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===Should I come out? / How should I come out?=== |
===Should I come out? / How should I come out?=== |
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# Only come out if you are safe. If you feel like it would be unsafe in any way to come out in your current situation then do not come out. |
# Only come out if you are safe. If you feel like it would be unsafe in any way to come out in your current situation then do not come out. |
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# You can sometimes test |
# You can sometimes test an individual's potential reaction by bringing up topics of sexuality or gender with them first. This can be by bringing up LGBT+ news stories, media, or celebrities. It does not have to be in person. |
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# Take your time. You do not need to come out right away. |
# Take your time. You do not need to come out right away. |
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# You do not have to come out to everyone at once. There are some individuals who you may never come out to and that's okay. |
# You do not have to come out to everyone at once. There are some individuals who you may never come out to and that's okay. |
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# Come out to those you trust. It can be easier to start by telling friends or siblings than by telling family. Try to find those who you know are allies. If they are individuals who you don't want to come out yet, make sure the individuals you do tell know this and can keep a secret. |
# Come out to those you trust. It can be easier to start by telling friends or siblings than by telling family. Try to find those who you know are allies. If they are individuals who you don't want to come out yet, make sure the individuals you do tell know this and can keep a secret. |
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# If you are uncomfortable with talking face-to-face you can write a letter, or do it through text or email. |
# If you are uncomfortable with talking face-to-face you can write a letter, or do it through text or email. |
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# If you think it could go badly, avoid doing it before you have to spend a lot of time with the other individual, like a Christmas dinner or a long flight. |
# If you think it could go badly, avoid doing it before you have to spend a lot of time with the other individual, like a Christmas/Xmas dinner or a long flight. |
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# You don't ever have to come out if you don't want to. |
# You don't ever have to come out if you don't want to. |
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1) There might be a subtle difference that you are not understanding. |
1) There might be a subtle difference that you are not understanding. |
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2) There is no LGBTA+ hivemind. Not everyone is aware of every term that's been coined so sometimes two |
2) There is no LGBTA+ hivemind. Not everyone is aware of every term that's been coined so sometimes two folks will make terms with the same definition. |
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If you've asking which one to identify with just go with whichever one you like more, or both. |
If you've asking which one to identify with just go with whichever one you like more, or both. |
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===What's it called when I'm attracted to trans individuals?=== |
===What's it called when I'm attracted to trans individuals?=== |
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Nothing. Anyone of any sexuality can be attracted to trans |
Nothing. Anyone of any sexuality can be attracted to trans individuals because "trans" is not a gender on it's own. If you're attracted to trans men you are attracted to men. If you're attracted to trans women you are attracted to women. To claim otherwise is transphobic. |
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===What's it called when I'm attracted to non-binary individuals?=== |
===What's it called when I'm attracted to non-binary individuals?=== |
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===Am I intersex if...=== |
===Am I intersex if...=== |
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Unless the second part of that question is "I was born with a chromosomal, hormonal, gonadal, and/or genital, variation that causes my sex to not fall into the traditional classification of |
Unless the second part of that question is "I was born with a chromosomal, hormonal, gonadal, and/or genital, variation that causes my sex to not fall into the traditional classification of male or female" then the answer is no. |
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Intersex is not a gender identity. It is a physical, sex variation which is present in one's chromosomes, naturally produced hormones, gonads, genitals, or combination of those things, that you are born with. If you were not born with such a variation then you are not intersex. And no, if you go on HRT you are not intersex. No, if you have surgery you are not intersex. No, you cannot "transition to intersex". |
Intersex is not a gender identity. It is a physical, sex variation which is present in one's chromosomes, naturally produced hormones, gonads, genitals, or combination of those things, that you are born with. If you were not born with such a variation then you are not intersex. And no, if you go on HRT you are not intersex. No, if you have surgery you are not intersex. No, you cannot "transition to intersex". |
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===Can I be trans if I am [insert non-binary gender here]?=== |
===Can I be trans if I am [insert non-binary gender here]?=== |
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Yes. The definition of transgender is simply 'a gender that is not your [[AGAB|assigned gender at birth]]'. This includes non-binary genders. |
Yes. The common definition of transgender is simply 'a gender that is not your [[AGAB|assigned gender at birth]]'. This includes non-binary genders. |
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===Does [insert gender here] count as non-binary?=== |
===Does [insert gender here] count as non-binary?=== |
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[[File:Androgyne bigender.png|thumb]]I think this is best explained with an example. See the image for the visual example. |
[[File:Androgyne bigender.png|thumb]]I think this is best explained with an example. See the image for the visual example. |
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In this example I have used a simplified gender spectrum with male or masculine on one side and female or feminine on the other side. Individual A has a single androgynous gender. This gender is somewhere in between male and female, but is not one or the other. This individual is androgyne but is |
In this example I have used a simplified gender spectrum with male or masculine on one side and female or feminine on the other side. Individual A has a single androgynous gender. This gender is somewhere in between male and female, but is not one or the other. This individual is androgyne but is ''not'' bigender, because they only experience a single gender. |
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Individual B experiences two distinct and separate genders. One gender is male, the other gender is female. This individual is bigender |
Individual B experiences two distinct and separate genders. One gender is male, the other gender is female. This individual is bigender ''and'' androgyne. |
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Individual C experiences two distinct and separate genders. One gender is male, the other gender is something outside the male/masculine-female/feminine gender spectrum (possibly [[neutrois]], or another [[abinary]] gender). This individual is bigender but is |
Individual C experiences two distinct and separate genders. One gender is male, the other gender is something outside the male/masculine-female/feminine gender spectrum (possibly [[neutrois]], or another [[abinary]] gender). This individual is bigender but is ''not'' androgyne, because they're genders are not simultaneously masculine ''and'' feminine. |
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===As someone with [insert disorder/neurodivergency here], [insert neurogender here] offends me.=== |
===As someone with [insert disorder/neurodivergency here], [insert neurogender here] offends me.=== |
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Neurogenders are '''''not''''' [insert disorder here] ''as'' a gender. It is a gender ''affected'' by said disorder/neurodivergency, or only able to be understood in the context of neurodivergency. |
Neurogenders are '''''not''''' [insert disorder here] ''as'' a gender. It is a gender ''affected'' by said disorder/neurodivergency, or only able to be understood in the context of neurodivergency. |
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Not everybody with a neurodivergency identifies with a neurogender. Just because you have [insert disorder here] does ''not'' mean you are [insert neurogender here], and you are in no way being forced to identify as it. |
Not everybody with a neurodivergency identifies with a neurogender. Just because you have [insert disorder/neurodivergence here] does ''not'' mean you are [insert neurogender here], and you are in no way being forced to identify as it. |
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Neurogenders are used to say that ones experience with [insert disorder here] it ''affects'' their gender, or their experience with gender. |
Neurogenders are used to say that ones experience with [insert disorder here] it ''affects'' their gender, or their experience with gender. |
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Examples include: |
Examples include: |
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* Autism leads to individuals having trouble with neurotypical social constructs, since gender is a social construct some autistic individuals feel that being autistic influences how they experience gender. |
* Autism leads to individuals having trouble with neurotypical social constructs, since gender is a social construct some autistic individuals feel that being autistic influences how they experience gender. |
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* Someone may feel apathetic about their gender because they have a disorder that makes them feel apathetic about many things. |
* Someone may feel apathetic about their gender because they have a disorder or neurodivergence that makes them feel apathetic about many things. |
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* Someone who is unable to define their gender due to mental exhaustion caused by [insert disorder here]. |
* Someone who is unable to define their gender due to mental exhaustion caused by [insert disorder here]. |
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Whichever pronouns you feel comfortable with. |
Whichever pronouns you feel comfortable with. |
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===Can I use [insert pronouns here] if I like to be called sister/brother/daughter/son/ |
===Can I use [insert pronouns here] if I like to be called sister/brother/daughter/son/girlfriend/boyfriend/[insert gendered word here]?=== |
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Yes. |
Yes. |
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===How do I use she/they pronouns or he/they pronouns.=== |
===How do I use she/they pronouns or he/they pronouns.=== |
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She/they means they go by both she/her pronouns and by they/them pronouns. He/they means they go by both he/him pronouns and by they/them pronouns. Either use the two pronoun sets interchangeable or choose one or the other. |
She/they means they go by both she/her pronouns and by they/them pronouns. He/they means they go by both he/him pronouns and by they/them pronouns. Either use the two pronoun sets interchangeable or choose one or the other, depending on what the user prefers. |
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===How do I use [insert pronouns set here]?=== |
===How do I use [insert pronouns set here]?=== |
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*If I need a phone my friend will let me borrow [insert fourth pronoun here]. |
*If I need a phone my friend will let me borrow [insert fourth pronoun here]. |
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The last pronoun listed is the reflexive. It is used in place of the words himself, herself, or themself/themselves. |
The last pronoun listed is the reflexive. It is used in place of the words himself, herself, or themself/themselves. |
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*Alex has to drive himself/herself/themself to school. |
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*Alex has to drive aerself to school. |
*Alex has to drive aerself to school. |
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*Alex has to drive [insert last pronoun here] to school. |
*Alex has to drive [insert last pronoun here] to school. |
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