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'''Queerplatonic relationship''', or '''QPR''', is an umbrella term for any relationship that bends the rules for telling apart romantic relationships from non-romantic relationships. |
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A '''queerplatonic relationship''', also called a '''quasiplatonic relationship''', or '''quirkyplatonic relationship''' (abbreviated '''QPR''') is a form of relationship that goes beyond what is considered normal for a platonic relationship but does not fit the traditional idea of a romantic relationship. They are typically characterized by having the same or a similar level of emotional closeness and dedication as a romantic relationship. Queerplatonic relationships can look different for everyone, depending on what the people involved are comfortable with. For some a QPR could look like a close friendship, for some it could be closer to a romantic relationship, for others their ideal QPR could be similar to a friends with benefits arrangement. Activities that may be include are hand-holding, cuddling, kissing, or having sex. Some queerplatonic couples will live together or get married. |
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In some societies, hard lines are drawn between appropriate behavior for a romance vs. a friendship. For example, cultural norms might say that romantic partners are more physically affectionate or more close emotionally than friends are, as well as more likely to partner in major life activities such as buying a house or raising a child together. |
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The term queerplatonic originated in [[Aromantic Spectrum|aro-spec]] communities to describe the type of relationship many [[Aromantic|aromantics]] form or desire. However one does not have to identify as [[A-Spec|a-spec]], or as [[queer]] to be in a queerplatonic relationship. A queerplatonic relationship can be monogamous or [[polyamorous]], involving more than two people. If someone in a queerplatonic relationship experiences romantic or sexual attraction, or both, they might pursue a traditionally romantic relationship at the same time as a queerplatonic relationship. |
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Wherever those lines are blurred, that relationship can be called queerplatonic. For example, queerplatonic relationships can include friendships and ambiguously-romantic relationships that go beyond friendship norms in emotional intensity, physical affection, or other areas. Some queerplatonic partners also live together or get married. |
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People in queerplatonic relationships will refer to each other as their queerplatonic partner (QPP) or 'zucchini' a term that was originally a joke in the a-spec community about lacking a word to properly describe the term, so they could just use any word they want, like zucchini. |
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A queerplatonic relationship can be monogamous or [[polyamorous]], involving more than two people. Pursuing a queerplatonic relationship is not necessarily mutually exclusive with pursuing romantic relationships, and the term is not restricted to any identity category. |
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== Queerplatonic Attraction == |
== Queerplatonic Attraction == |
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Queerplatonic attraction is a form of emotional attraction that may be considered the queerplatonic version of a [[Romantic Attraction|crush]]. Similar terms for this experience include [[Platonic Attraction|platonic attraction]] and [[Alterous Attraction|alterous attraction]]. |
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Queerplatonic attraction is a form of [[Tertiary Attraction|tertiary attraction]] felt by some a-spec individuals. It is defined as the desire to be in a queerplatonic relationship with someone. |
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Queerplatonic can be very similar to [[Platonic Attraction|platonic attraction]] and [[Alterous Attraction|alterous attraction]]. The differences being that queerplatonic attraction is often much stronger and more intimate than purely platonic attraction, although the two may overlap. Alterous attraction is the desire for intimacy that is neither platonic or romantic, while queerplatonic is an extension of a platonic relationship. A queerplatonic crush is called a plush. |
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Someone who does not experience queerplatonic may call themself aqueerplatonic. Aqueerplatonic people may still want or have queerplatonic relationship, just not get plushes, like some a-specs do. While other aqueerplatonic people may not desire a queerplatonic relationship. They may also identify as [[nonamorous]] or [[callistic]]. |
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== History == |
== History == |
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The term queerplatonic originated among [[Asexual Spectrum|asexuals]] to describe an ambiguous category outside the strict boxes of romance and friendship.<ref>[https://theacetheist.wordpress.com/2019/03/09/a-genealogy-of-queerplatonic/ A Genealogy of Queerplatonic] |
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The first apparent usage of the term queerplatonic was in a thread called Kaz's Scribblings<ref>https://kaz.dreamwidth.org/238564.html</ref>. The term was made out of a desire to describe the aromantics form of relationships. |
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</ref> The term was first used by Meloukhia in the comment section of a 2010 Dreamwidth post.<ref>[https://kaz.dreamwidth.org/238564.html A/romanticism] |
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</ref> In 2011, Meloukhia, also known as S. E. Smith, introduced the term on Tumblr.<ref>[https://web.archive.org/web/20161023235234/http:/realsesmith.tumblr.com/post/2868581031/word-of-the-day-queerplatonic Word of the Day: Queerplatonic]</ref> |
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== Resources == |
== Resources == |
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Revision as of 18:06, 27 February 2020
Queerplatonic relationship, or QPR, is an umbrella term for any relationship that bends the rules for telling apart romantic relationships from non-romantic relationships.
In some societies, hard lines are drawn between appropriate behavior for a romance vs. a friendship. For example, cultural norms might say that romantic partners are more physically affectionate or more close emotionally than friends are, as well as more likely to partner in major life activities such as buying a house or raising a child together.
Wherever those lines are blurred, that relationship can be called queerplatonic. For example, queerplatonic relationships can include friendships and ambiguously-romantic relationships that go beyond friendship norms in emotional intensity, physical affection, or other areas. Some queerplatonic partners also live together or get married.
A queerplatonic relationship can be monogamous or polyamorous, involving more than two people. Pursuing a queerplatonic relationship is not necessarily mutually exclusive with pursuing romantic relationships, and the term is not restricted to any identity category.
Queerplatonic Attraction
Queerplatonic attraction is a form of emotional attraction that may be considered the queerplatonic version of a crush. Similar terms for this experience include platonic attraction and alterous attraction.
History
The term queerplatonic originated among asexuals to describe an ambiguous category outside the strict boxes of romance and friendship.[1] The term was first used by Meloukhia in the comment section of a 2010 Dreamwidth post.[2] In 2011, Meloukhia, also known as S. E. Smith, introduced the term on Tumblr.[3]