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A-Spec Exclusionists are individuals who believe that asexual and aromantic individuals are not or should not be part of the LGBT+ community.

This ideology is often due to the claim that the the LGBT+ community is for individuals who are "same gender attracted" (SGA). This ideology also ignores the m-spec individuals who are not attracted to their own gender (ie: a woman who likes men and agender individuals.)

Individuals who are for the inclusion of a-spec individuals are called inclusionists, and the argument between the two groups is often called "ace discourse" or simply "discourse".

A-Spec Exclusionist Ideology

Because a-spec exclusionism is fairly widespread, there are many different types of a-spec exclusionist ideology. This ranges from the belief that asexual individuals should make their own community to the belief that asexual individuals do not exist. The following list will cover the most common a-spec exclusionist beliefs.

Cishets

The word cishet was originally used by trans individuals to refer to someone who is cisgender, heterosexual, and heteroromantic. However, it was adopted by a-spec exclusionists as a dogwhistle referring to a-spec individuals. Originally, it was only used that way to mean heteroromantic asexuals or aromantic heterosexuals, but for some a-spec exclusionist it has come to mean aroace individuals, or even all a-spec individuals in general.

Some a-spec exclusionists claim to be accepting of transgender a-spec individuals and individuals who experience same-gender attraction as well as being a-spec, but a-spec exclusionists may also harass a-spec individuals regardless of their other identities.

Denial of Asexuals

Some ace-spec exclusionists will claim that asexuals do not exist, for a variety of supposed reasons. Some of the most common 'reasons' include:

"Asexuals are frustrated about being unable to find sexual partners."
"Asexuals are straight individuals who want to be 'special' or invade LGBT+ spaces."
"Asexuals are gays or lesbians who do not admit to their orientation because of internalized homophobia."
"Asexuals are children too young to experience sexual attraction."
"Asexuals are sexually repressed or have hormonal disorders/conditions."

Many claim that demisexuality and other ace-spec identities do not exist because "it's normal to not want to have sex with everyone you see", these arguments typically completely miss the point of said ace-spec identities, incorrectly equate attraction to action, or misinterpreting their own unrecognized ace-spec identity as a universal experience.

Similar claims are used against members of the aromantic spectrum. Additionally they may claim that aromantics are men unwilling to form emotional attachments and are only interested in very short-term sexual relations (like one-night stands.) They may also make fun of aromantic terminology, such as queerplatonic relationships, and aplatonic aromantics. They may claim that aromantics have no friends or do not understand friendship, which completely misunderstands the importance of platonic attraction in the aromantic community.

Some may claim that asexuality and aromanticism only act as quasi-modifiers to one's attraction, denying the existence of aromantic asexuals.

Denial of Oppression

A-spec exclusionists will often claim that asexuals are not a part of the LGBT+ community because they supposedly do not experience oppression. When presented with evidence of a-spec oppression, they may outright refuse to admit that it happened (such as trying to gaslight victims of corrective rape by claiming that said rape never occurred, or claim that the oppression experienced was in reality misdirected homophobia or misogyny.)

Demonization of Asexuals

A-spec exclusionists often go out of their way to mock, discredit, or defame asexuals. They may claim that asserting the existence of asexuality inherently sexualizes all other LGBT+ identities. Similarly, they may also claim that minors cannot identify as asexual based on the belief that asexuality is an inherently sexualized identity. They may claim that asexuals prey on young children, convincing them that they are asexual. Some exclusionists may have identified as asexual in the past before realizing that they were not asexual, and be convinced that every asexual experience is the same.

A-spec exclusionists may also claim that allosexual is a slur used against them because it groups LGBT+ individuals with straight individuals. They may also claim that the existence of the term allosexual is shaming individuals for wanting sex.

A-spec exclusionists may pose as asexuals to troll asexual forums or other ace spaces to make posts about how asexuals are superior to allosexuals and that experiencing sexual attraction supposedly makes allosexuals "dirty". When some individuals do not realize that such posts were made by trolls, their reactions may be spread in a-spec exclusionist circles as supposed "proof" of all asexuals being homophobic.

Queerphobia

There is a large amount of overlap between a-spec exclusionists and other exclusionist groups. Many a-spec exclusionist originally took part in so-called "bisexual discourse" in which they excluded bisexuals using many of the same or similar arguments. Along with biphobia, many exclusionists also gatekeep the LGBT+ community against pansexuals and non-binary individuals. A-spec exclusionists often dislike anyone who does not strictly identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender; as such, many dislike the usage of the word queer, as they believe it to be too inclusive of individuals they believe should not be part of the LGBT+ community. They may also claim that queer is a slur that should not be used at all. A-spec exclusionists may also be transmedicalists or trans-exclusionary radical feminists.

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+{{Warning}}[[File:Ewstinky.png|thumb|220x220px|The a-spec exclusionist "pride flag".|alt=]]'''A-Spec Exclusionists''' are individuals who believe that [[asexual]] and [[aromantic]] individuals are not or should not be part of the [[LGBT+]] community.
-'''Exclusionists''' are a groups of aphobes who are against the idea of [[asexual]] and [[aromantic]] people being in the LGBT+ community. This is often due to the claim that the the LGBT+ community is for people who are "same gender attracted" (SGA). People who are for the inclusion of [[A-Spec|a-spec]] people are called inclusionists and the argument between the two groups is often called "ace discourse" or simply "discourse".
+This ideology is often due to the claim that the the LGBT+ community is for individuals who are "same gender attracted" (SGA). This ideology also ignores the m-spec individuals who are ''not'' attracted to their own gender (ie: a woman who likes [[Male|men]] and [[agender]] individuals.)
-== Exclusionist Ideology ==
-Because exclusionism is fairly wide spread there are many different "levels" of exclusionist ideology. This ranges from the belief that asexual people should make their own community to claiming that asexual people do not exist. The following list will go through the beliefs held by most exclusionists.
+Individuals who are for the inclusion of [[A-Spec|a-spec]] individuals are called [[Inclusionist|inclusionists]], and the argument between the two groups is often called "ace discourse" or simply "discourse".
-=== "Cishets" ===
+==A-Spec Exclusionist Ideology ==
-The word cishet was originally used by trans people, with the implication being someone who is [[cisgender]], [[Straight|heterosexual]], and heteroromantic. However it was adopted by exclusionist as a dogwhistle meaning a-spec people. Originally it meant heteroromantic asexuals, or aromantic heteroromantics, however for some exclusionist it has come to mean [[aroace]] people or even all a-spec people. Some exclusionist claim to be fine with [[Transgender|trans]] a-spec people and people who are [[gay]] as well and a-spec, however exclusionist often harass a-spec people regardless of their other identities.
+Because a-spec exclusionism is fairly widespread, there are many different types of a-spec exclusionist ideology. This ranges from the belief that asexual individuals should make their own community to the belief that asexual individuals do not exist. The following list will cover the most common a-spec exclusionist beliefs.
-=== Denial of Asexuals ===
+===Cishets===
+The word [[cishet]] was originally used by trans individuals to refer to someone who is [[cisgender]], [[Straight|heterosexual]], and [[heteroromantic]]. However, it was adopted by a-spec exclusionists as a dogwhistle referring to a-spec individuals. Originally, it was only used that way to mean heteroromantic asexuals or aromantic heterosexuals, but for some a-spec exclusionist it has come to mean [[aroace]] individuals, or even all a-spec individuals in general.
-Some exclusionist will claim that asexuals do not exist. This can be for a variety of reasons. Some of the most common are:
-* Asexuals are virgins who are mad they can't get layed.
-* Asexuals are straight people who want to be "special" or invade LGBT+ spaces.
-* Asexuals are gay/lesbian and are have too much internalized homophobia to admit their attracted to the same sex.
-* Asexuals are children who don't feel sexual attraction because they haven't hit puberty yet.
-* Asexuals are sexually repressed or have a hormonal disorder.
-Many claim that [[Demisexual|demisexuality]] and other [[Asexual Spectrum|ace-spec]] identities don't exist because "it's normal to not want to have sex with everyone you see", completely missing the point of ace-spec identities.
+Some a-spec exclusionists claim to be accepting of [[transgender]] a-spec individuals and individuals who experience same-gender attraction as well as being a-spec, but a-spec exclusionists may also harass a-spec individuals regardless of their other identities.
-Similar claims are used against [[Aromantic Spectrum|aro-spec]] people, such as claims that aromantics are men who "just what to have one night stands and not deal with the emotional repercussions". They also frequently make fun of aromantic terminology, such as [[Queerplatonic Relationship|queerplatonic relationships]], and [[aplatonic]] aros. They will say that aromantics have no friends/don't know what friendship is.
+===Denial of Asexuals===
-Some will claim that asexual and aromantic are "modifiers" to one's attraction, denying the existence of aroace people.
+Some ace-spec exclusionists will claim that asexuals do not exist, for a variety of supposed reasons. Some of the most common 'reasons' include:
+*"Asexuals are frustrated about being unable to find sexual partners."
-=== Denial of Oppression ===
+*"Asexuals are straight individuals who want to be 'special' or invade LGBT+ spaces."
-Exclusionist will often claim that asexuals are not a part of the LGBT community because asexuals do not experience oppression. When presented with evidence of asexual oppression they will either outright refuse to admit that it happened, sometimes trying to gaslight rape victims by staying that they weren't actually raped. Or they will claim that the oppression experienced was actually misdirected homophobia or misogyny.
+* "Asexuals are gays or lesbians who do not admit to their orientation because of internalized homophobia."
+*"Asexuals are children too young to experience sexual attraction."
+*"Asexuals are sexually repressed or have hormonal disorders/conditions."
+Many claim that [[Demisexual|demisexuality]] and other ace-spec identities do not exist because "it's normal to not want to have sex with everyone you see", these arguments typically completely miss the point of said ace-spec identities, incorrectly equate attraction to action, or misinterpreting their own unrecognized ace-spec identity as a universal experience.
-=== Demonetization of Asexuals ===
-Exclusionist will go out of their way to make fun of asexuals or make them look bad. They often claim that claiming asexuality exists inherently sexualizes all other LGB identities. Similarly they often claim that minors cannot identify as asexual because it's an inherently sexualized identity. They will claim that asexuals prey on young child, convincing them that they're asexual. Some exclusionist once identitied as asexual, then realized that they weren't asexual, and they are convinced that all asexuals must be the same as them.
+Similar claims are used against members of the [[aromantic spectrum]]. Additionally they may claim that aromantics are men unwilling to form emotional attachments and are only interested in very short-term sexual relations (like one-night stands.) They may also make fun of aromantic terminology, such as [[Queerplatonic Relationship|queerplatonic relationships]], and [[aplatonic]] aromantics. They may claim that aromantics have no friends or do not understand friendship, which completely misunderstands the importance of platonic attraction in the aromantic community.
-Exclusions also will claim that [[allosexual]] is a slur used again them, because it groups LGB people with straight people. They also claim that the existence of the term allosexual is shaming people for wanting sex.
+Some may claim that asexuality and aromanticism only act as quasi-modifiers to one's attraction, denying the existence of aromantic asexuals.
-Exclusionist will often pose as asexuals, and make posts about how much they "like being ace" and how they're "glad they aren't a dirty allo, always thinking about sex". Since most people do not realize that these post were made be trolls they're often spread in exclusionist circles as "prove" of how all asexuals are actually homophobic.
-=== Queerphobia ===
+===Denial of Oppression===
+A-spec exclusionists will often claim that asexuals are not a part of the LGBT+ community because they supposedly do not experience oppression. When presented with evidence of a-spec oppression, they may outright refuse to admit that it happened (such as trying to gaslight victims of corrective rape by claiming that said rape never occurred, or claim that the oppression experienced was in reality misdirected homophobia or misogyny.)
-There is a large amount of overlap between exclusionist and other bigoted groups. Many exclusionist originally took part in "[[bisexual]] discourse" where they excluded bisexuals using many of the same or similar arguments. Along with biphobia, exclusionists also gatekeep the community against [[Pansexual|pansexuals]] and [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] people. Exclusionists often dislike anyone who is not strictly [[lesbian]], gay, bisexual, or [[transgender]] and as such many dislike the usage of the word [[queer]], as it's too inclusive of people they don't want in the community. Many claim that queer is a slur and do not want anyone to use the term. Many exclusionists are also [[Transmed|truscum]], and some are [[TERF|TERFs]].
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+===Demonization of Asexuals ===
-[[Category:Bigoted Groups]]
+A-spec exclusionists often go out of their way to mock, discredit, or defame asexuals. They may claim that asserting the existence of asexuality inherently sexualizes all other LGBT+ identities. Similarly, they may also claim that minors cannot identify as asexual based on the belief that asexuality is an inherently sexualized identity. They may claim that asexuals prey on young children, convincing them that they are asexual. Some exclusionists may have identified as asexual in the past before realizing that they were not asexual, and be convinced that every asexual experience is the same.
+A-spec exclusionists may also claim that [[allosexual]] is a slur used against them because it groups LGBT+ individuals with straight individuals. They may also claim that the existence of the term allosexual is shaming individuals for wanting sex.
+A-spec exclusionists may pose as asexuals to troll asexual forums or other ace spaces to make posts about how asexuals are superior to allosexuals and that experiencing sexual attraction supposedly makes allosexuals "dirty". When some individuals do not realize that such posts were made by trolls, their reactions may be spread in a-spec exclusionist circles as supposed "proof" of all asexuals being homophobic.
+===Queerphobia===
+There is a large amount of overlap between a-spec exclusionists and other exclusionist groups. Many a-spec exclusionist originally took part in so-called "[[bisexual]] discourse" in which they excluded bisexuals using many of the same or similar arguments. Along with biphobia, many exclusionists also gatekeep the LGBT+ community against [[Pansexual|pansexuals]] and [[Non-Binary|non-binary]] individuals. A-spec exclusionists often dislike anyone who does not strictly identify as [[lesbian]], gay, bisexual, or [[transgender]]; as such, many dislike the usage of the word [[queer]], as they believe it to be too inclusive of individuals they believe should not be part of the LGBT+ community. They may also claim that queer is a slur that should not be used at all. A-spec exclusionists may also be [[Transmed|transmedicalists]] or [[TERF|trans-exclusionary radical feminists]].
+[[Category:Exclusionist Groups]]
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+[[Category:Beware]]