LGBTQIA+ Wiki:FAQ

General FAQ

Why is there not a page for [insert identity here]?

Because one hasn't been made yet.

How come [insert term here] has the same definition as [insert term here]?

1) There might be a subtle difference that you are not understanding.

2) There is no LGBTA+ hivemind. Not everyone is aware of every term that's been coined so sometimes two people will make terms with the same definition.

If you've asking which one to identify with just go with whichever one you like more.

Where can I find a list of EVERY pronoun set?

There are infinitely many pronoun sets. There are as many pronoun set as there are possible combinations of letters and symbols. There is no way to keep track of them all. Literally anyone can make a pronoun set and there are no “rules” for what that pronoun set can be.

If what you're actually asking for is a comprehensive list of many pronouns sets, then: https://pronoun-provider.tumblr.com/pronouns

I want to make a list of EVERY gender/sexuality/LGBT+ identity. Where should I start?

Don't.

You will not succeed. I guarantee it.

There isn't for over ruling authority that keeps track of this stuff, and who people have to go through to make an identity. Literally anyone can be a new identity at any time and they will do it faster than you can ever hope to write them down.

This wiki is a testament to my attempt to do exactly this and I am literally no closer to finishing than I was when I started. For every page that is added five new identities are spontaneously created. I am Sisyphus and this is my rock.

Sexuality/Orientation FAQ

What is my orientation?/Is there a word for...?

Please read my three part masterpost for people looking for sexuality based terms.

You may also want to look through our various categories for sexualities.

What's the difference between bisexual, polysexual, omnisexual, and pansexual?

Pansexual:

Attracted to all genders.
Experiences no difference between genders.

Omnisexual:

Attracted to all genders.
Experiences some difference between genders.

Polysexual:

Attracted to multiple genders, but not all genders.
May or may not experience a difference between genders.

Bisexual:

Attracted to multiple genders, anywhere from 2 genders to all genders.
May or may not experience a difference between genders.

Am I bi, pan, or omni?

Identity as whichever you prefer.

While you can make a distinction between them if you wish, you do not have to. You can identify as multiple if you want.

Can I be sapphic/achillean if I'm [insert m-spec identity here]?

Yes. That is the point of sapphic/achillean.

What's is called when I'm attracted to feminine people?

Finsexual.

What's it called when I have a preference for [insert gender here]?

See finic, minic, ninic.

What's it called when I'm attracted to non-binary people?

It depends.

Non-binary people aren't a single monolithic group that you can. "Yes, I'm attracted to them." or "No, I'm not attracted to any of them."

But also you can try ceterosexual, triasexual, or enboric.

I'm attracted to non-binary people, can I still identify as gay/lesbian/straight/[insert monosexual identity here]?

Yes, but also it depends.

All orientations include non-binary people, but not all orientations include all non-binary people. If you are a woman who is attracted to woman aligned/feminine aligned nb people that can be included in lesbian attraction. If you are also attracted to male aligned/masculine aligned nb people that would not fall under lesbian attraction. If you are attracted to neutral/unaligned nb people you may still identify as lesbian but it is up to your digression and how you think your attraction is best described.

I'm not attracted to non-binary people, can I still identify as gay/lesbian/straight/[insert monosexual identity here]?

Yes.

Just because non-binary people can be included in an identity doesn't mean that you, personally, have to be attracted to them.

Can I be gay/vincian/achillean if I am non-binary?

Yes.

Can I be [insert orientation here] if I'm transgender?

Trans men are men and can use any terms that can be used by men.

Trans women are women and can use any terms that can be used by women.

Can I be lesbian/sapphic if I am non-binary?

Yes.

Can I be [insert sexuality here] but for romantic/(queer)platonic/aesthetic/alterous/etc. attraction?

Yes.

What is the word for [insert sexuality here] attraction but for romantic/(queer)platonic/aesthetic/alterous/etc. attraction?

Bisexual

Biromantic

Biplatonic

Biqueerplatonic

Biaesthetic

Bialterous

Bi[insert name of attraction here]

Now replace "bi-" with the sexuality prefix in question.

Can I be [insert ace-spec term here] and [insert other sexuality here] at the same time?

Yes.

Can I be [insert sexual orientation here] and [insert romantic orientation here] at the same time?

Yes.

Can I be asexual if I watch porn/masturbate/have a sex drive/enjoy sex?

Yes.

Can I be asexual/ace-spec if I have/want to have a sexual relationship?

Yes.

Can I be aromantic/aro-spec if I have/want to have a romantic relationship?

Yes.

Can I be in a queerplatonic relationship if I'm not asexual/not aromantic/[insert adjective here]?

Yes.

Can I be polyamorous if I am [insert orientation here]?

Yes.

Gender FAQ

Can I be [insert gender here] and [insert other gender here] at the same time?

Yes.

Can I be trans if I don't want to have surgery/go on hormones/wear different clothes/[insert activity here]?

Yes.

Can I be trans if I am [insert non-binary gender here]?

Yes.

Does [insert gender here] count as non-binary?

Are you on the man page, woman page, wergender page, or wifgender page? If not, it is non-binary.

Am I allowed to change my name if I am [insert gender here]?

Yes.

Can I be [insert gender here] if I am [insert gender presentation here]?

Yes.

Can I be [insert gender here] if I like to [wear certain clothing item]/[do certain activity]?

Yes.

Can I be [insert gender here] if I like to be called sister/brother/daughter/son/boyfriend/girlfriend/[insert gendered word here]?

Yes.

Pronoun FAQ

Can I use [insert pronouns here] if I'm [insert gender here]?

Yes.

Can I use [insert pronouns here] if I like to be called sister/brother/daughter/son/boyfriend/girlfriend/[insert gendered word here]?

Yes.

Am I allowed to use neopronouns if I am [insert gender here]?

Yes.

Am I allowed to use neopronouns if I am [insert adjective here]?

Yes.

Is [insert pronoun set here] a pronoun set?

It is now.

What does she/they pronouns or he/they mean? / How do I use she/they pronouns or he/they pronouns.

She/they means they go by both she/her pronouns and by they/them pronouns. He/they means they go by both he/him pronouns and by they/them pronouns. Either use the two pronoun sets interchangeable or choose one or the other.

How do I use [insert pronouns set here]?

How do I use [insert pronouns set here]? In English all pronoun sets have five words. They are organized like so: nominative/accusative/pronominal possessive/predicative possessive/reflexive. As an example I will using ae/aer/aer/aers/aerself pronouns. The first pronoun listed is the nominative pronoun. It is used in place of the words he, she, or they.

He/She/They went to the store.
Ae went to the store.
[insert first pronoun here] went to the store.

The second pronoun listed is the accusative pronoun. It is used in place of him, her, or them.

I met him/her/them today.
I met aer today.
I met [insert second pronoun here] today.

The third pronoun listed is the pronominal possessive pronoun. It is used in place of his, her, or their.

I walked his/her/their dog today.
I walked aer dog today.
I walked [insert third pronoun here] dog today.

The fourth pronoun is the predicative possessive. It is used in place of his, hers, or theirs. (Note that this is the pronoun most likely to be dropped when listing pronouns. If someone only lists four pronouns this is likely the one that is missing.)

If I need a phone my friend will let me borrow his/hers/theirs.
If I need a phone my friend will let me borrow aers.
If I need a phone my friend will let me borrow [insert fourth pronoun here].

The last pronoun listed is the reflexive. It is used in place of the words himself, herself, or themself/themselves.

Alex has to drive himself/herself/themself to school.
Alex has to drive aerself to school.
Alex has to drive [insert last pronoun here] to school.

Note that in the case of they/them pronouns some sentences are conjugated in the plural form. (ie: He has eaten. ==> They have eaten.) You should always assume that neopronoun sets are conjugated as singular, unless you are specifically told otherwise. (It would be “ae has eaten” not “ae have eaten”.)

Note that this is only for English pronouns.