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== Our DNI List (Updated! 3/6/23) ==

<small>''TW For a few swears and mentions of the following: abuse, queerphobia, transphobia, gatekeeping, Trump, fetishization, paraphilia, p/dophilia (e), incest, ableism, racism, anti-shippers, climate change, “cringe”, food, animals, d//th threats (ea), s//c/de (ui, i), problematic figures, reclaimed identities, unreclaimed slur (not explicitly said)''

''CW For bold text''

I know that this list is long because it's in two parts, so I greatly apologize in advance. However, I think that it's proper for us to put this down just to be safe and clear and after leaving the discussion pages. If any of the situations below describe you, then please ''do not interact.'' /gen /srs

Updated or new things will start with “''>>>>>>>>>>''”, so that those who have read this DNI list before can just go to what has been updated. (Let me know if this triggers anyone /g)

- Danni (he/they/it+) - [[User:Systeroamia|Systeroamia]]

=== If you mock, don’t believe, or hate on: ===

* ''Any'' good-faith LGBTQ+ sexualities, including any [[a-spec]] identities and [[objectum]] identities (attraction to inanimate objects), hetero-aligned identities, or instead believe that they're not LGBTQ+ (besides fully hetero identities), or instead believe in harmful stereotypes (ex: all gay men are feminine, trans women are just cis men trying to attack women, non-binary individuals should all be androgynous, etc.)

* [[Aplatonic]]([[Aplatonic Spectrum|-spectrum]]), [[Aqueerplatonic|aqueerplatonic]]([[Aqueerplatonic Spectrum|-spectrum]]), [[Loveless Romantic|loveless romantics]], [[Loveless Aromantic|loveless aromantics]], etc. individuals

* Interaction stances that are not -favorable, including [[Friendship Stances|friendships]] and [[Touch Stances|touch stances]], or vice versa

* Ace/Aro positivity

* Transgender, intersex, non-binary, genderqueer, xenogender, neurogender, aesthetigender, etc., multi-spec lesbian, or [[lesboy]] identities

* Gender non-conforming men/women/non-binary folks, [[Drag Performers|drag artists]] (queens, kings, monarchs/queers, things), or instead believe that only men should do drag

* Polyamorous, ambiamorous, queerplatonic/alterous relationships, or any other non-monogamous relationship identities (or even hating on someone for being monogamous

* [[Microlabel|Microlabels]] or the use of multiple, or lack of, labels

* Neopronouns, xenopronouns, using no pronouns, men who don't use he/him pronouns, women who don't use she/her pronouns, non-binary folks who don't use they/them pronouns, [[Name Non-Conforming|name non-conforming]] identities (including not identifying with any name), etc.

* LGBTQ+ folks who are straight-passing, monogamous-passing, masculine men(-aligned) who are LGBTQ+, feminine women(-aligned) who are LGBTQ+, etc., or instead believe that pronouns equal gender

* AAVE words (African American Vernacular English), or think that they’re just “Gen Z slang”, or instead using them if you're racist or ignorant to black culture and issues

* Climate change or global warming

* Those into anime, kpop, jpop, etc., especially hating on groups like BTS and Vocaloid for no reason

* Religious folks, agnostic folks, or atheists (the “don’t believe” part doesn’t count here as anyone can have different beliefs /nm)

* Pacifism, anarcho-pacifism, etc. (the “don’t believe” part doesn’t count here either, just don’t be a jerk about it /nm)

* Kink pride at pride (''not'' to be confused with sex and nudity /srs)

* Cops at pride

* Children at pride or instead believe that they're "too young" to figure themselves out

* Age regressors and/or species regressors, littlespace

* Furries, or instead believe that they are zoophiles or into beastality

* Artists, entrepreneurs, etc, or instead believe that they are not real jobs or should get "real" jobs

* Alterhumans/otherkin/etc identities

* Systems/plurals/medians, endogenic/non-traugmetic systems, [[System-Partnership|system-partnerships]], or instead treat members/headmates/alters, or even fictives, factives, or introjects like they are not real individuals

* Vaccines or masks, therapy, mental health, basically anti-primitivism

* ''All'' pedophiles (please say ''child molesters'' instead, pedophile is not the right word you’re thinking of /nm)

* NSFW ageplay (it’s '''not''' child molesting if they’re consenting adults /vsrs)

* Certain triggers or putting down trigger warnings or tone tags, including trigger warnings about mental issues such as autism, or lacking/refusing to put warnings overall (please do not block us for disagreeing with a rule. We find the rule of not TWing mental issues very unjustifiable for those who genuinely have trauma and flashbacks regarding the topic but also respect those who are neurodivergent at the same time. This is coming from both an autistic individual and from many neurodivergent individuals in our system. /vsrs)

* Those who don’t like or use social media for many reasons (ex: to avoid drama)

* Vegans or vegetarians

* School drop outs in general

* Adults who cry or like child-like or teen-like things

* Geminis, Scorpios, or any other zodiac sign and think that they’re all toxic, liars, cheaters, etc. That or instead believing that specific traits apply to all Cancers, Leos, or whatever else zodiac sign (we’re not ''all'' the same, please stop /vsrs /vu). The same goes for types based off of sites like 16personalities

* The idea of DNI lists in general

=== If you support or are a part of: ===

* Exclusionary groups (ex: TERFS/Radfems, SWERFS, ace/aro-spec exclusionists, transmedicalists/truscum, anti-MOGAI, "battle axe bi", "longsword lesbian", pluralphobe, sysmedicalists, etc.)

* Believing that certain non-harmful LGBTQ+ terms are "weird", "an excuse", "fake", or "looking for attention" (ex: believing that autosexual/autoromantic is narcissism)

* Not believing or gatekeeping non-harmful users of harmful originated terms or terms that were not supposed to be problematic ('''[[Queer|queer]]''' as a reclaimed term, an '''anime/[[Animatesexual|animatesexual]]''' who is genuinely ace-spec and attracted to anime characters, a cis user identifying as [[Ceterosexual|ceterosexual]], '''pangender''' individuals who identify as a vast/infinite/all genders ''only'' in one's culture etc.) Similarly, calling users or labels homophobic, racist, sexist, intersexist, etc. when there is no proof, or using reclaimed slurs that you have no right to use.

* Gatekeeping those who identify as womxn from using womxn, or speaking for all women to use or not use “womxn”

* Gatekeeping those who do conform to LGBTQ+ stereotypes, or gatekeeping things such as aesthetic pride boards, all to "prevent promoting stereotypes" (why /vneg)

* Purposefully misgendering or deadnaming someone, ''even'' when they're problematic or make you upset (it's so childish and disappointing /vneg)

* Believing that someone is transphobic if they don't prefer dating or having sex with trans folk but they respect and support trans folk at the same time (not all reasons are transphobic - and I'm transmasc /vsrs)

* Fetishizing or infantilizing others based off of their race, ethnicity, being transgender, being non-binary, being gender non-conforming, or sex characteristics, or seeing us as (sexual) objects or entertainment

* Fatophobia/fat shaming, or any other kind of body shaming

* Toxic masculinity, '''including''' making fun of small p/nises (e), or think that size matters (it doesn't, stfu. /neg)

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|Stop making small penis jokes. Stop making fun of small penises in general. It just ties to toxic masculinity, and it is interphobic because some folks are born with micropenises, and transphobic because some trans folk prefer having small penises. ''Real'' feminists don't body shame. /vsrs /neg

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* Donald Trump and/or his ideologies or any other far-right or far-conservative ideologies

* Shane Dawson, Snowy Joe, Keemstar, Sia, or anyone similar (the “a part of” doesn’t count here because you can still enjoy their stuff while not supporting them /g)

* Anti-feminism, sexism, cissexism, catcalling, anti-abortion, slut-shaming, touching without their permission, sexual assault (SA), rape, blaming any rape/SA victims for being raped/SA, manipulating others or attempting/intending to "fix" others through sex and/or BDSM (if this is you, you are a horrible piece of sh*t. I should '''not''' have to write this /vneg), etc.

* Use the term "snowfl/ke (a)" to describe someone negatively

* Tradwives who believes that every woman(-aligned) should also be one and submit to their partners

* “Feminism" while getting angry/mock/disliking women(-aligned) and womxn who like doing things deemed as feminine

* Anti-shippers, fandom-police, etc. or just gatekeeping/harassing ships in general. Yes, I said it. '''It's fiction.''' This is disgusting.

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|A cishet liking BL or LGBTQ+ stories or ships doesn't automatically mean that they're fetishizing gay men. Boyfriends and Heartstopper are wholesome pieces of art. Just because someone started being supportive or figured out that they're LGBTQ+ through fictional works doesn't mean that they're terrible. Y'all need to stop being so freaking hateful about the art styles and what these characters wear or whatever. Not only that, but it's extremely similar to homophobia and transphobia - you know, things that '''we''' struggle with!

Unless someone is shipping ''real'' individuals without considering their feelings, unless someone believes that gay men or anyone LGBTQ+ are just entertainment or sexual objects, unless the creator specifically states to not ship their character(s) in a way, or unless their intentions was to be problematic or queerphobic, then just look away and go look at stuff that you like.

Stop going around and hating on others' work or threaten them to go through some horrible sh*t just so "they'll understand". '''Stop. You're not heroes.''' /vsrs /vneg

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* Believing that ''all'' representation doesn’t matter at all in fiction

* Racism, xenophobia, using racial slurs against others, comparing a race to viruses, using AAVE words or any other language on someone just because of their race, asking questions based off of stereotypes or assume that everyone of that race know each other, etc.

* “All Lives Matter”, "White Lives Matter", and/or "Blue Lives Matter" instead of “Black Lives Matter”

* Cultural appropriation if you're ignorant or unknowledgeable to others' issues and cultures, or find them "trendy", or if you force your opinions on cultural appropriation down everyone's throats, especially if they are mixed

* Ableism towards any mental illnesses/disorders/disabilities, believing they need a cure, faking it, exaggerating, believing they need a professional diagnosis, etc. Demonizing paraphilic disorders, anger disorders, and narcissistic personality disorders also count because they can’t control how they feel

* Seeing paraphilic disorders or incest as LGBTQ+

* Against incest when it's '''fictional''' or when it's not blood-related

* Shaming picky eaters, eating disorders, etc.

* Disregarding the fact that not all autistic individuals are comfortable seeing their autism as a disability/disorder/syndrome (many hate their autism being labeled as such, including I), or if you believe that it is caused by vaccines

* Blaming those with swear words or other offensive gestures as tics for having those tics, or assuming that offensive things said by an individual with tics are an accurate reflection of themself/true opinions.

* Purposely being rude or traumatizing others and using your trauma, neurodivergency, and/or disabilities as an excuse (''no.'' /vneg)

* Pretending to have any neurodivergencey or disability for attention/money

* Believing that suicide, or getting help is selfish, or that suicidal folks are just attention-seeking (stay away if this is you /vsrs)

* Hating on ''all'' men(-aligned), white folks, cis or hetero individuals (or both), singlets, abled, thin/slim folks, and/or neurotypicals, or use any slurs against them (this is '''not''' feminism. That's just being an a**hole /vsrs)

* “Cringe culture”, watch or make "cringe" or "unfunny" videos/compilations for fun, or use the word “cringe” to describe others or things a lot (using it in a reclaiming way doesn’t count)

* Extreme music-purists (hating on those who use autotune, accusing many singers for lip-singing, etc.)

* Pro-gun, pro-violence, riots, support the death penalty, support domestic abuse, child abuse, and/or animal abuse, etc.

* Parents hitting or “tapping” their children or pets in any way or fashion for “discipline” ('''why?''' And it’s scientifically stated that it doesn’t work! /vsrs /neg)

* Giving death threats, suicide-baiting, or otherwise cyberbullying towards anyone, even to those who are problematic or may seem “problematic” but really aren't (Seriously. '''Stop.''' /vsrs /vneg)

* Kinkshaming, especially on those who're into BDSM, or have obscure or "weirder" fetishes, or telling them that it's "cancerous" because of their kinks/fetishes/coping mechanisms, or if you’re one of those folks who post opinions, surveys, or polls about hating or disliking a fetish, especially if it’s solely just to let the world know (no one freaking said that you have to '' like'' any of them -_- /srs)

* Participating in MAP, pedophilic/grooming, zoophilic, "pedosexual", etc. behaviors on ''real'' children, animals, etc. (please stop and ''seek help'' if you can. If you refuse to stop, go f**k yourself and suffer /vsrs).

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|Having paraphilic disorders and using ''other'' coping strategies ''doesn't'' count, and for those of you who would go around and shame/threaten/false report them because of their coping mechanisms such as '''fictional''' drawings or ships, or call others including me a pedo, zoophile, or whatever other term for understanding paraphilic disorders and their coping mechanisms, you are terrible and disgusting and stay the f**k away from us.

You don't have to ''like'' their fetishist drawings, ships, etc. (I don't, I'm not a fan, and plus it's illegal here in the US), but unless they're doing it in '''reality''', just leave them alone, period. /vsrs /vu

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* Making anything such as polls asking if an identity is valid or not, or about deleting a term in the beware section (it’s there for a reason /lu)

* Not giving anyone who ''accidentally'' came off as problematic and genuinely didn’t mean to a chance (instantly DNIing them, refusing to forgive them, etc.) This also counts if someone used to be problematic but is no longer problematic and has genuinely apologized. (I guess it depends on what they did, but just please recognize that the individual(s) changed for the better. Change exists /vsrs)

* Arguing over trivial things ''too'' seriously (in a non-light-hearted way) (ex: saying to a cat lover “dogs are so much better, get a dog, you’re a loser if you don’t like dogs”. And yes, taking pineapple on pizza seriously or saying "why watch it if you can just play it?" with mocking/serious intentions also counts)

* Extreme grammar policing, sentence policing, things that nobody asked for non-lightheartedly (paragraphs don’t count. Editing pages or correcting someone for using outdated terminology that is or can be potentially harmful also don’t count)

* Accusing every single company or celebrity you run into for pink capitalism or "supporting for attention", even if they are actually really supportive (please stop, it's ''really'' annoying and unfair /vsrs /neg)

* Shaming others for not going by/preferring “person” and instead “individual”, “folk”, etc.

* Shaming others for not liking horror or for looking scary, such as on Halloween

* Not understanding/refusing to understand that some individuals don't prefer to talk a lot or at all, especially with a group of strangers/acquaintances, and '''that's just the way it is.''' I'm ''so'' sorry that not everyone is an extrovert (/sarc). Don't force me to talk when I don't f**king want to - /neg /srs /pa to some extroverts

* Being highly critical of TV shows, movies, books, games, aesthetics, or trends (in a bad way), or quick to calling them bad or dumb, especially in modern times and remakes (calling out ''actual'' problematic bits such as racism, sexism, etc. doesn't count)

* Gatekeeping aesthetics and subcultures (example: gatekeeping pop-punk, gatekeeping those who are a part of punk who still like or are used to popular/fancy restaurants and/or mainstream music (such as pop), but still hold beliefs such as anti-establishment and anti-capitalism, supporting small businesses, equality, etc. This should '''not''' have to be said. /vsrs)

* “Money actually buys happiness because…” how about we just… um… not.. do that, okay?

* Being annoyed at typing quirks or stuttered text (like “I-I am s-sorry”).

* ''>>>>>>>>>>'' Believing that past actions and mistakes define who individuals are now (which is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard because it is so flawed).

* Honestly if you’re just mean, ignorant, judgmental, a troll, a manipulative liar, get overly jealous (especially for no reason), or snobby in general

* And lastly, '''excusing anything on this DNI list. And yes, calling me an SJW or the "L Slur" behind my or others' back or making sh*t-posts, including of how long this DNI list is, counts.'''