Compulsory heterosexuality (often shortened to "comp het"), is the idea that heterosexuality is enforced upon people through the patriarchy, heteronormativity, and general social pressures. It originated as a lesbian-only experience, but has been expanded to include anyone of any sexual orientation.
Some common ways of experiencing compulsory heterosexuality include, but are not limited to:
- Only liking the idea of being with someone of the opposite gender, not the reality.
- Confusing a strong dependency with someone of the opposite gender for sexual attraction or romantic attraction.
- Only being attracted to unobtainable people of the opposite gender, where they are unable to like you back.
History
Compulsory heterosexuality, as a term, was first wildly recognized with Adrienne Rich's title, "Compulsory heterosexuality and lesbian existence", which came out in 1980. Since then, the term as been more used. A google doc titled "Am I a Lesbian? Master doc" has been circulating around the internet, popularizing the term more.
Controversy
A small minority of bisexuals, pansexuals, and other multisexuals see compulsory heterosexuality as bi-erasure. This is not true, as anyone is capable of experiencing compulsory heterosexuality.
References
- https://sourceful.us/doc/308/copy-of-am-i-a-lesbian-masterdoc
- https://undividedforkuleuven.com/2021/02/10/the-problem-with-comphet/
- https://transasdocorpo.org.br/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/Compulsory-heterosexuality-and-lesbian-existence-2.pdf