A they/them lesbian or theysbian refers to a lesbian who uses they/them pronouns, which can be exclusive or part of a multipronoun set. It is a more specific form of pronoun non-conformity and crosspronoun usage, and is said to be a common lesbian experience to feel disconnected from womanhood, often due to womanhood commonly being defined by relationships with men.
Similar to how lesbians might go by masculine/androgynous names, present as butch, or otherwise gender non-conforming, a lesbian may refer to themself with they/them to express this disconnect from their gender.
Neopronoun gays, neopronoun lesbians, he/him lesbians, she/her gays, it/its lesbians, it/its gay people and they/them gay identities exist through the same principle.
Flag
The they/them lesbian flag was designed by Tumblr user Wuvsbian on June 12th, 2018 as a followup to the he/him lesbian flag.[1] The rainbow was used to encompass all the different ways they/them lesbians interact and express themselves and their lesbian and gender identity.
The second alternate flag was designed by DeviantArt user flower-lesbienne.
Resources
- https://wuvsbian.tumblr.com/post/175827224082/noodle-theythem-lesbian-flag-my-hehim?is_related_post=1
- https://r00.tumblr.com/post/619851798094774272/updated-theythem-and-hehim-lesbian-flags-since