A they/them gay is a specifically tailored identity that refers to a gay man or nonbinary person who uses they/them pronouns. The term can be used by any men who are mlm (achillean) and use they/them pronouns. Those pronouns can be exclusive or one can be multipronoun or pronoun non-conforming.
There also exists neopronoun gays, neopronoun lesbians, he/him lesbians, she/her gays, they/them lesbians, it/its lesbians, and it/its gay people
They/them gays are also sometimes referred to as they/them vincians, they/them patroclians, they/them cintheans, they/them wildeans, or they/them achilleans.
They/Them Gays vs Nonbinary People
A they/them gay does not always identify as non-binary, they may acknowledge they are male, but pronouns do not always equal gender identity, as a they/them gay is simply a more specific form of pronoun non-conforming gay men.
It is a common misunderstanding that they/them gays "make the transgender and non-binary community look bad", but that is simply the fault of the people who refuse to think about the subject or break down the concept to understand it. Oftentimes, pronouns are gendered but in some cases they're not despite what society says. The pronouns one uses are another part of gender expression, just like one's clothes or behavior. In the same way some non-binary people are more comfortable using pronouns other than they/them, some binary people feel more comfortable using pronouns other than the one's typically associated with their gender.
The they/them gay flag was designed an unknown Tumblr user on June 11th, 2018 following Wuvsbian's he/him lesbian and she/her gay flag.