Domestic attraction is a form of tertiary attraction where one wants to perform domestic activities with or for someone. These activities can include cooking, cleaning, living together, or raising children together.
A partnership based on domestic attraction may be called a domestic relationship or a DOR for short. (It should not be called a domestic partnership. Please refer to the history section). There does not seem to be a special name for a domestic datemate or crush.
Domestic attraction is often related to platonic and romantic attraction.
History
Domestic attraction has a long history, but is not usually referred to by name.
Descriptions of domestic attraction are frequently found along with descriptions of romance. It is very common in older romantic literature. A consequence of this is that domestic attraction/relationships are incorrectly considered by some to involve romance.
In countries with more "traditional" beliefs, women (especially heterosexual women) are encouraged to feel domestic attraction so they will be more willing to preform domestic tasks for their partner (especially in heterosexual marriages).[1] This is part of the concept of a "housewife". However that is not really domestic attraction, just forced gender roles.
The phrase "domestic partnership" is a legal term to describe adults who perform activities seen in a "typical" relationship, such as living together and being romantic, but who are not married. The term was originally proposed in August 1979 by Tom Brougham. His requirements were two individuals who resided together and didn't qualify for marriage due to being the same gender. The definition was eventually written into law and the definition was expanded. One must register to be in a recognized domestic partnership, and then the partners may receive some of the same benefits as a married couple. Domestic partnerships are occasionally used as an alternative to marriage by queer couples (especially same-gender partners who are not eligible for marriage).[2] Domestic partnerships are not the same as a DOR because they do not necessarily involve domestic attraction.
The first known mention of domestic attraction by name was on February 7th, 2021 by AceXPGrace on an AVEN forum.[3]
Flag
The flag was created by Fandom user foreigntoolmaker on August 27th, 2021. The orange represents domestic attraction, the yellow represents diversity, the purple represents queer identity and experiences, and the blue represents domestic relationships.