''Note: Please refer to our DNI list and do '''not''' interact if you fall under our list bulletpoints.''
== Our DNI List ==
<small>''TW For a few swears and mentions of the following: abuse, queerphobia, transphobia, gatekeeping, Trump, fetishization, paraphilia, p/dophilia (e), incest, ableism, racism, anti-shippers, climate change, “cringe”, food, animals, d//th threats (ea), s//c/de (ui, i), problematic figures, reclaimed identities, unreclaimed slur (not explicitly said)''
''CW For bold text''
I know that this list is long because it's in two parts, so I apologize in advance. However, I think that it is proper for us to put this down just to be safe and clear and after leaving the discussion pages. If any of the situations below describe you, then please ''do not interact.'' /gen /srs
- Danni (he/they/it+) - [[User:Systeroamia|Systeroamia]]
=== If you mock, don’t believe, or hate on: ===
* ''Any'' good-faith LGBTQ+ sexualities, including any [[a-spec]] identities and [[objectum]] identities (attraction to inanimate objects), hetero-aligned identities, or believe that they're not LGBTQ+, or instead believe in harmful stereotypes (ex: all gay men are feminine, trans women are just cis men trying to attack women, nonbinary individuals should all be androgynous, etc.)
* [[Aplatonic]]([[Aplatonic Spectrum|-spectrum]]), [[Aqueerplatonic|aqueerplatonic]]([[Aqueerplatonic Spectrum|-spectrum]]), [[Loveless Romantic|loveless romantics]], [[Loveless Aromantic|loveless aromantics]], etc. individuals
* Ace/Aro positivity
* Transgender, intersex, nonbinary, genderqueer, xenogender, neurogender, aesthetigender, etc., multi-spec lesbian, or [[lesboy]] identities
* Gender non-conforming men/women/nonbinary folks, [[Drag Performers|drag artists]] (queens, kings, monarchs/queers, things), or believe that only men should do drag
* Polyamorous, ambiamorous, queerplatonic/alterous relationships, or any other non-monogamous relationship identities
* [[Microlabel|Microlabels]] or the use of multiple, or lack of, labels
* Neopronouns, xenopronouns, using no pronouns, etc.
* LGBTQ+ folks who are straight-passing, monogamous-passing, masculine men(-aligned) who are LGBTQ+, feminine women(-aligned) who are LGBTQ+, etc., or believe that pronouns equal gender
* AAVE words (African American Vernacular English), or using them if you're racist or ignorant to black culture and issues
* Climate change or global warming
* Those into anime, kpop, jpop, etc., especially hating on groups like BTS and Vocaloid for no reason
* Religious folks, agnostic folks, or atheists (the “don’t believe” part doesn’t count here as anyone can have different beliefs /nm)
* Pacifism, anarcho-pacifism, etc. (the “don’t believe” part doesn’t count here either, just don’t be a jerk about it /nm)
* Kink pride at pride (''not'' to be confused with sex and nudity /srs)
* Cops at pride (looking at you, NYC staff /neg)
* Children at pride or believe that they're "too young" to figure themselves out
* Age regressors and/or species regressors, littlespace
* Furries, or believe that they are zoophiles
* Artists, entrepreneurs, etc, or believe that they are not real jobs or should get "real" jobs
* Alterhumans/otherkin/etc identities
* Systems/plurals/medians, endogenic/non-traugmetic systems, [[System-Partnership|system-partnerships]], or treat members/headmates/alters, or even fictives, factives, or introjects like they are not real individuals
* Vaccines or masks, therapy, mental health, basically anti-primitivism
* ''All'' pedophiles (please say ''child molesters'' instead, pedophile is not the right word you’re thinking of /nm)
* NSFW ageplay (it’s '''not''' child molesting if they’re consenting adults /vsrs)
* Certain triggers or putting down trigger warnings or tone tags, or lacking/refusing to put them overall
* Those who don’t like or use social media for many reasons (ex: to avoid drama)
* Vegans or vegetarians
* School drop outs
* Geminis, Scorpios, or any other zodiac sign and think that they’re all toxic, liars, cheaters, etc. That or just believing that specific traits apply to all Cancers, Leos, or whatever else zodiac sign (we’re not ''all'' the f**king same, please stop /vsrs /vu)
* Honestly, the idea of DNI lists in general
=== If you support or are a part of: ===
* Exclusionary groups (ex: TERFS/Radfems, SWERFS, ace/aro-spec exclusionists, transmedicalists, truscum, anti-MOGAI, "battle axe bi", "longsword lesbian", pluralphobe, sysmeds, etc.)
* Believing that certain non-harmful LGBTQ+ terms are "weird", "an excuse", "fake", or "looking for attention" (ex: believing that autosexual/autoromantic is narcissism)
* Not believing or gatekeeping non-harmful users of harmful originated terms or terms that were not supposed to be problematic ('''[[Queer|queer]]''' as a reclaimed term, an '''anime/[[Animatesexual|animatesexual]]''' who is genuinely ace-spec and attracted to anime characters, etc.) Similarly, calling them homophobic, racist, sexist, intersexist, etc. when there is no proof, or using reclaimed slurs that you have no right to use.
* Gatekeeping those who do conform to LGBTQ+ stereotypes, or gatekeeping things such as aesthetic pride boards, all to "prevent promoting stereotypes" (why /vneg)
* Purposefully misgendering or deadnaming someone, ''even'' when they're problematic or make you upset (it's so childish and disappointing /vneg)
* Fetishizing or infantilizing others based off of their race, ethnicity, being transgender, being non-binary, gender non-conforming, or sex characteristics, or seeing us as (sexual) objects or entertainment
* Fatophobia/fat shaming, or any other kind of body shaming
* Donald Trump and/or his ideologies or any other far-right or far-conservative ideologies
* Shane Dawson, Snowy Joe, Keemstar, Sia, or anyone similar (the “a part of” doesn’t count here because you can still enjoy their stuff while not supporting them /g)
* Anti-feminism, sexism, cissexism, catcalling, anti-abortion, slut-shaming, touching without their permission, sexual assault, etc.
* Use the term "snowfl/ke (a)" to describe someone negatively
* Tradwives who believes that every woman(-aligned) should also be one and submit to their partners
* “Feminism" while getting angry/mock/disliking women(-aligned) who like doing things deemed as feminine
* Anti-shippers, fandom-police, etc. or just gatekeeping/harassing ships in general. Yes, I said it. '''It's fiction.''' Y'all f**king disgust me.
PSA: A cishet liking BL or LGBTQ+ stories or ships doesn't mean that they're fetishizing gay men. Boyfriends and Heartstopper are wholesome pieces of art. Just because someone started being supportive of or figured out that they're LGBTQ+ through fictional works of arts doesn't mean that they're terrible. Y'all need to stop being so freaking hateful about the art styles and what these characters wear or whatever the f**k. Not only that, but it's extremely similar to homophobia and transphobia - you know, things that '''we''' struggle with!
Unless someone is shipping ''real'' individuals without considering their feelings, unless someone believes that gay men or anyone LGBTQ+ are just entertainment or sexual objects, or unless their intentions was to be problematic or queerphobic, then just look away and go look at stuff that you like. Stop going around and hating on others' work or threaten them to go through some horrible sh*t just so "they'll understand". '''Stop. You're not heroes.''' /vsrs /vneg
* Believing that ''all'' representation doesn’t matter at all in fiction
* Racism, xenophobia towards any race, using racial slurs against others, comparing a race to the virus, etc.
* “All Lives Matter”, "White Lives Matter", and/or "Blue Lives Matter" instead of “Black Lives Matter”
* Cultural appropriation if you're ignorant or unknowledgeable to others' issues and cultures, or find them "trendy", or if you force your opinions on cultural appropriation down everyone's throats, especially if they are mixed
* Ableism towards any mental illnesses/disorders/disabilities, thinking they need a cure, faking it, exaggerating, thinking they need a professional diagnosis, etc. Paraphilic disorders also count because they can’t control how they feel
* Seeing paraphilic disorders as LGBTQ+
* Seeing incest alone as LGBTQ+
* Against incest when it's '''fictional''' or when it's not blood-related
* Shaming picky eaters, eating disorders, etc.
* Autism being seen as a disorder, disability, or disease, or caused by vaccines
* Blaming those with swear words or other offensive gestures as tics for having those tics, or assuming that offensive things said by an individual with tics are an accurate reflection of themself/true opinions.
* Pretending to have any neurodivergencey or disability for attention/money
* Believing that suicide, or getting help is selfish, or that suicidal folks are just attention-seeking (stay the f**k away if this is you /vsrs)
* Hating on ''all'' men(-aligned), white folks, cishets, singlets, abled, thin/slim folks, and/or neurotypicals, or use any slurs against them such as "yt" for whites (to that one troll who thinks we're all like that, you're so wrong lol)
* “Cringe culture”, watch or make "cringe" or "unfunny" videos/compilations for fun, or use the word “cringe” to describe others or things a lot
* Extreme music-purists (hating on those who use autotune, accusing many singers for lip-singing, etc.)
* Pro-gun, pro-violence, riots, support the death penalty, support domestic abuse, child abuse, and/or animal abuse, etc.
* Parents hitting their children in any way or fashion for “discipline” ('''why?''' it gives me trauma from that stupid super Mario logan video I ran into (clearly for the far-right). And plus, it’s scientifically stated that it doesn’t work! /vsrs /neg)
* Giving death threats, suicide-baiting, or otherwise cyberbullying towards anyone, even to those who are problematic or may seem “problematic” but really aren't (Seriously. '''Stop.''' /vsrs /vneg)
* Kinkshaming or telling those that it's "cancerous" because of their kinks/fetishes/coping mechanisms
* Participating in MAP, pedophilic/grooming, zoophilic, "pedosexual", etc. behaviors on ''real'' children, animals, etc. (please stop and ''seek help''. If you refuse, go f**k yourself and I hope you suffer /vsrs).
PSA: Having paraphilic disorders and using ''other'' coping strategies ''doesn't'' count, and for those of you who would go around and shame/threaten/false report them because of their coping mechanisms such as '''fictional''' drawings or ships, or call others including me a pedo, zoophile, or whatever other term for understanding paraphilic disorders and their coping mechanisms, you are terrible and disgusting and stay the f**k away from us.
You don't have to ''like'' their fetishist drawings, ships, etc. (I don't, I'm not a fan, and plus it's illegal here in the US), but unless they're doing it in '''reality''', just leave them alone, period. /vsrs /vu
* Making anything saying if an identity is valid or about deleting a term in the beware section (it’s there for a reason /lu)
* Not giving anyone who ''accidentally'' came off as problematic and genuinely didn’t mean to a chance (instantly DNIing them, refusing to forgive them, etc.) This also counts if someone used to be problematic but is no longer problematic and has genuinely apologized. (I guess it depends on what they did, but for the love of god just please recognize that the individual(s) changed for the better. Change exists /vsrs)
* Arguing over trivial things ''too'' seriously (in a non-light-hearted way) (ex: saying to a cat lover “dogs are so much better, get a dog, you’re a loser if you don’t like dogs”. And yes, taking pineapple on pizza seriously or saying "why watch it if you can just play it?" with mocking/serious intentions also counts)
* Extreme grammar policing, sentence policing, things that nobody asked for non-lightheartedly (paragraphs don’t count. Editing pages or correcting someone for using outdated terminology that is or can be potentially harmful also don’t count)
* Accusing every single company or celebrity you run into for pink capitalism, even if they are actually really supportive (please stop, it's ''really'' annoying and unfair /vsrs /neg)
* Shaming others for not going by “person” and instead “individual”, “folk”, etc.
* Shaming others for not liking horror or for looking scary, such as on Halloween
* Honestly if you’re just mean, ignorant, a troll, a manipulative liar, or snobby in general
* And lastly, '''excusing or supporting anything on this list. And yes, calling me an SJW or the "L Slur" behind my or others' back or making sh*t-posts, including of how long this DNI list is, counts.'''
== Chat Option Text ==
Oh that's true, sorry about that! - Danni (he/they/it+)
Hello, I noticed you have coined a term on this page. Unfortunately, on-wiki pages are not acceptable sources for term coining. Could you post your term on a separate site and link to that using proper citation formatting instead please? --[[User:VoxelDraqon|VoxelDraqon]] ([[User talk:VoxelDraqon|talk]]) 10:31, September 30, 2022 (UTC)
:Oh, I had no idea that they were no longer acceptable.
:I’ll make the coining on Wakelet, although I’ve already coined the pages before. /nm - Danni (he/they/it+) [[User:Systeroamia|Systeroamia]] ([[User talk:Systeroamia|talk]]) 17:09, September 30, 2022 (UTC)
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