Aegosexual

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Aegosexual, previously known as autochorissexual, is a Acespec identity on the asexual spectrum that describes those who have a disconnection between themself and the subject of arousal. It has also been defined as feeling sexual attraction from a distance but having no desire to engage in sex oneself, or as feeling sexual attraction/desire only for situations that do not involve oneself. Aegosexuals may have sexual fantasies, view porn and other sexual content, or masturbate, but do not generally feel sexual attraction and typically do not desire to have sex with another person. Common aegosexual experiences include:

Enjoying and possibly getting aroused by sexual content, but not desiring a sexual relationship in real life.
Masturbating, but being neutral or repulsed by the idea of having sex with another person.
Being unsure whether one enjoys the idea of having sex with another person, as imagining the scenario to experiment is technically a fantasy, which can be enjoyed by the aegosexual person.
Perceiving someone as "hot" or sexually attractive, but not desiring sex with the person in real life. The aegosexual person may instead only fantasize about them.
Fantasizing about sex, but the aegosexual person is not involved, they are only a disembodied observer.
Fantasizing about sex, but doing so from a dissociative third-person perspective, and not from the first person.
Fantasizing about sex, but envisioning only other people, such as celebrities or fictional characters.
Fantasizing about sex, but only imagining oneself, and no other people.
Fantasizing about sex, but it involves generic, faceless people, not specific people.
Fantasizing about sex, but it is idealised and unrealistic. Adding realistic elements to the fantasy (smells, sounds, visuals, etc.) makes the idea of sex less appealing or even repulsive.

History

The term autochorisexual was coined by Dr. Anthony Bogaert, a psychologist who specializes in human sexuality, in 2012^[1]. He classified it as a paraphilia since, at the time, asexuality was considered a psychological disorder. This caused controversy with the name, with some not caring about the negative association and others choosing to reclaim the word while others chose to identify with the label "aegosexual". The term "aegosexual" was coined by Tumblr user Sugar-And-Spite, in November of 2014^[2]. The term is meant to have the same meaning as "autochorisexual", but formulated with Latin roots, making the word easier to pronounce and discarding of the orientation's original perception as a paraphilia.

Some aegosexuals were also uncomfortable with Bogaert's definition of autochorisexual, which remained the widely used definition for aegosexual. Other definitions were coined as a result, with varying takes on whether or not aegosexuals experience sexual attraction. Some of these definitions are as follows:

Liking the idea of sex, and/or enjoying sexual content, but not actually experiencing attraction or wanting to have sex with anybody.^[3]
A person who enjoys the idea of sexual relationships but does not wish to have one. (Associated with a disconnect between the person and a sexual target/fantasy)^[4]
Feeling attraction and desire only for situations that do not involve one’s self.^[5]
Someone who feels sexual attraction, but does not want to participate in sex.^[6]

Flag

The aegosexual flag is nearly identical to the asexual flag, but it possesses a triangle with an inverted order of colors. The triangle represents a "reverse" of asexuality, as aegosexuals are likely to be initially perceived as sexual people. The color associations remains the same with the asexual flag, with an extra meaning added to the grey stripe; along with demisexuals and greyasexuals, it represents the in-between of arousal.

An alternate flag was designed by an unnamed "member of the aegosexual community" on or before August 4, 2020.^[7] The color meanings are as follows: Purple represents community, likely coming from the asexual community. Gray represents the entire spectrum of asexuality. Teal represents a disconnection between the self and attraction. Black represents asexuality.

An alternate version was created on August 8, 2020 by xeno-aligned^[8] which kept the triangle symbolism but used the colors of the alternate flag.

The fourth flag was coined by Cryptocrew on February 22nd of 2021. The shades of purple represent sexuality while the black triangles represents a wall inbetween ones sexuality and themself. The grey X represents the greyasexual spectrum.

Etymology

Dr. Bogaert derived the term from the phase "autochoris", meaning "sexuality without identity".

Aego- is derived from Latin words with a- meaning "without" and ego meaning "myself", making the whole word translate to "sexual without myself".

Other Aegosexual Spaces to check out

Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/aegosexuals/

tumblr: https://aegosexual-moments.tumblr.com/

discord: https://discord.gg/jcFT8gCG

Resources

[1] ttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22576251

[2] ttp://sugar-and-spite.tumblr.com/post/101478696189/autochoris-is-a-bit-of-a-mouthful

[3] ttps://kyethekoolguy.tumblr.com/post/161589828686/sexual-and-romantic-orientation-masterpost

[4] ttps://invincible-asexual.tumblr.com/post/118611718367/a-few-more-terms

[5] ttps://web.archive.org/web/20150905123406/https://pride-flags-for-us.tumblr.com/post/128023708253/is-there-an-autochrissexual-flag/

[6] ttps://kyethekoolguy.tumblr.com/post/161589828686/sexual-and-romantic-orientation-masterpost

[7] ttps://aegosexualpride.tumblr.com/post/625536937576595456/a-member-of-the-aegosexual-community-helped

[8] ttps://xeno-aligned.tumblr.com/post/625867415855808513/a-member-of-the-aegosexual-community-helped

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