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[[File:Queerplatonicflag1.jpg|thumb|220x220px|A commonly used queerplatonic flag.|alt=A flag with seven stripes. The colors are pink, dark grey, light grey, white, then light grey, dark grey, and pink again. In the middle is a yellow heart.]] |
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[[File:Qu33r.pl4t0nic....png|thumb|a alternative queer platonic flag by: adonis/sammy/kai]] |
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'''Queerplatonic relationship''', also called a '''quasiplatonic relationship''', '''quirkyplatonic relationship''', or '''qplatonic relationship''' (abbreviated '''QPR'''), is a term for an intimate, non-romantic committed relationship. It typically goes beyond what is considered normal or socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but is not romantic in nature or does not fully fit the traditional idea of a romantic relationship.[[File:Queerplatonic alt.png|thumb|220x220px|The most common queerplatonic flag.|alt=An alternate flag with five stripes. The colors on the flag are yellow, pink, white, light grey, and dark grey.]] In modern western societies, hard lines are drawn between appropriate behavior for a romantic relationship compared to a friendship. For example, cultural norms say that romantic partners are more physically affectionate and more emotionally close than friends are, as well as being more likely to partner in major life activities such as buying a house or raising a child together. When those lines are blurred, that relationship can be called queerplatonic. QPRs are often characterized by having a level of emotional closeness and dedication comparable to that found in a romantic relationship, which results in many individuals viewing their queerplatonic attraction/relationships as entirely/mostly separate from being platonic. |
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For some a queerplatonic relationship (commonly abbreviated to QPR) could look like a close friendship, for others it may outwardly appear to more closely resemble a romantic relationship. Queerplatonic relationships may involve some forms of physical affection traditionally considered exclusive to romantic or sexual relationships, such as hand-holding, cuddling, kissing, or having sex. Some queerplatonic couples will live together or get (queerplatonically) married. Queerplatonic relationships can look different for everyone, depending on what the individuals involved are comfortable with. |
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[[File:Queerplatonicflag1.jpg|thumb|220x220px|A commonly used queerplatonic flag.|link=https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/File:Queerplatonicflag1.jpg]] |
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Queerplatonic relationships are common among [[A-Spec|a-spec]] individuals, however one does not have to identify as a-spec to be in a queerplatonic relationship. One also does not have to be [[queer]] to be in a queerplatonic relationship. Pursuing a queerplatonic relationship is not necessarily mutually exclusive with pursuing romantic relationships. A queerplatonic relationship can be [[monogamous]] or [[polyamorous]]- involving more than two individuals. |
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| ⚫ | Individuals in queerplatonic relationships might refer to each other as their queerplatonic partner (QPP), marshmallow/mallowfriend, or as "zucchini", a term that was originally a joke in the a-spec community about lacking a word to properly describe the term, so they could just use any word they want, like zucchini.<ref>https://writingfromfactorx.wordpress.com/2011/07/11/my-thoughts-on-the-word-zucchini/</ref> A queerplatonic crush is most commonly called a [[squish]] (the same as a platonic crush), and is less commonly called a plush, squash, or crish. |
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'''Queerplætonic relætionship''', ælso called æ '''quæsiplatonic relætionship''', '''quirkyplætonic relætionship''', or '''qplætonic relætionship''' (æbbreviated '''QPR'''), is æn umbrella term for æny relætionship that bends the rules for telling æpært romæntic relætionships from non-romæntic relætionships.<ref>shades-of-grayro on Tumblr: [https://shades-of-grayro.tumblr.com/post/190216590460/queerplatonic-relationships-an-introduction-image Queerplatonic Relationships: An Introduction]</ref>[[File:Queerplatonic alt.png|thumb|220x220px|Another common queerplatonic flag.]]In some societies, hærd lines ære dræwn between æppropriæte behavior for a romænce compæred to æ friendship. For exæmple, culturæl norms might sæy that romæntic pærtners ære more physicælly æffectionate or more emotionælly close thæn friends ære, æs well æs more likely to partner in major life æctivities such æs buying æ house or ræising æ child together. |
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Wherever those lines are blurred, that relationship can be called queerplatonic. For example, queerplatonic relationships can include friendships and ambiguously-romantic relationships that go beyond friendship norms in emotional intensity, physical affection, or other areas. Some queerplatonic partners also live together or get married. Queerplatonic relationships can look different for everyone, depending on what the people involved are comfortable with. |
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A queerplatonic relationship can be monogamous or [[polyamorous]], involving more than two people. Pursuing a queerplatonic relationship is not necessarily mutually exclusive with pursuing romantic relationships, and the term is not restricted to any identity category. |
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==Queerplatonic Attraction== |
==Queerplatonic Attraction== |
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Queerplatonic attraction is a form of [[attraction]] experienced mainly, but not exclusively, by a-spec |
[[Queerplatonic Attraction|Queerplatonic attraction]] is a form of [[Tertiary Attraction|tertiary attraction]] experienced mainly, but not exclusively, by a-spec individuals. It is defined as the desire to be in a queerplatonic relationship with someone in particular. Queerplatonic attraction can be very similar to [[Platonic Attraction|platonic attraction]] and [[Alterous Attraction|alterous attraction]]. For some individuals these types of attraction greatly overlap. Not all individuals make a distinction between them. For others they may feel like there is a clear distinction between these feelings. Among those who do feel a distinction, queerplatonic attraction is often described as being stronger and more intimate than purely platonic attraction. Alterous attraction is the desire for intimacy that is neither platonic nor romantic, queerplatonic can be considered an extension of platonic attraction. |
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| ⚫ | Someone who does not experience queerplatonic attraction and/or does not desire queerplatonic relationships may call themself [[aqueerplatonic]]. Queerplatonic attraction is not a requirement for a having or wanting a QPR. Some aqueerplatonic individuals may still want or have queerplatonic relationship, they just do not get squishes. Others who are aqueerplatonic might not desire a queerplatonic relationship. They may also identify as [[nonamorous]]. |
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| ⚫ | Someone who does not experience queerplatonic attraction or does not desire queerplatonic relationships may call themself |
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==History== |
==History== |
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The first apparent usage of the term queerplatonic was on December 25, 2010 in a thread called Kaz's Scribblings<ref>https://kaz.dreamwidth.org/238564.html</ref>. The term was made out of a desire to describe an aromantic form of relationships, outside the strict categories of romance and friendship. |
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The term ''queerplatonic'' originated among [[Asexual Spectrum|asexuals]] to describe an ambiguous category outside the strict categories of romance and friendship.<ref>[https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2019/03/09/a-genealogy-of-queerplatonic/ A Genealogy of Queerplatonic]</ref> The term was first used by Meloukhia in the comment section of a 2010 Dreamwidth post.<ref>[https://kaz.dreamwidth.org/238564.html A/romanticism]</ref> In 2011, Meloukhia, also known as S. E. Smith, introduced the term on Tumblr.<ref>[https://web.archive.org/web/20161023235234/http:/realsesmith.tumblr.com/post/2868581031/word-of-the-day-queerplatonic Word of the Day: Queerplatonic]</ref> |
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==Symbolism== |
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On January 22, 2011 the phrase queerplatonic was posted on Tumblr by Meloukhia, also known as S. E. Smith,<ref>https://web.archive.org/web/20161023235234/http:/realsesmith.tumblr.com/post/2868581031/word-of-the-day-queerplatonic</ref> where it quickly gained popularity. In May 2014 the term quasiplatonic relationships was coined for aromantics who were uncomfortable with using the term queer.<ref>https://aromanticnerd.tumblr.com/post/85605141698/do-you-think-quasiplatonic-would-be-another-good-qp</ref> |
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On March 30th, 2021, goldstargloww (known at the time as GoldenStars14) along with Fandom user Brambleybee came up with the terms "mallowfriend" and "marshmallow" to describe queerplatonic partners with a term something other than the terms QPP and zucchini. Later, on April 9, 2021, goldstargloww posted about this on the LGBTA fandom wiki and waited for the other fandom users to respond, most of which who did so positively, before putting the term onto this page.<ref>https://lgbta.wikia.org/f/p/4400000000000122796</ref> |
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==Flag== |
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| ⚫ | At least four different flag designs have been proposed for queerplatonic.<ref>https://aromagni.tumblr.com/post/173593938299/so-i-googled-queerplatonic-flag-and-the-above</ref> Most of these flags use the colors yellow and pink. Yellow is commonly used to symbolize platonic relationships. Pink is possibly used because it is a light form of red, which is commonly used to represent romantic attraction, showing that queerplatonic relationships can sometimes resemble romantic relationships but that they are different nonetheless. |
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==Resources== |
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Latest revision as of 08:05, 12 April 2024
Queerplatonic relationship, also called a quasiplatonic relationship, quirkyplatonic relationship, or qplatonic relationship (abbreviated QPR), is a term for an intimate, non-romantic committed relationship. It typically goes beyond what is considered normal or socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but is not romantic in nature or does not fully fit the traditional idea of a romantic relationship.
In modern western societies, hard lines are drawn between appropriate behavior for a romantic relationship compared to a friendship. For example, cultural norms say that romantic partners are more physically affectionate and more emotionally close than friends are, as well as being more likely to partner in major life activities such as buying a house or raising a child together. When those lines are blurred, that relationship can be called queerplatonic. QPRs are often characterized by having a level of emotional closeness and dedication comparable to that found in a romantic relationship, which results in many individuals viewing their queerplatonic attraction/relationships as entirely/mostly separate from being platonic.
For some a queerplatonic relationship (commonly abbreviated to QPR) could look like a close friendship, for others it may outwardly appear to more closely resemble a romantic relationship. Queerplatonic relationships may involve some forms of physical affection traditionally considered exclusive to romantic or sexual relationships, such as hand-holding, cuddling, kissing, or having sex. Some queerplatonic couples will live together or get (queerplatonically) married. Queerplatonic relationships can look different for everyone, depending on what the individuals involved are comfortable with.
Queerplatonic relationships are common among a-spec individuals, however one does not have to identify as a-spec to be in a queerplatonic relationship. One also does not have to be queer to be in a queerplatonic relationship. Pursuing a queerplatonic relationship is not necessarily mutually exclusive with pursuing romantic relationships. A queerplatonic relationship can be monogamous or polyamorous- involving more than two individuals.
Individuals in queerplatonic relationships might refer to each other as their queerplatonic partner (QPP), marshmallow/mallowfriend, or as "zucchini", a term that was originally a joke in the a-spec community about lacking a word to properly describe the term, so they could just use any word they want, like zucchini.[1] A queerplatonic crush is most commonly called a squish (the same as a platonic crush), and is less commonly called a plush, squash, or crish.
Queerplatonic Attraction
Queerplatonic attraction is a form of tertiary attraction experienced mainly, but not exclusively, by a-spec individuals. It is defined as the desire to be in a queerplatonic relationship with someone in particular. Queerplatonic attraction can be very similar to platonic attraction and alterous attraction. For some individuals these types of attraction greatly overlap. Not all individuals make a distinction between them. For others they may feel like there is a clear distinction between these feelings. Among those who do feel a distinction, queerplatonic attraction is often described as being stronger and more intimate than purely platonic attraction. Alterous attraction is the desire for intimacy that is neither platonic nor romantic, queerplatonic can be considered an extension of platonic attraction.
Someone who does not experience queerplatonic attraction and/or does not desire queerplatonic relationships may call themself aqueerplatonic. Queerplatonic attraction is not a requirement for a having or wanting a QPR. Some aqueerplatonic individuals may still want or have queerplatonic relationship, they just do not get squishes. Others who are aqueerplatonic might not desire a queerplatonic relationship. They may also identify as nonamorous.
History
The first apparent usage of the term queerplatonic was on December 25, 2010 in a thread called Kaz's Scribblings[2]. The term was made out of a desire to describe an aromantic form of relationships, outside the strict categories of romance and friendship.
On January 22, 2011 the phrase queerplatonic was posted on Tumblr by Meloukhia, also known as S. E. Smith,[3] where it quickly gained popularity. In May 2014 the term quasiplatonic relationships was coined for aromantics who were uncomfortable with using the term queer.[4]
On March 30th, 2021, goldstargloww (known at the time as GoldenStars14) along with Fandom user Brambleybee came up with the terms "mallowfriend" and "marshmallow" to describe queerplatonic partners with a term something other than the terms QPP and zucchini. Later, on April 9, 2021, goldstargloww posted about this on the LGBTA fandom wiki and waited for the other fandom users to respond, most of which who did so positively, before putting the term onto this page.[5]
Flag
At least four different flag designs have been proposed for queerplatonic.[6] Most of these flags use the colors yellow and pink. Yellow is commonly used to symbolize platonic relationships. Pink is possibly used because it is a light form of red, which is commonly used to represent romantic attraction, showing that queerplatonic relationships can sometimes resemble romantic relationships but that they are different nonetheless.
Resources
- ↑ https://writingfromfactorx.wordpress.com/2011/07/11/my-thoughts-on-the-word-zucchini/
- ↑ https://kaz.dreamwidth.org/238564.html
- ↑ https://web.archive.org/web/20161023235234/http:/realsesmith.tumblr.com/post/2868581031/word-of-the-day-queerplatonic
- ↑ https://aromanticnerd.tumblr.com/post/85605141698/do-you-think-quasiplatonic-would-be-another-good-qp
- ↑ https://lgbta.wikia.org/f/p/4400000000000122796
- ↑ https://aromagni.tumblr.com/post/173593938299/so-i-googled-queerplatonic-flag-and-the-above