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    [[File:Gay out.png|thumb|141x141px|The gay out flag.]]
    [[File:Coming out flag.png|thumb|The coming out flag<ref name=":0">https://beyond-mogai-pride-flags.tumblr.com/post/656978366069669888/coming-out-pride-flag</ref>]]
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    '''Out''' or '''Out Of The Closet''' is the act of being open (to one or more individual) about ones [[queer]]/[[variant]] identity/trait. It is the opposite of being [[closeted]]. The act of opening up about ones queerness is called '''Coming Out'''.
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    [[File:M-spec out.png|thumb|141x141px|The m-spec out flag.]]
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    [[File:A-spec out.png|thumb|141x141px|The a-spec out flag.]]
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    [[File:Marginalized other out.png|thumb|140x140px|The marginalized orientation out flag.]]
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    [[File:Marginalized amorous gamous flag.png|thumb|139x139px|The marginalized relationship out flag.]]
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    [[File:Gnc-pnc flag.png|thumb|139x139px|The GNC/PNC out flag.]]
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    [[File:Trans out.png|thumb|136x136px|The trans/cisn't out flag.]]
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    [[File:Varsex out.png|thumb|134x134px|The varsex out flag.]]
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    '''Out''' or '''Out Of The Closet''' is the act of being open (to one or more individual) about ones [[queer]] identity/trait. It is the opposite of being [[closeted]]. The act of opening up about ones queerness is called '''Coming Out'''.


    Individuals do not have to "come out" if they have a conformant identity, as that is what society expects. "Coming out" about being [[cisgender]], [[straight]], [[monosexual]], [[allosexual]], [[alloromantic]], [[Monogamous|monoamorous/monogamous]], [[Pronoun Conforming|pronoun-conforming]], [[Gender-Conforming|gender-conforming]], [[cissex]], and/or [[dyadic]] can come across as offensive and mocking towards queer individuals, as coming out for someone that is queer can put them at risk for abuse/harassment/assault and in some locations can face torture/imprisonment/death.
    Individuals do not have to "come out" if they have a [[conformant]] identity, as that is what society expects. "Coming out" about being [[cisgender]], [[straight]], [[monosexual]], [[allosexual]], [[alloromantic]], [[Monogamous|monoamorous/monogamous]], [[Pronoun Conforming|pronoun-conforming]], [[Gender-Conforming|gender-conforming]], [[cissex]], and/or [[dyadic]] can come across as offensive and mocking towards queer individuals, as coming out for someone that is queer can put them at risk for abuse/harassment/assault and in some locations can face torture/imprisonment/death.


    Coming out should not be a necessary act to live authentically, as all queer identities should be normalized, however - until they are normalized - it is an act/decision that will continue to be made by queer individuals.
    Coming out should not be a necessary act to live authentically, as all queer identities should be normalized, however - until they are normalized - it is an act/decision that will continue to be made by queer individuals.
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    Some identities/experiences/traits one may have to come out about include the following:
    Some identities/experiences/traits one may have to come out about include the following:


    * Being [[gay]] ([[lesbian]]/[[vincian]]/[[gai]]), [[Multisexual|m-spec]], [[A-Spec|a-spec]], or having other marginalized attractions (such as being [[autosexual]], [[autoromantic]], [[objectum]], etc.)
    *Being [[gay]] ([[lesbian]]/[[vincian]]/[[gai]]), [[gae]], [[Multisexual|m-spec]], [[A-Spec|a-spec]], or having other marginalized attractions (such as being [[autosexual]], [[autoromantic]], [[objectum]], etc.)


    * Having a [[Tertiary Attraction|tertiary identity]]/experiencing tertiary attractions (such as having [[Queerplatonic Attraction|queerplatonic]], [[Alterous Attraction|alterous]], or other lesser-recognized attractions.)
    *Having a [[Tertiary Attraction|tertiary identity]]/experiencing tertiary attractions (such as having [[Queerplatonic Attraction|queerplatonic]], [[Alterous Attraction|alterous]], or other lesser-recognized attractions.)


    * Being [[Ethical Non-Monogamy|ethically non-monogamous (ENM)]] or having an otherwise marginalized relationship (ie: [[Casual Relationship|casual relationships]], [[Breakup-Buddies|breakup-buddies]], [[Intimaship|intimaships]], [[Wavership|waverships]], etc.)
    *Being [[Ethical Non-Monogamy|ethically non-monogamous (ENM)]] or having an otherwise marginalized relationship (ie: [[Casual Relationship|casual relationships]], [[Breakup-Buddies|breakup-buddies]], [[Intimaship|intimaships]], [[Wavership|waverships]], etc.)


    * Being [[Gender Non-Conforming|gender non-conforming (GNC)]] or [[Pronoun Non-Conforming|pronoun non-conforming (PNC)]].
    *Being [[Gender Non-Conforming|gender non-conforming (GNC)]] or [[Pronoun Non-Conforming|pronoun non-conforming (PNC)]].


    * Being [[transgender]]/[[cisn't]] ([[transfeminine]], [[transmasculine]], [[transneutral]], [[transandrogynous]], the [[Non-Binary|non-binary spectrum]], [[Xenogender|xenogenders]], etc.)
    *Being [[transgender]]/[[cisn't]] ([[transfeminine]], [[transmasculine]], [[transneutral]], [[transandrogynous]], the [[Non-Binary|non-binary spectrum]], [[Xenogender|xenogenders]], etc.)


    * Being [[intersex]]/having an intersex variation.
    *Being [[intersex]]/having an intersex variation.


    * Being [[altersex]]. This could be an altersex identity that is possible to achieve through surgery, (such as [[afabris]]) or an altersex identity that is not (yet) possible to achieve through surgery (such as [[Xenogenital|xenogenitals]].)
    *Being [[altersex]]. This could be an altersex identity that is possible to achieve through surgery, (such as [[afabris]]) or an altersex identity that is not (yet) possible to achieve through surgery (such as [[Xenogenital|xenogenitals]].)


    Non-queer identities/experiences/traits that are marginalized may also be necessary to come out as in order to be ones authentic self. This includes the following:
    Non-queer identities/experiences/traits that are marginalized may also be necessary to come out as in order to be ones authentic self. This includes the following:
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    * [[System|Plural]] folks tend to experience a lot of a lot of invalidation, backlash, and mockery and in many cases abuse/harassment due to being a system/existing. In many cases, this causes systems to have a required coming out experience in order to live authentically.
    * [[System|Plural]] folks tend to experience a lot of a lot of invalidation, backlash, and mockery and in many cases abuse/harassment due to being a system/existing. In many cases, this causes systems to have a required coming out experience in order to live authentically.


    * [[Alterhuman]] individuals tend to experience a lot of invalidation, backlash, and mockery for their internal sense of identity. In many cases, this causes alterhumans to have a required coming out experience in order to live authentically.
    * [[Alterhuman]] individuals tend to experience a lot of invalidation, backlash, and mockery for their internal sense of identity. In many cases, this causes alterhumans to have a required coming out experience in order to live authentically.


    * Individuals that age regress, species regress, age-slide, or species-slide tend to experience a lot of invalidation, backlash, and mockery due to their [[regression]], especially by those who experience impure-regression. In many cases, this causes regressors to have a required coming out experience in order to live authentically.
    *Individuals that age regress, species regress, age-slide, or species-slide tend to experience a lot of invalidation, backlash, and mockery due to their [[regression]], especially by those who experience impure-regression. In many cases, this causes regressors to have a required coming out experience in order to live authentically.


    * [[Furries]] tend to experience a lot of invalidation, backlash, and mockery due to their interests and internal sense of identity, especially for sexual furries. In many cases, this causes furries to have a required coming out experience in order to live authentically.
    * [[Furries]] tend to experience a lot of invalidation, backlash, and mockery due to their interests and internal sense of identity, especially for sexual furries. In many cases, this causes furries to have a required coming out experience in order to live authentically.
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    The identities/experiences listed above also tend to overlap with the queer community in many cases.
    The identities/experiences listed above also tend to overlap with the queer community in many cases.


    == Outing ==
    ==Outing ==
    '''Outing''' is the act of exposing someone else's queer identity to someone that they have yet to come out to. Outing is a disrespectful, unacceptable, and dangerous act as it can put the individual that was outed at risk and is betraying an individuals trust/safety.
    '''Outing''' is the act of exposing someone else's queer identity to someone that they have yet to come out to. Outing is a disrespectful, unacceptable, and dangerous act as it can put the individual that was outed at risk and is betraying an individuals trust/safety.


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    If someone tells one about their queer identity/experience, the individual told should not share it with anyone else without the queer individual's clear consent/permission, and should ask about the limitations of who is and is not allowed to know.
    If someone tells one about their queer identity/experience, the individual told should not share it with anyone else without the queer individual's clear consent/permission, and should ask about the limitations of who is and is not allowed to know.


    == Flags ==
    ==Flags==
    The flags were coined by [[User:Cryptocrew|Cryptocrew]], specifically by their headmates Anderson and Alex, on October 4th of 2021.
    The flags were coined by [[User:Cryptocrew|Cryptocrew]], specifically by their headmates Anderson and Alex, on October 4th of 2021.


    The general coming out pride flag was designed by Arco-Pluris via Tumblr blog Beyond [[MOGAI]] Pride Flags on July 17, 2021.<ref name=":0" />
    For the gay (lesbian/vincian/gai) out flag, the rainbow represents gayness in general, the white represents non-binary and/or PNC/GNC gays (lesbians/vincians/gais/etc), dark pink represents female-aligned and feminine-aligned vincians, light pink represents m-spec vincians, dark blue represents male-aligned and masculine-aligned lesbians, and light blue represents m-spec lesbians. The circle represents the world and how being gay should be accepted everywhere.


    For the out m-spec ([[Bisexual|bi]]/[[Binsexual|bin]]/[[Pansexual|pan]]/[[Omnisexual|omni]]/[[Abrosexual|abro]]/etc) out flag, black represents m-specs that are genderblind, green represents m-specs that recognize gender, pale gold represents those attracted to xenogenders, brown represents those that are attracted to [[Anthrogender|anthrogenders]], white represents non-binary and/or PNC/GNC m-specs, blue represents those that are attracted to male-aligned/masculine-aligned genders, pink represents those that are attracted to female-aligned/feminine-aligned genders, pale purple represents those that are attracted to neutral-aligned/androgynous-aligned genders, and purple represents those that are both gay and m-spec. The circle represents the world and how being m-spec should be accepted everywhere.
    For the gay (lesbian/vincian/[[gai]]) out flag, the rainbow represents gayness in general, the white represents non-binary and/or PNC/GNC gays (lesbians/vincians/gais/etc), dark pink represents female-aligned and feminine-aligned vincians, light pink represents m-spec vincians, dark blue represents male-aligned and masculine-aligned lesbians, and light blue represents m-spec lesbians. The circle represents the world and how being gay should be accepted everywhere.

    For the out m-spec ([[Bisexual|bi]]/[[Binsexual|bin]]/[[Pansexual|pan]]/[[Omnisexual|omni]]/[[Abrosexual|abro]]/etc) out flag, black represents m-specs that are genderblind, green represents m-specs that recognize gender, pale gold represents those attracted to xenogenders, brown represents those that are attracted to [[Anthrogender|anthrogenders]], white represents non-binary and/or PNC/GNC m-specs, blue represents those that are attracted to [[Helian|male-aligned]]/[[Phoebian|masculine-aligned]] genders, pink represents those that are attracted to [[Selenian|female-aligned]]/[[Artemian|feminine-aligned]] genders, pale purple represents those that are attracted to [[Stellarian|neutral-aligned]]/[[Liaspec|androgynous-aligned]] genders, and purple represents those that are both gay and m-spec. The circle represents the world and how being m-spec should be accepted everywhere.


    For the a-spec ([[Asexual|ace]]/[[Greysexual|greyace]]/[[Aromantic|aro]]/[[Greyromantic|greyro]]/etc) out flag, dark purple represents [[Asexual Spectrum|ace-spec]] individuals lacking full [[Sexual Attraction|sexual attraction]], light purple represents ace-spec individuals that do not lack full sexual attraction, white represents non-binary and/or PNC/GNC a-specs, grey represents [[Aromantic Spectrum|aro-specs]] that enjoy romantic intimacy, black represents ace-specs that enjoy sexual intimacy, light green represents aro-spec individuals that do not lack full [[Romantic Attraction|romantic attraction]], and dark green represents aro-spec individuals lacking full romantic attraction. The circle represents the world and how being a-spec should be accepted everywhere.
    For the a-spec ([[Asexual|ace]]/[[Greysexual|greyace]]/[[Aromantic|aro]]/[[Greyromantic|greyro]]/etc) out flag, dark purple represents [[Asexual Spectrum|ace-spec]] individuals lacking full [[Sexual Attraction|sexual attraction]], light purple represents ace-spec individuals that do not lack full sexual attraction, white represents non-binary and/or PNC/GNC a-specs, grey represents [[Aromantic Spectrum|aro-specs]] that enjoy romantic intimacy, black represents ace-specs that enjoy sexual intimacy, light green represents aro-spec individuals that do not lack full [[Romantic Attraction|romantic attraction]], and dark green represents aro-spec individuals lacking full romantic attraction. The circle represents the world and how being a-spec should be accepted everywhere.


    For the marginalized orientation (tertiary identities/auto-spec identities/objectum identities/etc) out flag, light yellow represents tertiary attraction, dark yellow represents objectum attraction, green represents marginalized romantic orientations, purple represents marginalized sexual orientations, pink represents autosexual/autoromantic individuals, red represents objectum individuals, white represents non-binary and/or PNC/GNC individuals with marginalized orientations, and the rainbow represents queerness in general. The circle represents the world and how having a marginalized orientations should be accepted everywhere.
    For the marginalized [[orientation]] ([[Tertiary Attraction|tertiary]] identities/[[Auto Spectrum|auto-spec]] identities/[[objectum]] identities/etc) out flag, light yellow represents tertiary attraction, dark yellow represents objectum attraction, green represents marginalized romantic orientations, purple represents marginalized sexual orientations, pink represents autosexual/autoromantic individuals, red represents objectum individuals, white represents non-binary and/or PNC/GNC individuals with marginalized orientations, and the rainbow represents queerness in general. The circle represents the world and how having a marginalized orientations should be accepted everywhere.


    For the marginalized relationships (ENM/waverships/intimaships/casual relationships/breakup-buddies/etc) out flag, blue, red, and black represent ethical non-monogamy, white represents non-binary and/or PNC/GNC individuals with marginalized relationships as well as waverships/fluid relationships, pink represents relationships that are platonic-related (such as breakup-buddies and casual relationships), and purple represents relationships that are sex-related (such as intimaships.) The circle represents the world and how having a marginalized relationships should be accepted everywhere.
    For the marginalized relationships (ENM/[[Wavership|waverships]]/[[Intimaship|intimaships]]/[[Casual Relationship|casual relationships]]/breakup-buddies/etc) out flag, blue, red, and black represent ethical non-monogamy, white represents non-binary and/or PNC/GNC individuals with marginalized relationships as well as waverships/fluid relationships, pink represents relationships that are [[platonic]]-related (such as breakup-buddies and casual relationships), and purple represents relationships that are sex-related (such as intimaships.) The circle represents the world and how having a marginalized relationships should be accepted everywhere.


    For the GNC/PNC out flag, blue represents feminine-aligned/female-aligned individuals who use he/him or present [[Masculine|masculinely]]. pink represents masculine-aligned/male-aligned individuals who use she/her or present [[Feminine|femininely]], purple represents non-binary individuals who use binary-associated pronouns or present masculinely/femininely, white represents open expression/acceptance, mint green represents using [[neopronouns]] or binary-related individuals who present [[Androgynous|androgynously]]/[[Neutral|neutrally]], orange represents having [[Pronounfluid|fluid pronouns]] or [[Expression Fluid|fluid presentatio]]<nowiki/>n, and red represents using [[Nullpronominal|no pronouns]] or having [[xenine]] presentation. The circle represents the world and how being GNC/PNC should be accepted everywhere.
    For the GNC/PNC out flag, blue represents feminine-aligned/female-aligned individuals who use he/him or present [[Masculine|masculinely]]. pink represents masculine-aligned/male-aligned individuals who use she/her or present [[Feminine|femininely]], purple represents non-binary individuals who use binary-associated pronouns or present masculinely/femininely, white represents open expression/acceptance, mint green represents using [[neopronouns]] or binary-related individuals who present [[Androgynous|androgynously]]/[[Neutral|neutrally]], orange represents having [[Pronounfluid|fluid pronouns]] or [[Expression Fluid|fluid presentation]], and red represents using [[Nullpronominal|no pronouns]] or having [[xenine]] presentation. The circle represents the world and how being GNC/PNC should be accepted everywhere.


    For the trans/cisn't out flag, dark blue represents trans-men, light blue represents transmasculine individuals, purple represents transandrogynous individuals, orange represents xenogender individuals, light pink represents transfeminine individuals, dark pink represents trans-women, white represents genderfluid/multigender individuals and PNC/GNC cisn't individuals, light green represents being on the [[Agender Spectrum|agender/genderless spectrum]], and dark green represents being transneutral. The circle represents the world and how being trans should be accepted everywhere.
    For the trans/cisn't out flag, dark blue represents trans-men, light blue represents transmasculine individuals, purple represents transandrogynous individuals, orange represents xenogender individuals, light pink represents transfeminine individuals, dark pink represents trans-women, white represents genderfluid/multigender individuals and PNC/GNC cisn't individuals, light green represents being on the [[Agender Spectrum|agender/genderless spectrum]], and dark green represents being transneutral. The circle represents the world and how being trans should be accepted everywhere.
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    For the [[varsex]] out flag, orange represents medically-possible altersex identities, light purple represents being [[transsex]], mint green represents altersex identities that are not yet medically possible, white represents non-binary and/or GNC/PNC varsex individuals, and yellow and dark purple represent being intersex. The circle represents the world and how being varsex should be accepted everywhere.
    For the [[varsex]] out flag, orange represents medically-possible altersex identities, light purple represents being [[transsex]], mint green represents altersex identities that are not yet medically possible, white represents non-binary and/or GNC/PNC varsex individuals, and yellow and dark purple represent being intersex. The circle represents the world and how being varsex should be accepted everywhere.


    <gallery mode="nolines" widths="110" heights="100" class="center">
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    File:M-spec out.png|The m-spec out flag.
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    File:A-spec out.png|The a-spec out flag.
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    File:Marginalized other out.png|The marginalized orientation out flag.
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    File:Marginalized amorous gamous flag.png|The marginalized relationship out flag.
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    File:Gnc-pnc flag.png|The GNC/PNC out flag.
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    File:Trans out.png|The trans/cisn't out flag.
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    File:Varsex out.png|The varsex out flag.
    </gallery>

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