Blackberry Baby: (or BbB)
Blackberry Babies are individuals who feel their gender nonconformity as well as their partner's gender nonconformity or lack thereof is important to their relationship with their partners. This term is for all GNC people be they cis, trans, or etc.!
"Who can use it?" -Any polyam GNC person! It also doesn't matter if someone is "a little" GNC or "entirely" GNC, as long as they believe being GNC is important to their relationship with their lovers they can identify as a Blackberry Baby! -A simple way to understand it is any sort of gender nonconformity looked down upon as "degenerate" or "unnatural" by fascists (such as men on bottom or being stay at home parents) in any way that comes naturally and lovingly to the GNC individuals counts. (This identity also applies to anyone who identifies with ENM -Ethically Non-Monogamous- aswell) Examples: A woman (cis or trans) dressing masculine/male and bringing in most of the money, or a man (cis or trans) staying at home and cooking dinner for his lover(s) out working. This may also apply to sexual dynamics regarding kink. (pegging, femdom, etc.)
"What does it entail?" Anything from who looks after the house and children to who is dominant in bed may be included in an individuals gender nonconformity, and they may find how this interacts with how their partners to be important to them, their partners, or the relationship.
Etymology and Flag
This flag has been reclaimed and repurposed from the harmful, original term "Longsword Lesbian" or LsL.
Creator's Note + Coining
"I like this term, but do I need to use it? Nope! This term is simply what I've coined to describe my experience as a GNC polyam person and how my gender nonconformity relates to my relationships, as well as how it inspires me to exist despite the fash. Not mandatory to use it!" -jojohandholder on twitter.
This term was coined by twitter user @/jojohandholder on October 16, 2021 as a way to reclaim and repurpose exclusionist identities.