This is literally the same exact thing with me. Except now I am wondering about demiromantic/demisexual and cupioromantic (not feeling attraction but wanting to date) and aceflux... I am just guessing cupioromantic and demisexual is what I should stick with for now but like you, I don't feel any differently for boys vs girls so would I be all that AND bi/pan? Now I am just ranting so I'll stop but I am so fucking confused.