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[[File:Non monogamy pride flag by pride flags da6nzjo-pre.jpg|220x220px|thumb|The ENM flag.|alt=A flag with three stripes. The colors are blue, pink, and white. In the middle is an upside-down purple triangle.]]
'''Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)''' is an [[Umbrella Term|umbrella term]] for relationships involving more than two
These relationships do not have to be [[Romantic Attraction|romantic]] or [[Sexual Attraction|sexual]], as it can be based off of [[Tertiary Attraction|tertiary attraction]] as well. [[Polyamorous|Polyamory]] and [[polygamy]] are the two most known terms under this umbrella.
== ENM relationships ==
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=== ENM Counting ===
'''ENM Counting''' is
* '''[[Biamorous]]''': when someone dates two
* '''[[Polycule]]''': when someone dates five or more
* [[Quad Polyamory|'''Quad Polyamory''']]: when there are four
* '''[[Relationship
* '''[[Triad]]''': when three
=== ENM Structure ===
An '''ENM Structure''' is a term used to describe a polyamorous/polygamous relationship that has a specific layout with how it functions. Terms this includes this are listed below.
* '''[[Arrow Polyamory]]''': a quad relationship where one
* '''[[Complex Quad]]''': a quad that is almost full, with one exception. Example: A, B, and C are dating, B, C, and D are dating, however A and D are not dating.
* '''[[Double V Polyamory]]''': when two V relationships are stuck together and make a quad.
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* '''[[N Polyamory]]''': a quad relationship where A and B are dating. C and D are dating. B and C are dating, However, C is not dating A, and B is not dating D.
* '''[[Plus One Polyamory]]''': a quad relationship where three are in a triad, but one partner has an extra partner.
* '''[[T Polyamory]]''': a triad where the third
* '''[[V Polyamory]]''': when someone is dating two
=== ENM Functions ===
'''ENM Functions''' is an umbrella term to describe how a polyamorous/polygamous relationship functions, the agreements partners have made on how it functions, and the general rules/acts involved.
* '''[[Autoamorous]]''': when someone is [[self-partnered]], and dates others too, making then polyamorous.
* '''[[Competitive Relationship]]''': when the choices/decisions of each partner, and how much control they get in the relationship, depends on a monthly contest.
* '''[[DADT Polyamory]]''': when a couple allows each other to have other partners, but do not want to hear or talk about their partners other relationships.
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* '''[[Geographically Non-Monogamous]]''': when a couple allows each other to have other partners when they are physically apart.
* '''[[Hierarchical Polyamory]]''': when each partner is sorted into three groups and each group holds a different amount of say in relationship-based decisions.
* '''[[Monogamish]]''': when a couple is usually monogamous, but sometimes allows interaction with other
* '''[[Open Relationship]]''': when a couple is very intimately involved (usually married,) and allows relationships (usually sexual) with other partners.
* '''[[Pluriad]]''': when all partners (except flings/one-night stands) are dating.
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=== Gender-based ENM ===
* '''[[Duogamous]]''': when someone dates two
* '''[[Panamorous]]''': when someone dates multiple
* '''[[Polyandry]]''': when a [[woman]] is in a relationship/marriage with multiple [[Man|men]].
* '''[[Polyanthropy]]''': when someone marries a mixture of men and [[Woman|women]], or marries [[anonbinary]]/[[Non-Binary|non-binary]]
* '''[[Polygyny]]''': when a man is in a relationship/marriage with multiple women.
* '''[[Polysapphic]]''': when a woman is in a relationship/marriage with multiple women.
* '''[[Polyachillean]]''': when a man is in a relationship/marriage with multiple men.
* '''[[Polyenbian]]''': when a non-binary/anonbinary
== Other ENM terms/identities ==
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* '''[[Monoflexible]]''': when someone usually seeks out monogamy, but wants to experiment with polyamory or test out polyamory due to [[questioning]].
* '''[[Monotra]]''': when someone feels like they were once monogamous, but their monogamy was cut away from trauma, and they are now polyamorous.
* '''[[Plurian]]''': an umbrella term for someone who experiences plural attraction, such as attraction to multiple
* '''[[Polyaffective]]''': when two or more
* '''[[Polycurious]]''': when someone is questioning if they are non-monogamous.
* '''[[Synamorous]]''': when someone desires to be in a group relationship.
*'''[[Allogamous]]''': when someone desires to be in a polygamous marriage, but not be married to more than one person in that marriage.
== History within the USA ==
The polyamorous identity did not exist during the 19th century, but the early initial expression of non-monogamy had a profound influence on later poly/non-mono thinking and communities. There have been several groups of
John Humphrey Noyes founded the Oneida community in 1848, in which they established a system of “complex marriage” where “each male was theoretically married to each female, and where each regarded the other as either a brother or a sister.” This rejection of monogamous marriage was intended to offer an alternative to “the monogamous relation [which] fostered exclusiveness and selfishness, and worked to counter communism.” Children similarly lived together in a communal children’s house. Parents were not permitted to show special affection to their own biological children and were mandated to treat all children of the community equally.
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Research into non-monogamous relationships peaked in the early 1970s. By that time, the sexual revolution had popularized sexual experimentation, and the concepts of open and group marriages had gained notoriety. American culture was more sexually permissive than ever before, and the specter of AIDS had not yet destroyed the playful sense of sexual experimentation. Researchers studied those involved in “multilateral marriages,” which they defined as “three or more partners, each of whom considers him/herself to be married (or committed in a functionally analogous way) to more than one of the other partners.”
Research on swinging similarly flourished in the sexually adventurous 1960s and 1970s, documenting new trends in extra-marital/co-marital sexual involvement Studies examined swingers’ race and ethnicity, social class, education, and political perspectives. This research created a profile of a swinger as a “White, middle to upper middle class
== Flag ==
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== Resources ==
* {{Archive|Site=web|URL=https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/ethical-non-monogamy-guide}}
* {{Archive|Site=web|URL=https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/monogamy/what-is-ethical-non-monogamy/}}
* {{Archive|Site=web|URL=https://www.cbc.ca/life/culture/we-asked-4-ethically-non-monogamous-daters-what-their-terms-are-1.4817797}}
* {{Archive|Site=web|URL=https://www.salon.com/2015/06/14/10_times_in_history_when_polyamory_was_surprisingly_embraced_partner/}}
* {{Archive|Site=web|URL=https://elisabethsheff.com/2012/09/09/three-waves-of-polyamory-a-select-history-of-non-monogamy/}}
*{{Archive|Site=web|URL=https://www.deviantart.com/pride-flags/art/Non-monogamy-Pride-Flag-615858612}}
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