisexuality-and-demiromanticism/

[8] ttps://thedemisexual.com/purity-culture-and-demisexuality/

[9] ttps://thedemisexual.com/demisexual-or-just-picky/

[10] ttps://thedemisexual.com/do-demisexuals-have-sex/#How_do_Demisexuals_Feel_About_Sex

[11] ttp://wiki.asexuality.org/Demisexual#Common_Misconceptions

[12] ttps://thedemisexual.com/just-demisexual/#Can_I_be_demisexual_and_gay_bi_pan_etc

[13] ttps://thedemisexual.com/demisexuality-bisexuality/

[14] ttps://thedemisexual.com/just-demisexual/#Can_I_just_be_demisexual

[15] ttps://web.archive.org/web/https://feeld.co/blog/feeld-guides/definition-demisexual

[:1-16] 16.0 ^16.1 http://wiki.asexuality.org/Asexual_flag#Symbolism

[17] ttps://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Demisexual_Flag.jpg

[18] ttps://www.tumblr.com/crimsxnflxwerz/176552753131/i-was-thinking-of-ways-to-redesign-the-demisexual

[19] ttps://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/demi-

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-[Intro]
+[[File:Demiflag.png|thumb|220x220px|The demisexual flag.]][[File:Alternate demisexual flag.png|thumb|Alternate demisexual flag.]][[File:Alternate demisexual flag (2).jpg|thumb|Alternate demisexual flag.]]
+[[File:39BB39B9-9C20-4381-A759-9F8DA5B63B83.jpg|thumb|Alternate demisexual flag.]]
+[[File:Demisexual2 flag.png|thumb|Alternate demisexual flag by Tumblr user crimsxnflxwerz.]]
+[[File:Alternate Demisexual flag.png|alt=Alternate Demisexual flag|thumb|Alternate Demisexual flag]]
+[[File:Demisexual Symbol.png|thumb|Demisexual Symbol.]]
+'''Demisexual''' is a [[sexual orientation]] on the [[asexual spectrum]] defined as someone who does not experience [[sexual attraction]] until they have formed a close or deep emotional connection or bond with someone.<ref name=":0">https://demisexuality.org/articles/what-is-demisexuality/</ref>  It is sometimes defined as one who only experiences secondary sexual attraction.<ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20220713031303/https://glaad.org/amp/ace-guide-finding-your-community</ref>
+Demisexuality may be considered a type of [[greysexual|Greysexuality]], [[Mesi Asexual|Mesi Asexuality]], and/or [[aliquasexual|Aliquasexuality.]]<ref>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gray_asexuality#Demisexuality</ref>
-(Secure the bag, know what I mean? Banrisk on the beat)
+Counterparts for other forms of attraction include: [[Demiromantic]], [[Demiplatonic]], [[Demisensual]], [[Demialterous]], and [[Flectic|Demiflectic]], among others.
-(We The Sus Music)
+Demisexuality is sometimes described as the "opposite" orientation to [[Fraysexual|Fraysexuality]] (sexual attraction that fades when an emotional bond is formed). One who is both Demisexual and Fraysexual may or may not use the term [[Apexsexual]].
-(Ayo, Perish, this is hot, boy)
+== Primary and Secondary Sexual Attraction Model ==
-[Verse 1]
+Primary Sexual attraction is sexual attraction based on information which is instantly available, such as appearance, voice, smell, or fashion.
+Secondary Sexual attraction is is sexual attraction based on information which is not instantly available. This includes personality, experiences, talents, and similar factors.<ref>http://wiki.asexuality.org/Primary_vs._secondary_sexual_attraction_model</ref>
-I suck his dick with a smile for hours at a time
+The Primary and Secondary Sexual Attraction Model was created by AVEN user Rabger on September 2nd, 2005 to address perceived issues with AVEN's then-current definition of Asexuality.
-Stare at his nutsack while I hold back my cum tonight
+Benefits of the model over the older definition is the distinction of Demisexuals from both Allosexuals and [[Black Stripe Asexual|Black Stripe Asexuals]], something not taken into account by the previous AVEN standard.<ref>http://wiki.asexuality.org/Primary_vs._secondary_sexual_attraction_model</ref>
-And when he ask me what position
+== Emotional Bonds ==
-I say, "doggystyle"
+The emotional bond a Demisexual forms can be [[Romantic Attraction|Romantic]], [[Platonic Attraction|Platonic]], or any other type of connection. What counts as a "close/deep bond" varies between individuals.
+It may take several years to develop or it may form more suddenly (i.e. sharing an intense experience with someone over a week may cause a bond to form)
-(And when he ask me what position
+Some common factors for Demisexuals forming bonds are:
-I say, "doggystyle")
+* Emotional intimacy
-But the fact is
+* Familiarity
+* Knowledge (of an individual's personality, beliefs, past, etc.)
+* Shared experiences
+However, it is important to note that the formation of any emotional bond(s) does not mean a Demisexual person will automatically feel sexual attraction towards said individual(s). It is simply a prerequisite for the possibility of sexual attraction to occur.<ref name=":0" /><ref>https://thedemisexual.com/being-demisexual/</ref>
-I can never get off of his fat dick
+== Misconceptions ==
-And all that they can ask is
+There are many misconceptions about Demisexuals and the Demisexual label. Demisexuality is not celibacy, a moral choice, "being picky", caused by a fear of sex, or an issue with low sex drive or hormones.<ref>https://asexualitytrust.org.nz/what-is-asexuality/demisexuality-and-demiromanticism/</ref><ref>https://thedemisexual.com/purity-culture-and-demisexuality/</ref><ref>https://thedemisexual.com/demisexual-or-just-picky/</ref>
+Demisexuals may choose to have casual sex or sex without attraction, [[Sex Stances|sex stances]] vary from individual to individual just like any other orientation.<ref>https://thedemisexual.com/do-demisexuals-have-sex/#How_do_Demisexuals_Feel_About_Sex</ref> While some Demisexuals may prefer sex with attraction, this is not a rule or a requirement to be Demisexual.<ref>http://wiki.asexuality.org/Demisexual#Common_Misconceptions</ref>
-"I just wanna smack it" (I just wanna smack it)
+Similar to other orientations, Demisexuals may have any romantic orientation (Demisexual [[Homoromantic]], Demisexual [[Aromantic]], etc.) They may also choose not to use the Split-attraction Model ( or identify as a [[Non-SAM Ace]].)<ref>https://thedemisexual.com/just-demisexual/#Can_I_be_demisexual_and_gay_bi_pan_etc</ref>
-[Pre-Chorus]
+They may also choose to use additional sexual orientation labels alongside Demisexual (Demisexual [[Gay|Homosexual]], Demisexual [[Bisexual]], etc.) if they wish.<ref>https://thedemisexual.com/demisexuality-bisexuality/</ref> Some Demisexuals are simply "just Demisexual".<ref>https://thedemisexual.com/just-demisexual/#Can_I_just_be_demisexual</ref>
-Here's what the fact is
+== Identities ==
-He can put my asshole in a casket (Yuh, Yuh Yuh)
+Some examples of identities and microlabels relating to demisexuality include:
+* [[Demisexualspike]]
-Asshole in a casket
+* [[Sequencesexual]]
+* [[Dellosexual]]
+* [[Communicosexual]] (in some cases)
+* [[Demipleasure]]
+* [[Apressexual]]
+* [[Encephalosexual]]
+* [[Amantesexual]]
+*[[Koinikosexual|Koinosexual]]
+*[[Apexsexual]]
+*[[Vallissexual]]
+== History ==
-[Chorus]
+The term demisexual was coined in 2006 on the AVEN forms by user sonofzeal, who described his experience of not being sexually attracted to individuals without first forming an emotional connection. Sonofzeal felt neither [[asexual]] nor allosexual and created the term to more accurately describe needing an emotional bond as a prerequisite to sexual attraction. The term started to gain widespread popularity in 2008.<ref>{{Archive|Site=web|URL=https://feeld.co/blog/feeld-guides/definition-demisexual}}</ref>
+== Flag ==
-So you can see I'm cummin'
+Demisexuality is included in the Asexual [[Pride Flag|pride flag]]'s Grey stripe along with Greysexuality.<ref name=":1">http://wiki.asexuality.org/Asexual_flag#Symbolism</ref>
+The Demisexual flag was made by Wikimedia user Vimopu, who uploaded it on April 22nd, 2013.<ref>https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Demisexual_Flag.jpg</ref>
-But you won't see me nuttin'
+While no meanings were given by Vimopu, the same colors as the Asexual flag are used and are often assumed to have the same or similar meanings.
-I'll just keep on suckin', I'm good (Yeah, I'm good)
+* '''Black:''' Asexuality
-And if he sucks my glizzy
+* '''Grey:''' Gray-A and demisexuality
+* '''White:''' Allosexual partners and allies
+* '''Purple''': Community<ref name=":1" />
+The third alternate demisexual flag was designed by tumblr user crimsxnflxwerz on August 2, 2018.<ref>https://www.tumblr.com/crimsxnflxwerz/176552753131/i-was-thinking-of-ways-to-redesign-the-demisexual</ref>
-I will become dizzy
+== Etymology ==
-But it keeps us busy, I'm good (Yeah, I'm good)
+The prefix demi- means half or partial.<ref>https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/demi-</ref>
+== Resources ==
-I've been twerking for boys for so long
-I'vе been flirting with boys for so long
-My jaw's been hurting for so, so long it's real
-So long, it's real, so long, it's real
-[Verse 2]
-Always bеin' judged by a bunch of sexy faces
-Stickin' up the guys, haven't seen a girl in ages
-But I've been places
-Kissin' guy's faces, kissin' guy's faces
-Kissin' guy's faces
-But the fact is
-Kissin' guys is all that I have practiced
-Suckin' glizzies while I'm on my mattress
-I just really wish that I could smack it (I just wanna smack it)
-[Pre-Chorus]
-Here's what the fact is
-He can put my asshole in a casket (Yuh, Yuh Yuh)
-Asshole in a casket
-[Chorus]
-So you can see I'm cummin'
-But you won't see me nuttin'
-I'll just keep on suckin', I'm good (Yeah, I'm good)
-And if he sucks my glizzy
-I will become dizzy
-But it keeps us busy, I'm good (Yeah, I'm good)
-I've been twerking for boys for so long
-I've been flirting with boys for so long
-My jaw's been hurting for so, so long it's real
-So long, it's real, so long, it's real
-[Outro]
-So long, it's real
-So long, it's real
-So long, it's real
-(We The Sus Music)
 [[Category:Ace-spec identity]]
+<references />{{Archive|Site=web|URL=https://crimsxnflxwerz.tumblr.com/post/176552753131/i-was-thinking-of-ways-to-redesign-the-demisexual}}
-<br />
+[[Category:Demi- Orientation]]
+[[Category:Needs Resource Verification]]