Paingender is a xenogender in which someone's gender causes physical and or mental pain. It can also mean when an individuals gender is affected and influenced by unwilling pain. An example of this second definition is when someone's gender changes from female to gendervoid when experiencing pain, but changes back to female when no longer experiencing pain, or their gender stays the same until experiencing pain again. This pain is accidental, and does not include self harm.
One who identifies as paingender may refer to themselves as a painboy, paingirl, or pain-nonbinary/painonbinary depending on their gender identity.
History
Paingender was coined by FANDOM user Trashwoof on December 18th, 2020, but was later realized to be somewhat problematic. The term was adjusted in meaning to be less suggesting.
Flag
The paingender flag was created by Arwen on December 19th, 2020.
- Blue represents sadness and mental pain
- Red represents physical pain
- Black represents emptiness