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 '''Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)''' is an [[Umbrella Term|umbrella term]] for relationships involving more than two people who all give informed consent. It has been historically recorded to be much more common than society likes to admit.
+These relationships do not have to be [[Romantic Attraction|romantic]] or [[Sexual Attraction|sexual]], as it can be based off of [[Tertiary Attraction|tertiary attraction]] as well. [[Polyamorous|Polyamory]] and [[polygamy]] are the two most known terms under this umbrella.
-== Approaches to non-monogamy ==
+== ENM relationships ==
-* [[Solo Polyamory]]
+There are many ways one may function in an ENM relationship. This can include anything, so long as it is consensual and desires amongst all partners involved.
-*[[Autoamorous]]
-* [[Polyaffectionate]]
-* [[Polyerosous]]
-* [[Egalitarian Polyamory]]
-*[[Polyfidelity]]
-* [[Equiamorous]]/[[Group Relationship]]
-* [[Pluriad]]
-* [[Hierarchical Polyamory]]
-* [[Competitive Relationship]]
-* [[Open Relationship]]
-* [[Swinging]]
-*[[DADT Polyamory]]
-* [[Geographically Non-Monogamy|Geographical Non-Monogamy]]
-* [[Multiamorous]]
-* [[Relationship Anarchy]]
-*[[Line Relationship]]
+This section will be covering approaches to ENM relationships, and different aspects of said relationships
-== Non-Monogamy with a specific amount of partners ==
+=== ENM Counting ===
-*[[Biamorous]]
+'''ENM Counting''' is an term used to describe all polyamorous/polygamous relationships with a specific number of partners. Terms this includes this are listed below.
-*[[Triad]]
-* [[V Polyamory]]
-* [[T Polyamory]]
-* [[Quad Polyamory]]
-* [[Full Quad]]
-* [[N Polyamory]]
-* [[Polycule]]
-* [[Relationship Hoarder]]
+* '''[[Biamorous]]''': when someone dates two people.
-== Gender-based non-monogamy ==
+* '''[[Polycule]]''': when someone dates five or more people.
+* [[Quad Polyamory|'''Quad Polyamory''']]: when there are four people dating.
+* '''[[Relationship Hoarder]]''': when someone collects partners.
+* '''[[Triad]]''': when three people are dating.
+=== ENM Structure ===
-* [[Polygyny]]
+An '''ENM Structure''' is a term used to describe a polyamorous/polygamous relationship that has a specific layout with how it functions. Terms this includes this are listed below.
-* [[Polyandry]]
-* [[Polyanthropy]]
+* '''[[Arrow Polyamory]]''': a quad relationship where one person is dating three other people, but those three people aren't intimately involved with each other.
-*[[Duogamous]]
+* '''[[Complex Quad]]''': a quad that is almost full, with one exception. Example: A, B, and C are dating, B, C, and D are dating, however A and D are not dating.
-*[[Panamorous]]
+* '''[[Double V Polyamory]]''': when two V relationships are stuck together and make a quad.
+* '''[[Full Quad]]''': when everyone in a quad is dating one another.
+* '''[[Line Relationship]]''': a relationship where as the partners get older, they add new younger partners to the group, to keep the relationship going.
+* '''[[Multiamorous]]''': when every partner in a ENM has different relationships with one another, or where there is a complex mix of polyamorous relationships.
+* '''[[N Polyamory]]''': a quad relationship where A and B are dating. C and D are dating. B and C are dating, However, C is not dating A, and B is not dating D.
+* '''[[Plus One Polyamory]]''': a quad relationship where three are in a triad, but one partner has an extra partner.
+* '''[[T Polyamory]]''': a triad where the third person involved is what keeps the first two dating. Example: A is dating B and C. If A left, B and C would break up.
+* '''[[V Polyamory]]''': when someone is dating two people, but the two people they are dating are not dating each other.
+=== ENM Functions ===
+'''ENM Functions''' is an umbrella term to describe how a polyamorous/polygamous relationship functions, the agreements partners have made on how it functions, and the general rules/acts involved.
+* '''[[Autoamorous]]''': when someone is self-partnered, and dates others too, making then polyamorous.
+* '''[[Competitive Relationship]]''': when the choices/decisions of each partner, and how much control they get in the relationship, depends on a monthly contest.
+* '''[[DADT Polyamory]]''': when a couple allows each other to have other partners, but do not want to hear or talk about their partners other relationships.
+* [[Egalitarian Polyamory|'''Egalitarian Polyamory (EP)''']]: when every partner involved has equal say in relationship-based decisions, regardless of how long they've been involved.
+* '''[[Equiamorous]]'''/'''[[Group Relationship]]'''/'''[[Polyfidelity]]''': when every partner involved has equal say ''and'' are all dating each other.
+* '''[[Geographically Non-Monogamous]]''': when a couple allows each other to have other partners when they are physically apart.
+* '''[[Hierarchical Polyamory]]''': when each partner is sorted into three groups and each group holds a different amount of say in relationship-based decisions.
+* '''[[Monogamish]]''': when a couple is usually monogamous, but sometimes allows interaction with other people.
+* '''[[Open Relationship]]''': when a couple is very intimately involved (usually married,) and allows relationships (usually sexual) with other partners.
+* '''[[Pluriad]]''': when all partners (except flings/one-night stands) are dating.
+* '''[[Polyamorish]]''': when one is in a polyamorous relationship, but has occasional exceptions of monogamous behavior.
+* '''[[Polymonoflux]]''': when someone fluctuates between monogamy and polyamory in their relationship.
+* '''[[Singleish]]''': when someone does not prioritize partners and commitment, and instead just dates whoever, while still being honest about it to those involved.
+* '''[[Solo Polyamory]]''': when someone emphasizes their own agency in relationships, and does not desire a relationship that is very partner-centric.
+* '''[[Swinging]]''': when a couple is intimately involved, and allows their partner to engage in sexual activities outside of their relationship, usually for recreational or social purposes.
+* '''[[Virtuamorous]]''': when someone has multiple online relationships, and does not desire multiple offline relationships.
+=== Attractional ENM Types ===
+* '''[[Polyaffectionate]]''': when ones polyamorous relationship is structured on tertiary attraction, such as queerplatonic, alterous, platonic, etc.
+* '''[[Polyamalterous]]''': when ones polyamorous relationship is structured on alterous attraction.
+* '''[[Polyamsensual]]''': when ones polyamorous relationship is structured on sensual attraction.
+* '''[[Polyerosous]]''': when ones polyamorous relationship is structured on sexual attraction.
+* '''[[Polyplatonic]]''': when ones polyamorous relationship is structured on platonic and/or queerplatonic attraction.
+* '''[[Polyqplatonic Relationship|Polyqplatonic]]''': when ones polyamorous relationship is structured on queerplatonic attraction.
+=== Gender-based ENM ===
+* '''[[Duogamous]]''': when someone dates two people of opposing genders (typically binary, however they can be [[abinary]] and/or [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] genders as well.)
+* '''[[Panamorous]]''': when someone dates multiple people regardless of their gender.
+* '''[[Polyandry]]''': when a [[woman]] is in a relationship/marriage with multiple [[Man|men]].
+* '''[[Polyanthropy]]''': when someone marries a mixture of men and women, or marries non-binary people.
+* '''[[Polygyny]]''': when a man is in a relationship/marriage with multiple women.
+* '''[[Polysapphic]]''': when a woman is in a relationship/marriage with multiple women.
+* '''[[Polyachillean]]''': when a man is in a relationship/marriage with multiple men.
+* '''[[Polyenbian]]''': when a non-binary/anonbinary person is in a relationship with multiple anonbinary/non-binary people.
+== Other ENM terms/identities ==
+* '''[[Agorarelatious]]''': when someone is interested in an open relationship, DADT polyamory, and/or swinging.
+* '''[[Monocortar]]''': when someone feels like they were once monogamous, but their monogamous desires were swapped to polyamorous, for whatever reason.
+* '''[[Monoflexible]]''': when someone usually seeks out monogamy, but wants to experiment with polyamory or test out polyamory due to [[questioning]].
+* '''[[Monotra]]''': when someones feels like they were once monogamous, but their monogamy was cut away from trauma, and they are now polyamorous.
+* '''[[Plurian]]''': an umbrella term for someone who experiences plural attraction, such as attraction to multiple people, or attraction to multiple genders.
+* '''[[Polyaffective]]''': when two or more people are connected through a polyamorous relationship, while not dating.
+* '''[[Polycurious]]''': when someone is questioning if they are non-monogamous.
+* '''[[Synamorous]]''': when someone desires to be in a group relationship.
 == History within the USA ==
-The [[polyamorous]] identity did not exist during the 19th century, but the early initial expression of non-monogamy had a profound influence on later poly/non-mono thinking and communities. There have been several groups of people who practiced a multiple partner relationship style in the United States in the mid-to-late 1800s, most influenced by the Nineteenth Century transcendental movement (Hutchins, 2001). Brook Farm was an “experimental free love community” (Hutchins, 2001:72) populated by “Quakers, Shakers, Mormons, and other charismatic leaders who roamed up and down the east coast preaching [a doctrine that] challenged conventional Christian doctrines of sin and human unworthiness.”
+The polyamorous identity did not exist during the 19th century, but the early initial expression of non-monogamy had a profound influence on later poly/non-mono thinking and communities. There have been several groups of people who practiced a multiple partner relationship style in the United States in the mid-to-late 1800s, most influenced by the Nineteenth Century transcendental movement (Hutchins, 2001). Brook Farm was an “experimental free love community” (Hutchins, 2001:72) populated by “Quakers, Shakers, Mormons, and other charismatic leaders who roamed up and down the east coast preaching [a doctrine that] challenged conventional Christian doctrines of sin and human unworthiness.”
 John Humphrey Noyes founded the Oneida community in 1848, in which they established a system of “complex marriage” where “each male was theoretically married to each female, and where each regarded the other as either a brother or a sister.” This rejection of monogamous marriage was intended to offer an alternative to “the monogamous relation [which] fostered exclusiveness and selfishness, and worked to counter communism.” Children similarly lived together in a communal children’s house. Parents were not permitted to show special affection to their own biological children and were mandated to treat all children of the community equally.