Creating a Flag Advice [1712 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2020 Dec 22 Tue 2:37:39 GMT)
This is part two of my personal advice for people who want to create an LGBT+ term. This will be much more in depth than part one. Also, note that I will giving examples of flags that I personally dislike or flags that don't follow the advice I'm giving. I'm not hating on the people who made those flag, I'm just giving criticism so people can make appealing flags. Part 1: Creating a term General Guideline Flags should be clear. You should be able to make the image very small and/or stand very far away and still be able to tell exactly what's going on. The flag should be able to be printed on merchandise of various sizes. This means it shouldn't have complex details, should not have gradients, and shouldn't have several colors that are very similar to each other. One should be able to edit or recreate the flag using most digital software. This means it shouldn't have gradients or overly complex shapes. The flag should be able to be drawn by hand. This means it shouldn't have overly complex details and shapes, should not have gradients, and shouldn't have several colors that are very close to each other. Flags should be memorable. Someone should be able to accurately recreate the flag from memory. If someone can't easily be expected to do that then your flag is too complicated. Your flag should be describable. This is another test for if your flag is overly complicated or not. Someone should be able to make an exact copy of the flag using only a written description. Consider how countries have exact geometric instructions on how to recreate their flag (see South Africa for a good example). You should be able to do that with your flag. Stripes When considering the stripes the main thing to consider is how many stripes there are. When it comes to stripe number I would say that the absolute maximum number of stripes is eight. After that it just becomes way too chaotic, so only used more than eight stripes unless you have a very good reason. Generally you should be able to make the image very small and/or stand very far away and still be able to count exactly how many stripes there are. Also, don't feel like you have to do plain, horizontal stripes. There are some very good flags that do not use stripes, like the intersex flag and queer flag. If you aren't using plain stripes, remember what I said about having your flag described precisely from words only. Colors Choose multiple color. Flags that are just different shades of the same color because such flag are generally boring and forgettable. However, you should only choose a small handful of colors, each color should be meaningful and purposeful. Do not use multiple colors when one color can do the same job. For example, do not do what what to iolitian flag does. There is absolutely no reason to have 10 different shades of purple. Be careful with full stripe gradients, they can either be very eye-strain-y and very forgettable. For example, the feminine and masculine flag aren't very interesting because they're only one color and very way to many stripes. The aroflux and aceflux flags can be eye-strain-y at times. If you're doing stripe gradients only make them a small number of stripes and do not make it all shades of the same color. Do not choose colors that are all the same tone and do not choose colors that are eye-straining. Do not choose all neon colors unless you have a very good reason to do so. Do not choose all pastel colors unless you have a very good reason to do so. Do not choose all extremely dark colors unless you have a very good reason to do so. Do not put two dark colors next to each other and do not put two light colors next to each other. Just in general, do not put two colors of a similar lightness/darkness next to each other because it can be hard to tell where one color ends that the other begins. You should be able to make the image small and/or stand very far away and still tell exactly where each colors ends. The example I always think of is the amplusic flag. Notice how the blue pink seem to blur into each other, and if you blur your eyes you can't tell where one end and the other begins. That's because they are too similar to lightness. Color Meanings In will now go over common color meanings used in flag. Before I start: You do not have to choose your color meanings from this list. You can make up your own color meanings. Some of these meanings are contradictory. That is okay. Just because a flag uses a given colors that does not mean it represents all of these things all at once. Red: Plain red is a surprisingly uncommon color in pride flags, but when it is used, the meanings tend to be consistent. Passion Love Sex/Sexuality Repulsion Orange: Orange is another uncommon color in pride flags. It has no consistent meanings, so it is used for a wide variety of things. Maverique, aporagender, aliagender Multigender Uniqueness Man aligned/masculine aligned genders (not binary men) Woman aligned/feminine aligned genders (not binary women) Women (usually alongside pink) Masculine women Sensual attraction Yellow: Common uses: Nonbinary genders (in general) Abinary genders Platonic attraction Less common uses: Maverique Queerplatonic attraction (alongside pink) Intersex (alongside purple) Green: Common uses: Agender Neutral genders Aromanticism Men/masculine genders (alongside blue) Less common uses: Nonbinary genders (in general) Atrinary genders (usually closer to teal) Blue: Common uses: Men Man-aligned genders Masculinity Less common uses: Alterous attraction Opposite sex attraction The self Fluidity Water The mind Purple: Common uses: Androgyny/androgynous genders Asexuality Queerness Xenogender/Xenic Less common uses: Nonbinary genders (in general) Multisexual attraction Attraction to men and women Sapphic attraction Intersex (alongside yellow) Woman aligned/feminine aligned genders (not binary women) Feminine men Pink: Common uses: Women Woman-aligned genders Femininity Love, romance, emotion Uncommon uses: Same sex attraction Queerplatonic attraction (alongside yellow) Aesthetic attraction Brown: Brown is very uncommon color in pride flag, and I've only found a few flags where the color meaning is listed: Aporagender, aliagender Xenogender/Xenic White: Common uses: All of something or a lot of something Unity Uncommon uses: Nonbinary genders (in general) Intersex Allosexuals (from asexual flag) Fluidity Presence of something Contradiction, two opposite extremes (alongside black) Purity Grey: Grey is one of the rare colors that has a very much agreed upon meaning: Ambiguity Uncertainty Being in between Greyasexuality Partial gender Black: Common uses: Asexuality Lack of attraction Agender Lack of gender Lack of something Something unknown, hidden, or secret Uncommon uses: Contradiction, two opposite extremes (alongside white) Unaligned nonbinary Symbols I'm defining a "symbol" as something that is added on top of a flag, that is generally more intricate that the rest of the flag, and is not strictly part of the design. Symbols should be simple. Once again, you should be able to expect someone to draw a symbol by hand, even someone without artist ability. Never use a photograph on your flag as those are impossible to replicate. (Note the difference between the old and new achillean and sapphic flags. Symbols should be meaningful, but should not be overly obvious. This is a pet peeve of mine, I think if you're making a flag for a sexuality, you shouldn't put the sexuality's symbol on the flag. Examples of symbols with good meaning include: sapphic, because violets represents sapphic love; solarian, because the sun is commonly associated with masculinity. An example of symbols I don't like is orchidian, it's the agender, male, and female symbols, because it's agender attraction to men and women. If you feel it's necessary to put the gender symbols on your flag it's probably because you think the flag isn't memorable enough on it's own. You should be able to recognize the flag even without the symbol. Stuff to Avoid Here a several things and symbolisms to outright avoid when making flags. Do not use religious or culturally imagery (with an exception of identities related to that religion or culture). This seems obvious but it needs to be said. Do not use a six pointed star (ie. the Star of David). Do not use a star and crescent. Do not use a cross. A Nordic cross style flag might be okay, since I don't think most people immediately associate it with Christianity, but it might be best to avoid it. Do not make flag reminiscent of flags for real life countries or groups (once again, with an exception of identities related to that country or group). In practice this means do not make a tricolor flag with the colors being red, white, and blue. Do not make a flag with the only colors being red, black, white, and green. Do not make a flag with the only colors being green, red, and yellow; or green, red, and black. Once again, a Nordic cross might be okay, as long as the colors are different enough that it's definitely not real country's flag. If you're unsure put your flag through a reverse google image search to see if any existing flags are similar to it. Avoid upside down triangles, particular black and pink. It's a Nazi thing. I will leave this here if you want to learn more. Avoid using a single color, or a small selection of colors to represent "skin", especially if it's peach or tan because it's very white centric. I would avoid having a stripe representing "skin" just in general because it's a very weird if you think too hard about it.
Creating A Term Advice [603 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2020 Dec 22 Tue 2:37:26 GMT)
This is part one of my personal advice for people who want to create an LGBT+ term. Part 2: Creating a flag Step 1) Identify a reason for creating the term. Do not create a term just because you want to make a term. Make sure this is an experience that actually exists and needs word to describe it. Do not create something unless people are actually going to use it. Here are some reason for creating a term (I will also give an example of a term I personally coined or helped coin): You personally experience this and there isn't an existing term for it (iodic, I created to describe my relationship preferences as an aro person, which I could not accurately do before). Someone else described their experience to you and there isn't an existing term for it (finmasexual, multiple person asked if this was something that existed). This is a logic extension of an existing them (pomoimplagender, pomoimplasexual existed and there was no reason a gender version could exist). This is an umbrella term or description for a group that did not previously have a description (mesi ace/aro, technically a term already existed but it was far too ambiguous for my liking). The term is an alternative of something that already exists (only do this if there is a very good reason as to why an alterative is absolutely necessary). (triasexual, created as an alterative to ceterosexual that anyone can use, because that was not explicit with ceterosexual.) Step 2) Make sure it doesn't already have a term. Make absolute sure. Do not create a new word for something that already exists or is a simple combination of things that already exist. If you're unsure if something like this already exists then ask. Ask multiple in places and wait for a response. Do not create the term until you are absolutely sure something else doesn't already exist. Step 3) Make your definition clear. Understand the words your are using in your definition. Do not use a word in your definition when it actually doesn't mean what you actually mean. Do not make your definition rambling and incomprehensible. Just because you know what you meant doesn't mean everyone will. If you're unsure ask someone to read through to see if it makes sense to them. When asking for help make sure the person will actually critique your writing, ask for clarification, and help to make the definition more clear, don't go to someone who will just say "this is valid" at any combination of words you give them. To put it simply, if someone else cannot accurately describe the term in their own words, then the definition probably isn't clear enough. Step 4) Choose a name. Take inspiration from existing terms. Do not make the exceedingly literal, particularly for sexualities I've found that most people dislike terms were the entire definition of the word can be understood just by reading the word. Do not make it overly long. If you want to use another language do not rely on google translate. Additionally, if you want to use another language use a single word or a portmanteau of multiple words, do not use complete phrases, and definitely never use google translate for phrases. Step 5) Google search your name. For the love of g-d google search the name you choose. It's not that hard to do. You don't want to choose a name when a term of the exact same name already exists, and you definitely don't want to give your term the same name as a brand of cough syrup or something.
"I'm Questioning My Sexuality, Is There A Term For..." (Part 3) [1837 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2020 Aug 13 Thu 15:08:48 GMT)
This is the last part in a three part masterpost for people questioning their orientation. This part will cover aro-spec identities, identifying whether you're aro-spec or not, as well as tertiary forms of attraction. Part 1 Part 2 What is Romantic Attraction Romantic attraction is harder to identify than sexual attraction. This is because there are no complete, 100% signs of romantic attraction. There are things that are typically associated with romance like cuddling, hand holding, and kissing. However, some people might enjoy some or all of these things in non-romantic context, yet dislike them in romantic context. Therefore, taking a page out of linguistics, a romantic relationship is described as a relationship with romantic intent. It’s a bit of a logic loop, but that is the only way to describe it that doesn’t alienate people who are affectionate with their friends. A romantic relationship is any relationship where all participants agree to the romantic context of the relationship and inherently romantic nature to any of the actions done in the relationship. Romantic attraction, therefore, is the desire to be in such a relationship with a particular person. That said, if you dislike traditionally "romantic" stuff like kissing and cuddling it's a sign you might be aro-spec. However if you like those things that doesn't mean you can't be aro-spec. Potential Signs of Being Aro-Spec Note that these are only generalizations. Some aromantic people won't related to any of these, and some alloromantic people might related to some of them. Some of these items are contradictory. Having any of the experiences listed below is not definite proof that you’re aromantic. This just serves as possible signs that you aren't alloromantic. You’ve never had a crush on someone, or fallen in love. You’re not sure if you’ve ever had a crush on someone or fallen in love. You have trouble telling the difference between romantic and aesthetic/platonic/sexual/sensual attraction. Or you often had “crushes” on your friends. You have doubted whether crushes or love really exist, or if they’re just cultural constructs or exaggerations. You thought that having a crush on someone meant you admired them or really wanted to be their friend. You thought crushes were something you consciously decided to have, so you selected an acquaintance or celebrity to be your crush. You have never had a romantic relationship- not because you couldn’t get one, but because you just never really bothered to try, or you liked being single better. You feel left out or confused when your friends talk about romance or crushes. Your romantic partners always seem to be way more into the lovey-dovey stuff than you are. When a romantic relationship gets serious, it makes you feel cold, distant or uncomfortable. You have felt guilty about not loving your romantic partner as much as they loved you, even though you sincerely cared about them and wanted to love them back. You enjoy gestures and activities that are traditionally labeled “romantic,” but at no point during them do you actually feel attracted to whoever you’re with. You don’t enjoy gestures and activities that are traditionally labeled romantic, either because the romance aspect bothers you, or because all of them are just plain unappealing to you. You’re more excited by making a new best friend than by falling in love. You are either oblivious to other people flirting with you, or feel uncomfortable or threatened by it. You find romance boring, annoying, or upsetting when it appears in fiction, even if it’s written well. You’re not against the idea of being single forever, or even enjoy the idea. You assumed you were bisexual, pansexual, or something similar because you feel the same way towards all genders. Alternatively, you assumed you were straight because you were given no reason to assume otherwise. Aro-Spec Identities Aromantic: Not feeling any romantic attraction. Arospike: When one is usually aromantic, but occasionally feel intense romantic feelings for a short amount of time. Greyromantic: Feeling romantic attraction very rarely or weakly. Demiromantic: Only feeling attraction after you have a deep emotional connection with someone. Aroflux: When your romantic feelings fluctuate but generally stays on the aromantic spectrum. Aliquaromantic: When you only feel sexual/romantic attraction under specific circumstances. Reciproromantic: When you don’t experience romantic attraction unless you know that the other person is attracted to you first. Frayromantic: When you only experiences romantic attraction towards those you are not deeply connected with, and lose that attraction as you get to know the person. (The opposite of demi.) Lithromantic: When you experience romantic attraction but do not want it reciprocated/loose that attraction when reciprocated. Aro-jump: When one is normally alloromantic, but experiences rare, sudden, and intense spikes of total or near total aromantism for a short amount of time. Any sexuality can be combined with any aro-spec identity. As some examples: Demibiromantic: Only feeling romantic attraction after you have a deep emotional connection. This attraction can occur towards two or more genders. Gayaroflux/Gayflux: Your romantic feelings fluctuate from gay to aromantic. Greyheteroromantic: You feel romantic attraction to a different gender but only very rarely or weakly. More Aro-Spec Terms These are terms that can be used in conjuction with any of the above identites. Arovague: When someones aro-spec identity is partially or fully influenced by their neurodivergency. Amicusromantic: When one only develop sexual/romantic attraction to people they have a platonic relationship with. (Subcategory of demi.) Apresromantic: When romantic attraction only develops after another form of attraction is felt. (Subset of demi.) Caedromantic: Someone who was at one point alloromantic, but that has been cut away from them due to past trauma. Fictoromantic: Someone who only feels romantic attraction to fictional characters. (Subcategory of procul.) Proculromantic: Someone who only feels romantic attraction to people who they're sure they can never be in a relationship with, such as celebrities or fictional characters. Requiromantic: When one has limited or no romantic attraction due to emotional exhaustion. (For neurodivergant and disabled people.) For When You Can’t Classify Your Attraction Idemromantic: Someone who can categorize relationships and feelings as platonic or romantic based on outside factors, but experiences no notable internal differences between platonic and romantic feelings. Nebularomantic: Someone who cannot distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction because of being neurodivergent. Platoniromantic: Someone who is not able to distinguish between platonic and romantic feelings. Quoiromantic: Someone who can't classify there romantic feelings/is unsure of their romantic feelings/is unsure if they expirence romantic feelings, for any number of reasons. Words To Describe Your Feelings Towards Romance I Don’t Like Romance Apothiromantic or Romance-Repulsed: Someone who is repulsed or disgusted by the idea of romance or romantic acts. Romance-Averse: Someone who is repulsed by romance that involves them, but not by romance that does not. No Strong Opinion Romance-Neutral: Someone who is indifferent to romance or the idea of romance. I Like the Idea of Romance Bellusromantic: Someone who likes traditionally romantic things, such as kissing or cuddling, but does not want a romantic relationship. Cupioromantic: Someone who does not experience romantic attraction but still desires a romantic relationship. Romance-Favorable: Someone who enjoys the idea of romance, despite not feeling romantic attraction. It’s Complicated Acoromantic: Someone who experiences romantic attraction that one wants to act on, but at the same time they have a strong aversion doing so. Apathromantic: When one lacks interest in acting on their attraction. They may or may not feel attraction, but it doesn’t matter to them. Inactromantic: Someone who experiences romantic attraction and desires a romantic relationship despite being romance repulsed. Romance-Ambivalent: Having complicated or mixed feelings towards romance. Other Types of Attraction There are other types of attraction beyond just sexual and romantic attraction. These types of attraction can be modified using any sexuality terms. For example, you can be heteroqueerplatonic, meaning you only feel queerplatonic attraction to people of a different gender. You can also attach a-spec related terms to tertiary attractions. For example, you could be demipolyalterous, meaning you can feel alterous attraction to many genders, but only after you have a strong connection to someone. You can also use the a- prefix to show that you don't feel that form of attraction. For example, is you don’t feel sensual attraction you could be asensual. If you are both aro-spec and ace-spec and feel tertiary attraction you might identify as oriented aroace or angled aroace. Platonic Attraction: The strong desire to be friends with someone in particular, or to have a stronger friendship if you’re already friends. Queerplatonic Attraction: The strong desire to be in a queerplatonic relationship with someone in particular. Some people feel that platonic and queerplatonic attraction are the same, but other make the distinction between the two. Aesthetic attraction: An attraction to a particular person's appearance. It is based on a desire to observe someone because one finds them aesthetically pleasing. Sensual Attraction: The desire to be phyically intiment/phyically touch a particular person (non-sexually). Alterous Attraction: A form of attraction that is not platonic or queerplatonic, but also is not romantic. Cedural attraction: The desire to feel protected, covered, understood, tutored, and supported by someone in particular. Tutelary attraction: The desire to take care of, protect, and support a particular person. FAQ Can I be aro-spec if I feel sexual attraction? Yes, romantic and sexual attraction are completely separate. Aro-spec people can have any sexual orientation. Can I can be
"I'm Questioning My Sexuality, Is There A Term For..." (Part 2) [1458 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2020 Jul 25 Sat 16:07:59 GMT)
This is part two of three in a masterpost for people questioning their orientation. This part will cover ace-spec identities. I will also, go more in depth into identifying whether you're ace-spec or not. Part 1 Part 3 What is Sexual Attraction Sexual attraction is the desire to have sex with a specific person. Sexual attraction has nothing to do with sex drive/libido. Some (but not all) asexual people have a sex drive, however this is only the desire for sex in general. They do not have the desire to have sex with anyone in particular. Put simply, an asexual person will never look at someone and think “I want to have sex with that person.” Potential Signs of Being Ace-Spec Note that these are only generalizations. Some asexual people won't related to any of these, and some allosexual people might related to some of them. This just serves as possible signs that you aren't allosexual. You are general uninterested in sex. Or your interest in sex is more scientific than emotional. You don’t understand how people can look at someone and want to have sex with them. You don’t understand the idea of someone doing something just for sex. Why don’t they just not? If you had sex, your reaction was “meh”. You don’t understand what people were making such a bad deal about. You feel left out or confused when your friends talk about sex. On multiple occasions you have had to pretend to be sexually interested in someone because that’s what you’re “suppose” to do. You have not had sex in years, and aren’t bothered by that. Or you would be fine with the idea of never having sex again. Ace-Spec Identities Asexual: Someone who does not feel any sexual attraction. Acespike: Someone who is usually asexual, but occasionally feel intense sexual feelings for a short amount of time. Greyasexual: Someone who feels sexual attraction very rarely or weakly. Demisexual: Someone who only feels sexual attraction after they have a deep emotional connection with someone. Aceflux: Someone whose sexual feelings fluctuate but generally stays on the asexual spectrum. Aliquasexual: Someone who only feels sexual attraction under specific circumstances. Reciprosexual: Someone who doesn't experience sexual attraction unless they know that the other person is attracted to them first. Fraysexual: Someone who only experiences sexual attraction towards those they are not deeply connected with, and lose that attraction when they get to know the person. (The opposite of demisexual.) Lithosexual: Someone who experience sexual attraction but do not want it reciprocated/loose that attraction when it is reciprocated. Ace-jump: Someone who is normally allosexual, but experiences rare, and intense spikes of total or near total asexuality for a short amount of time. Ace-spec labels can be combined with any other sexuality. As some examples: Demibisexual: Only feeling attraction after you have a deep emotional connection. This attraction can occur towards two or more genders. Gayaceflux/Gayflux: Your sexual feelings fluctuate from gay to asexual. Greyheterosexual: You feel sexual attraction to a different gender but only very rarely or weakly. Any sexuality can be combined with any ace-spec identity (with the exception of purely asexual). More Ace-Spec Terms These are terms that can be used in conjuction with other the above ace-spec identites. Acevague: When someone's ace-spec identity is partially or fully influenced by their neurodivergency. Amicussexual: When someone only develops sexual attraction to people they have a platonic relationship with. (Subcategory of demisexual.) Apressexual: When sexual attraction only develops after another form of attraction is felt (platonic, romantic, etc.) (Subset of demisexual.) Caedsexual: Someone who was at one point allosexual, but that has been partly or fully cut away from their attraction due to past trauma. Fictosexual: Someone who only feels sexual attraction to fictional characters. (Subcategory of proculsexual.) Proculsexual: Someone who only feels sexual attraction to people who they're sure they can never be in a relationship with, such as celebrities or fictional characters. Requisexual: When someone has limited or no sexual attraction due to emotional exhaustion. (For neurodivergant and disabled people.) Words To Describe Your Feelings Towards Sex I Don’t Like Sex Agensexual: Genitalia repulsed asexual. May or may not also be sex repulsed. Apothisexual or Sex-Repulsed: Someone who is repulsed or disgusted by the idea of sex. Sex-Averse: Someone who is repulsed by sexual activity that involves them, but not toward sexual activity that does not. Anticarnal: Someone who feels a strong visceral reaction of disgust at the concept of sex in general. Discarnal: Someone who is opposed/disgusted by the idea of engaging in sex themselves, but is fine with sexual activity that does not involve them. No Strong Opinion Sex-Neutral or Acarnal: Someone who is indifferent to sex or the idea of sex. I Have a Sex Drive Aremsexual: Someone who has a sex drive, but usually is not attracted to other people. Autochorisexual/Aegosexual: Someone who has a disconnect between themself and the subject of arousal. They may have sexual fantasies, watch porn, or masturbate, but do not desire to have sex with another person. I Like the Idea of Sex Iamvanosexual: Someone who enjoys having sexual acts performed on them but does not want to perform sexual acts on others. Placiosexual: Someone who enjoys performing sexual acts for other people but does not want them reciprocated. Sex-Favorable or Iculasexual or Procarnal: Someone who enjoys the idea of sex, despite not feeling sexual attraction. It’s Complicated Acorsexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction that they want to act on, but at the same time they have a strong aversion doing so. Apathsexual: Someone who lacks interest in acting on their attraction. May or may not feel attraction, but it doesn’t matter to them. ARCflux: When one’s feelings about sex fluctuate. ARCsexual: Someone who feels averse, repulsed, or conflicted towards sex. Chameleosexual: When someone prefers to receive or perform sexual acts based on the gender of their partner. Eriscarnal: Sex conflicted. When there’s disconnect between one's conscious desires and one's subconscious reactions. Inactsexual: Someone who experiences sexual attraction and desires a sexual relationship despite being sex repulsed. Sex-Ambivalent: Having complicated feelings towards sex. FAQ Can I be ace-spec if I watch porn/masturbate/have a libido? Yes. Sex drive is entirely separate from sexual attraction. You can be asexual as long as you don’t experience the desire to have sex with someone specifically. Can I be ace-spec if I enjoy sex/want to have sex? Yes. You can enjoy the act of sex without being sexually attracted to someone. Some asexuals have a low sex drive, but these things are not the same. Can I be ace-spec if I have/want to have a romantic relationship? Yes, romantic attraction is entirely separate from sexual attraction. You can have or want a romantic relationship without any sexual aspects. Ace-spec people can have any romantic orientation. Can I combine demi/grey/litho/fray/etc. and
"I'm Questioning My Sexuality, Is There A Term For..." (Part 1) [2095 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2020 Jul 23 Thu 19:59:09 GMT)
This is part one of three posts for people who are questioning their sexuality. This serves as a masterpost for a large amount of sexualities, orginized mostly based on the gender(s) you're attracted to. (Parts 2 and 3 will cover a-spec identities.) A note before we start: Instead of writing out "women and women-aligned people" and "men and men-aligned people" a thousand times I wrote "women*" and "men*" in all instances to show that non-binary people are include in all these definitions unless explicitly specified otherwise. Also note that some terms say "(exclusive or not)" in this case it means that someone with that identity is definitely attracted to a certain gender(s), but they may or may not be attracted to other genders as well (what those other genders are, if any, are not specified). In addition, terms that are generally considered exclusive may have exceptions. Part 2 Part 3 Attracted to Women*, Fiaspec, Fingenders, or Femininity For Women* Lesbian: Womenexclusively attracted to women*. Sapphic: Womanattracted to women(exclusive or not) (umbrella term). For Men* Marsexual: Genderfluid boy exclusively attracted to women*. Romeric: Manattracted to women(exclusive or not) (umbrella term). For Non-Binary People Aurorasexual: Genderfluid exclusively attracted to women*. Donnasexual: Unaligned non-binary exclusively attracted to women*. Feminamoric: Non-binary exclusively attracted to women*. Robiselle: Anonbinary attracted exclusively to binary women. Trixic/Orbisian: Non-binary attracted to women(exclusively or not). Venusic: Non-binary exclusively attracted to women and women-aligned non-binary people. Xenirian: Xenic people exclusively attracted to women*. For Agender People Agenirian: Agender attracted to women(exclusively or not). Azalian: Agender attracted to women(exclusively or not). Iliosexual: Agender or abinary exclusively attracted to women*. Naneosexual: Agender exclusively attracted to women*. For Anyone Femaric: Any non-straight attraction to women(exclusive or not) (umbrella term). Finsexual: Anyone attracted to feminine people regardless of gender. Gynesexual: Anyone exclusively attracted to womenand/or femininity. Lunaric: Anyone attracted to exclusively feminine-aligned non-binary people (not including binary women). Minwomasexual: Anyone attracted only to womenwho are GNC. Proquasexual: A feminine person attracted to feminine people regardless of gender. Womasexual: Anyone exclusively attracted to women*. Attracted to Men*, Miaspec, Mingenders, or Masculinity For Men* Achillean or Vincian: Manattracted to men(exclusive or not) (umbrella term). Gay, Veldian/Turian, or : Manexclusively attracted to men*. For Women* Aphrodisexual: Genderfluid girl exclusively attracted to men*. Julietian: Womanattracted to men(exclusive or not) (umbrella term). For Non-Binary People Erwekinne: Anonbinary exclusively attracted to binary men. Marsic: Non-binary exclusively attracted to men and men-aligned people. Toric/Quadrisian: Non-binary attracted to men(exclusive or not). Uomosexual: Unaligned non-binary exclusively attracted to men. Ursasexual: Genderfluid exclusively attracted to men*. Viramoric: Non-binary exclusively attracted to men*. Xenilian: Xenic exclusively attracted to men*. For Agender People Agenilian: Agender attracted to men(exclusive or not). Fenosexual: Agender or abinary exclusively attracted to men*. Thistlian: Agender exclusively attracted to men. Yaesexual: Agender exclusively attracted to men*. For Anyone Androsexual: Anyone exclusively attracted to men*. Finmasexual: Anyone attracted to menwho are GNC. Mascic: Any non-straight attraction to men(exclusive or not) (umbrella term). Masexual: Anyone exclusively attracted to men*. Proquusexual: A masculine person attracted to masculine people regardless of gender. Solaric: Anyone exclusive attracted to masculine aligned non-binary people (not including binary men). Attracted to Non-Binary People For Non-Binary People Ceterosexual: Non-binary exclusively attracted to non-binary people. Enbian: Non-binary attraction to non-binary people (exclusively or not). Galaxsexual: Genderfluid exclusively attracted to non-binary people. Terraric: Non-binary attracted to non-binary people. Xenidian: Xenic exclusively attracted to non-binary people. Xenixian: Xenic exclusively attracted to xenic. For Agender People Agenidian: Agender attracted to non-binary people (exclusively or not). Agenixian: Agender attracted to xenic people (exclusively or not). Delphinian: Agender attracted to agender people (exclusively or not). Magnolian: Agender attracted to non-binary and agender people (exclusive or not). Wisterian: Agender attracted to non-binary people (exclusively or not). For Men* Astroidian: Manattracted to non-binary people (exclusively or not). For Women*: Asterian: Womanattracted to non-binary people (exclusively or not). For Anyone Ageninic: Anyone attracted to agender people. Ceterosexual: Anyone exclusively attracted to non-binary people. Enboric: Any attraction to non-binary people (exclusive or not) (umbrella term). Neusexual: Anyone exclusively attracted to agender and/or neutral genders. Ninsexual: Anyone attracted to gender neutral/androgynous presenting people regardless of gender. Nogarian: Anyone attracted to anonbinary (exclusively or not). Saturnic: Anyone exclusively attracted to androgynous aligned non-binary people. Stellaric: Anyone exclusively attracted to non-aligned, and androgynous non-binary people. Triasexual: Anyone exclusively attracted to non-binary people. General Attractions These terms there do not fit in the previous sections because they do not specify the gender(s) that you are attracted to. Contraic: “Opposite” gender attraction for non-binary people. Demetersexual: Genderfluid and strayt. Diamoric: Any form of non-binary attraction. Duaric: Includes all men attracted to women and all women attracted to men, exclusively or not (umbrella term). Gai: Gay but in a uniquely non-binary way. Gay: Attraction to the same/similar gender. Queer: Anyone who is not straight. Straight/Heterosexual: Attraction to a different gender. Strayt: Straight but in a uniquely non-binary way. Symmaic: “Same” gender attraction for non-binary people. Ultramoric: Anyone who experiences non-straight attraction (umbrella term). Attracted to Multiple Genders If you are bigender, multigender, or genderfluid you may be interested in our gender-loving-gender page, where there are many, many more terms. If you are anonbinary you may be interested in the anonbinary collection page. Bisexual: Anyone attracted to more the one gender (any genders). Disexual: Anyone attracted to exactly two genders (any two). Omnisexual: Anyone attracted to all genders, though gender still plays a role in the attraction. Pansexual: Anyone attracted to all genders, where gender does not play a role in attraction. Pluralian/Multisexual: Anyone who is attracted to multiple genders (umbrella term). Polysexual: Anyone attracted to many genders, but not all (any genders). Trisexual: Anyone attracted to exactly 3 genders (any three). Hexsexual: Anyone attracted to exactly 6 genders (any six). Preferences Ainic: Attracted to multiple genders but with preference for genderless people or genderless/gender neutral presentation. Ambivaic: Attracted to multiple genders and having no preference. Finic: Attracted to multiple genders but with preference for womenor a feminine gender presentation. Minic: Attracted to multiple genders but with preference for menor a masculine gender presentation. Ninic: Attracted to multiple genders but with preference for non-binary/neutral genders or an androgynous/gender neutral presentation. Nonbic: Non-cis person attracted to multiple genders but with preference for non-binary people. Xinic: Attracted to multiple genders but with preference for xenic people or a xenine gender presentation. Attracted to Menand Women* Mercuric: Anyone exclusively attracted to men, masculine-aligned non-binary, women, and feminine-aligned non-binary people. Orchidian: Agender attracted to womenand men(exclusive or not). Rochillic: Manattracted to womenand men(exclusive or not). Salietian: Womanattracted to menand women(exclusive or not). Scapolitian: Non-binary attracted to womenand men(exclusive or not). Attracted to Womenand Non-Binary People Agatic: Womanattracted to womenand non-binary people (exclusive or not). Brownitian/Ammolic/Ametrian: Non-binary attracted to womenand non-binary people (exclusive or not). Enbitrix: Non-binary exclusively attracted to women and non-binary people. Femmesexual: Anyone exclusively attracted to women, feminine non-binary people, and androgynous people. Litian: Manattracted to non-binary people and women(exclusive or not). Neptunic: Anyone attracted to women*, and non-binary people. Trixensexual: Anyone attracted exclusively to womenand non-binary people. Attracted to Menand Non-Binary People Asterosian: Manattracted to non-binary people and men(exclusive or not). Carnelian: Non-binary attracted to menand non-binary people (exclusive or not). Citrinian: Womanattracted to non-binary people and men(exclusive or not). Enbitor: Non-binary exclusively attracted to men and non-binary people. Lilacian: Agender attracted to menand non-binary people (exclusive or not). Mascusexual: Anyone exclusively attracted to men*, masculine-aligned people, and androgynous people. Uranic: Anyone exclusively attracted to menand non-binary people. Torensexual: Anyone attracted exclusively to menand non-binary people. Attracted to Men*, Women*, and Non-Binary People Dahlian: Agender attracted to men*, women*, non-binary, and agender people (exclusive or not). GNCsexual: Anyone attracted exclusively to people who are gender non-conforming. Marblic/Astronic: Manattracted to women*, men*, and non-binary people (exclusive or not). Plutaric: Anyone attracted to men, women, stellarians, and lunarians, but not solarians. Taaffeitian: Womanattracted to men*, women*, and non-binary people (exclusive or not). Versian/Jaspian: Non-binary attracted to women*, men*, and non-binary people (exclusive or not). Attracted to All Genders Except... Nofinsexual: Attraction to everyone except those who present feminine, regardless of gender. Nomasexual: Attraction to all genders except binary men. Nominsexual: Attraction to everyone except those who present masculine, regardless of gender. Noninsexual: Attraction to everyone except those who present gender neutral/androgynous, regardless of gender. Nowomasexual: Attraction to all genders except binary women. Penultisexual: Attracted to all genders except one's own. Other These are identities based on questioning, feeling unsure, having a sexuality that changes, not being able to define your sexuality, or not wanting to define your sexuality. Abrosexual: Someone whose orientation changes Comsexual: Someone who experiences attraction but can’t/doesn’t want to specify that attraction any further. Cryptosexual: Someone whose orientation cannot be defined using our current vocabulary. Implasexual: Someone who will never be satisfied with their orientation due to self-doubt. Novisexual: Attraction so complicated it is difficult or impossible to fit into one term. Novosexual: Genderfluid and abrosexual at the same time. One cannot say what their sexuality or gender is, because it is not permanent. Omnique/Omnigay: Genderfluid and abrosexual at the same time, where one's gender or sexuality changes so that one is always defined as gay or queer. Paraidemsexual: When gay/lesbian is very close to defining one’s identity, but one feels unsure or anxious about describing themself as gay/lesbian. Pomoimplasexual: Someone who feels there is currently no identity which describes their experiences, but feels like sometime in the future there might be. Pomosexual: Someone who denies or does not fit any labels of attraction. Queer: Anyone who is not straight. Sanssexual: Someone whose attraction changes randomly, subcategory of abrosexual. Xumsexual: Someone who will never be satisfied with their orientation due to self-doubt or identity issues (exclusive to neurodivergent people). FAQ I’m non-binary but I feel most comfortable identifying as
View on Gender, Non-Outherine, and Coining a New Term [1014 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2020 Jun 12 Fri 15:26:07 GMT)
Part 1: My View on Gender (Updated) Over a year ago I made a post describing my view on gender. I didn't particularly like the way I visualized it, but I couldn't think of anything better. Well, now I've thought of something better. Admittedly, it's more complicated than the version I presented before, but I feel like this version more actually describes gendered expirences. The gender pyramid.The gender pyramid as viewed from above.This view of gender takes the form of a triangluar pyramid. The top face has three points, each point representing masculinity, feminine, and neutrality/epicenity. In this case, neutrality is defined as a gender which is not related to masculinity, and feminity in any way, but is still strongly gendered in a way that still typically falls into the understanding human genders. They are genders that would be classified as abinary. You can fall somewhere in between two of these points, such as with androgyne, neutromme, and neutremme. You can also fall somewhere inbetween all three of these points, and have a gender that has elements of masculinity, femininity, and neutrality. (Not sure what this gender is called.) You can also move closer to the fourth, downard facing point of the pyramid, which shows how intensely you feel your gender. If you're on the top face you're completely gendered, but you can also move down to paragender (almost, but not completely gender), demigender (around half way gendered), and libragender (mostly genderless, but slightly a given gender). All three gender faces meet at a slight point, where there is no gender at all (agender). (Note: I didn't label para-, demi-, and libra- forms of neutromme, neutremme, and androgyne. These genders still exist, I just did it for the sake of space. Also note that the androgyne face of the pyramid in not seen at this angle.) Most people's gender can be described as a point somewhere within this pyramid. (Admittedly, I'm not sure how cooridenates would work in a non-cubical space. But that's for the math nerds to work out.) Genderfluid people have a point what moves around within the pyramid. Genderflux people have a point that moves, but only on the axis that is farther and close to agender. Multigender people have mulitple points within the pyramid. If we zoom out slightly, we'll see that the potential "gender space" extends out infinitely from the pyramid, which is where outherine genders like atrinary genders and xenogenders are found. Part 2: Non-Outherinity So in researching genders, I'm come across some genders that claim to be "not masc, fem, neutral, or outherine". Now, don't get me wrong, I fully support people describing their gender as whatever they want. But, that being said I feel like people saying their gender is not outherine don't fully understand what outherinity is. Outherinity is not a specific label- it does not describe a specific trait or set of traits like masculine, feminine, or neutral do. Outherine describes all traits that don't fall into the categories of masc, fem, or neutral. Basically, imagine it like this: All things in the universe can be placed into four categories: Books Spoons Frogs Everything else This statement is complete true. If something doesn't fall within the category of "book", "spoon", or "frog" (or potentially some combination of them), then it would fall into the "everything else" category. This fourth category doesn't say anything specific about that object. It only tells you that it isn't a book, spoon, or frog. If we apply this to gender we could say: All genders can be placed into four categories: Masculine Feminine Neutral Outherine In this case outherine is the "everything else" cateogory. Describing a gender as outherine says nothing about the actually gender itself. It only means that the gender does not fall into any of the other categories. There is no such thing as "typically outherine traits" like there are for the other categories. Outherine is not a category, it's a cateogry for things that lack a category. If you say that your gender is not outherine, then that means, by definition, it must be masculine, feminine, neutral, or some combination of them. Maybe I'm misunderstanding this, in which case someone correct me, but this is why I think that people who say their gender is "not outherine" don't actually understand what outherine means. They simply saw a new label and went "no". Once again, I support people's right to describe their gender however they want, which is why I've made a new term to try and end all this. Part 3: Coining a New Term The term I'm coining is ineffaline. It's based on the word ineffable. The adverb form is ineffity. An ineffaline gender is a gender that defies all forms of classification. Any label or attempt to classify the gender with human language will be rejected. An ineffaline gender will say "no, I'm not masc, fem, or neutral" and "no, I'm not atriary either" and "no I'm not xenic or outherine" and it will continue like this. An ineffaline gender in not masculine, feminine, neutral, outhernine, xenic, or anything related to any of them. It is also not related to any terms that may be coined in the future. For as long as people come up with new terms an ineffaline gender will reject those terms. It is not neccessarily because the person who possesses the gender is questioning or doesn't understand their gender. An ineffaline person can be strongly gendered, and fully confident in their gender, but all labels that exist don't seem to fit. Basically, ineffaline is the "everything else" category. If you are not ineffaline, that means, by definition, you must identify with an existing gender term. Admittedly, due to the definition of ineffaline, and ineffaline person is probably going to reject the label of ineffaline on principle, so I don't know how usful with term actually is. But this is my attempt to help people to claim their gender in not outherine.
A Very Special Milestone [1538 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2020 Jun 3 Wed 16:21:27 GMT)
Today we've reached two major milestones. First, we've reached 800 pages of this wiki! It's crazy how fast this wiki is growing. It feels like we only just reached 700 pages. Also, fun fact, since this wiki is almost exactly two years old, it averages out to just a little bit over one page added per day.Second thing (and the thing I will be talking about for the rest of this post): we've just achieved one article starting with each letter of the alphabet!Now, you might be thinking "there's only 26 letters, how does it take 800 pages to get one for each letter?" Well, that's actually a bit of a story, which I will tell to you now. I think it was around 400 articles when I first got the idea of one article per letter of the alphabet. When you're the sort of person who writes and organizing hundreds of wiki pages for fun this is the sort of thing that gets you excited. I was close to the goal at the time, but there were a handful of letters I hadn't gotten yet. At that point I started keeping a close eye out for an identities starting with specific letters. I also became quite interested in the letter distribution in names. I think the best way to show this is with a graph, which I will show you now: The first are broken down by category. Yellow: sexuality . Green: gender . Purple: xenogender . Blue: Other, which includes the categories "identity ", "terminology ", ace-spec identity ", and "aro-spec identity ".) The graph shows the letter distribution across all articles at the time of writing this. (It doesn't exactly add up to the total number of articles because some articles are in multiple categories and therefore are counted twice.) In this graph you can clearly see that some letters are extremely over represented when it comes to identity names. The top five most common letters are: 5) N and V (tied): The letter N gets a boost with all the sexualities that are "no
Negative Comments Poll Results [165 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2019 Nov 23 Sat 5:15:22 GMT)
A month ago I set up a poll regarding how we should treat people who leave comments that are not outright hate speech but are still queerphobic. Here are the results of that poll: As you can see the "delete comment and (temporaily) block the user" option is the clear winner. With that my process will be the following: Any existing negetive comments will be deleted. The users will not be blocked (since many of these are from several month ago, sometimes even years). With the exception of comments that have been replied to. Any new negetive comments will be deleted and the user will be banned for one week (or longer if it's a repeated offence). I have also made a community guidelines page. It's fairly short now as I think everything should be pretty self explainitory but it will be added to as new guidelines are created.
Regarding Negative Comments [118 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2019 Oct 21 Mon 1:17:57 GMT)
By far the most common reason people are blocked here is because of hate speech, however there are also a sizable amount of comments that are something along the lines of "this is stupid lol". I've been wondering what do to about these sorts of comments for awhile now, because the people who make these comments are very clearly homophobic/transphobic and would not be willing to listen to any attempts to explain. However, it seems seems like an overreaction to block someone over a minor comment like this. But at the same time I'm sure most people who use this wiki for it's intended purpose would rather not see these comments. The poll is closed, here are the results:
The Misunderstanding Behind The Term Atrinary [1244 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2019 Sep 15 Sun 22:12:02 GMT)
In my last blog post I mentioned now I don't think atrinary is a useful term, because it currently does have any agreed upon meaning. In this post I want to dissect what I think the intended meaning on atrinary was. But first, before I get into the meat of the article I want to address a couple of points about atrinary first. 1) Atrinary is for culture specific idenities and for neurodivergent people who do not/cannot understand gender in the "standard" way. I actually like this definition of atrinary. However, it's very clear that not everyone argees with this definition of atrinary. Clearly there is another definition that a sizable amount of people argee with, and that is what I will be discussing. 2) Atrinary isn't synonymous with xenogender. Maverique is an atrinary gender but not a xenogender. Whenever people talk about atrinary genders maverique is always the example they give, and while maverique typically isn't considered a xenogender, I argue that it could be interpretted as one. If maverique is a gender that is "based on autonomy, inner conviction, unconventionality, and being unorthodox" one could say that it's a gender based on concepts and ideas typically not assosiated with gender, and therefore a xenogender. I've also never seen someone give a specific example of an atrinary gender that isn't maverique. Now that that is out of the way I want to give the purpose of this post. The main question I want to answer is this: If xenogenders and atrinary genders are the same thing in my visualisation of gender, then why do some people say that atrinary contains genders that are not xenogenders? What are those genders? Like I said in my previous post I believe this difference in meaning comes from the fact that the coiner of atrinary has a different view of gender than me, and most people. In this post I will be trying to understand and explain this different view of gender that would lead to the creation of atrinary. I need to make it clear that I do not agree with this view of gender, for reasons that I will explain shortly, however I think that in order to fully understand what atrinary was intended to mean one needs to understand this alternate view of gender. Secondly, I do not know who the coiner of atrinary is, and I most certainly don't know them personally, so this is only speculation on my part. And lastly I use the word "coiner" here, however since I don't know exactly what the coiner's original intent for the term was I'm using "coiner" as shorthand for "people who interpret atrinary was meaning something that is not binary, not non-binary, but not inherently xenogenders", which appears to be the original menaing of the term. Now, let's get a visual of how I think the coiner viewed gender. As you can see this view of gender is based on the assumtion that if "neutral" is a gender, that implies the existance of being "positively" gender (male, female, or anything inbetween) and the existance of the "negetive" of gender (agender). In this view of gender "non-binary" refers to anything that is "positive" (gendered) but is inbetween male or female, as well as anything that is on the "neutral" or "ungendered" line. In this view of gender "abinary" refers to anything that is not on the vertical "gendered" line. As seen by the horizontal line moving away from it. However, and this is the key, "neutral" and "ungendered" are still connected to the binary genders. In this view of gender, neutral and ungender are inherently tied to the binary genders. All of these genders are dependant on each other to exist. So in this view of gender atrinary refers to genders that are not related to this balance of positive, negetive, and neutral. Now, I don't want to shame someone for visualizing gender in a different way than me but... I think this view of gender is wrong. This view of gender is based on an inherent misunderstanding of what "neutral" means. As I explained in my previous post neutral does not literally mean neutral, rather it is a catch-all term for genders that are not related to femininity or masculinity but are still gendered in a similar way of understanding. Neutral genders are not inherently tied to the existence of the binary genders. For example, if masculinity didn't exist femininity could still exist without. They are not intrinsically connected, femininity is not the "lacking" or "opposite" of masculinity or vice verse. There could still be women if the concept of men didn't exist. The same thing can be applied to neutral genders. If the binary genders didn't exist then neutral genders could still exist. Neutral genders are just as connected to the binary gender as the binary genders are connected to themselves (that is to say; not connected at all). In my view of gender you could remove any one of the genders and none of the other genders would be affected because they are all independant of each other. Basically what I'm trying to say is genders are not electrical charge. These aren't subatomic particles. The nuclei of the atoms across the universe would not implode on themselves if the binary genders stopped existing. There is no "balance" or "connection". So with all that explained, can we finally answer the question at hand? What is atrinary? It seems like atrinary genders (that are not xenogenders) are "any gender which is unrelated to the gender binary or anything connected to the gender binary, but is still gendered in a similar way of understanding." Now that I've written it out like that, we can see the atrinary is the same definition as neutral/abinary in my view of gender. So am I saying the (nonxenogender) atrinary genders are just the same thing as abinary genders? Yes. Well, sort of. If the people who identify as atrinary wish to use this view of gender that I outlined above then that's perfectly valid, but if that's the case we have to realize that when they say things like "abinary" or "neutral" in means something completely different than when other people say "abinary" or "neutral". However, in the view of gender that I use I will continue to refer to genders that use concepts outside the human understand of gender as xenogenders, and to genders that are not binary, but are still gendered as abinary genders, with maverique included. Unless of course, someone explains how atrinary actually works. So what do we do now? Should people not use atrinary? Well, I think it's perfectly fine if people use the term atrinary. It's even fine if you want to use the "atomic" view of gender. However, I think if people are going to use atrinary then someone needs to come and lay down exactly what atrinary actually means, because there is currently alot of confusion as to the actually meaning, even among people who use the term. I layed out what I think atrinary was originally suppost to mean however, I said in the beginning of the post that I prefer the definition of including culturally specific genders and neurodivergent genders. If atrinary is to be a legitamate term that can be used there needs to be an agreed upon definition.
My View Of Gender [947 words]
(created by Chaoticcylinder on 2019 Sep 15 Sun 4:39:39 GMT)
I've decided to try and get into writing blog posts, so I figured the best place to start is to explain how I view gender, after writing several dozen articles about different genders on this wikia. I think this topic is best explained with a visual: Now, obviously in actuality this would be a fluent gradient, but I used boxes here so I can easily point out specific things. On the top is the "categories" of gender, and on the side is the amount of gender felt. Obviously muligender people would fall on multiple places on this chart at once, and genderfluid people would move throughout the chart, but for now I'm going to talk about the genders one at a time. Firstly, I want to talk about the first and third columns, the "feminine" and "masculine" categories. The topmost boxes of these cateories would be binary men and binary women. Anything outside of these boxes I consider non-binary. However, these aren't the only feminine or masculine genders, for example juxera and lunarian are both highly feminine genders, (in some cases they may even be 100% feminine), however they both relate to femininity in way completely different than binary women. As we go farther down we get to genders like demigirl/demiboy and dawnian/duskian. When we get very close to the bottom we get to libragenders. At the very bottom is agender, as you can see there are four boxes but all of them are white, showing that they are all the same (lack of) gender but it can still have some relation to genders, allowing for agender boys, and agender girls, etc. Agender is also in a box on its own, showing that it's on its own, since it isn't exactly a gender, but rather the lack of a gender. Moving on to the second column, it's pretty self explainitory. Androgyne is the mix of masculine and feminine at the same time. Since in reality this chart would be a smooth gradient one could be a complete 50/50 mix or one could be, for example closer to feminine and farther from masculine. And once again there's a gradient downwards for demi- and libra- versions of these genders. Next up is neutral. Now, I think that "neutral" is a sort of inaccurate term. Neutral refers to abinary/unaligned genders; any gender that is completely unrelated to the gender binary but is still gendered. This includes genders like neutrois, stellarian, and aporagender. Of course, this "other gender" could be completely different for two people and therefore it covers a very wide varient of gender, however all these genders they are all grouped into the vague category of "other" due to the limitations of spoken language and such. However the key to member about neutral genders is that they are still in the same realm as the feminine/masculine genders. They are still genders in the way that humans typically understand gender (unlike xenogenders). Now I can segway to atrinary genders. First, a bit of terimology: anonbinary is an umbrella term that includes atrinary and nontrinary. Xenogenders are a category of atrinary genders (according to the coiner of the term). Now for a bit of a controversial take. I often call atrinay genders "non-binary", now some atrinary people may disargee with this as non-binary implies the existence, and therefore a relation to, a binary in the first place. However I think this stems from a different use in terminology. I believe in this case people are using "non-binary" to refer to a specific gender or group of genders (androgyne gender+unaligned genders), whereas in this case I'm using "non-binary" as a vague umbrella term to refer to any gender that is not binary man or binary woman. With that out of the way, time for another controversial statement: I don't think atrinary is a useful term, at least not yet. As I was researching atrinary I soon realized that nobody actually knows what it means. "Not binary or non-binary" is so vague that no one really knows what it's supposed to refer to and appearantly the coiner of the term didn't really specify any farther. Now, the way I see it there are genders outside the gender trinary. As you can see on the chart there's a box around the "main genders". The way I see it, these are "traditional" human genders. They are described and felt in similar ways. A way that most humans feels and expirence gender. However, outside of that is a grey space. That grey space goes on infinitely in all directions and contains all concepts, words, and things in existence (and maybe even things that don't exist). Xenogenders are any gender which defines it's gender as relating to something outside the human concepts of gender AKA in the grey space. However, atrianry/anonbinary also defines itself as being everything outside traditional human understanding of gender, so in that way xenogender and atrianry mean the same thing? I believe this that all this strangeness surrounding the term atrinary comes from the fact that the coiner of atrinary seems to have a different view of gender than me (and most people for that matter). However, I'm going to be covering that topic in it's own blog post. If you've read this far thanks for putting up with All That. It's definitely alot of information all at once. This whole thing is very strange because this is my first time really expressing any opinions or personality here. Also, just to clarify I'm not bashing people who identify as atrinary. I'll explain my thoughts more in the next post but if someone finds that the term works for them then that's great.