Distaregender is when one feels like their gender is distant, far away, hidden, buried, or generally disconnected from oneself in a way that one can't properly feel or appreciate it.
One may or may not vaguely feel their gender, or feel an unexplainable connection to a gender, but they can't feel any details or characteristics of it.
Some distaregender experiences may include:
- Feeling like one's gender is out of reach.
- Feeling like the gender is in the dark.
- Feeling a disconnection from one's gender.
- Knowing that one is feeling a gender, but being unsure of what the gender is like.
- Feeling like one's gender is hard to see.
- Feeling like there's a barrier between one and their gender.
- Feeling like one can't see or feel their gender's details.
- Feeling like one's gender is hiding from them.
- Feeling like one's gender is buried deep inside themself or their identity.
- Feeling like one's gender is obscured.
One may identify solely as distaregender, or combine it with other terms (like distaregirl)
History
Distaregender was coined on June 19, 2022 by Reddit user -Solidwater[1]
Flag
The distaregender flag consists of four horizontal stripes. They're black, blue, gray and muted yellow. The meaning is as follows:
Black represents darkness. Blue represents distance and mystery. Gray represents a 'foggy' feeling and disconnection. Muted yellow represents feelings of a gender being hidden, out of reach, etc.