Xumromantic is the state of never being satisfied with your romantic orientation no matter how well it fits due to self-doubt or identity issues. This causes one to compulsively search and seek out for something that fits even better -- to find "the orientation" or "the one truth" -- though one will never be found due to a) One's neurotype. b) Words will never be able to describe one's romantic orientation. c) One's romantic orientation is paradoxical. This inability to find a "one true orientation" frequent causes doubt and anxiety and can even cause the label xumromantic to feel incorrect to the individual.
This term is exclusive to neurodivergent people. It was specifically coined with people with anxiety disorders, OCD, and OCPD in mind. The term implaromantic exists for neurotypical people who relate to this experience and don't want to appropriate