Harmful Terminology

This is a page compiling "identities" that are harmful to the LGBTQ+ community and/or spread dangerous ideologies. Terms and flags listed on this page should be avoided in use, and those that use these terms/flags should be avoided as well for the safety of oneself and others around them.

Terms That Harm The LGBTQ+ Community

 * Antihaemosexual/Antihaemoromantic: a term used by individuals to describe "not being attracted to those who menstruate" which is transphobic, intersexist, and fetishizing. Womaantihaemosexual is the same thing, but directed towards women who do not menstruate, which is also transphobic, intersexist, and also leaves open pedophilic acts as well.


 * Attack Helicopter (Gender): a term used by cishet (or rarely cisgender or binary LGBTQ+) individuals to make fun of those that are non-binary, transgender, xenogender, or noungender. It is also sometimes used to mock alterhumans. Those with this "identity" claim to "identify as an attack helicopter" and often times use neopronouns they don't actually identify with in a mocking manner. A non-problematic version of this gender for those who actually identify with helicopters, or for individuals who can and want to reclaim this joke is heligender


 * Metrosexual: a term used to describe a young, urban, heterosexual cisgender male, generally with liberal political views, living in a post-industrial, capitalist culture who has an interest in fashion and his appearance. This term is typically used as a way to satirize men with traditionally feminine interests or men who were interested in self-care products. The term Meteroinity is the reclaimed version of this, however not all are comfortable with the reclaimed version either.


 * Quasihomosexual/Quasihomoromantic/Yaoisexual: a term used to describe a (typically conformant) women who are only attracted to gay men. This is considered a form of fetishization.


 * Quasilesbian/Quasisapphic/Quasihimesexual/Yurisexual: a term used to describe (typically conformant) men who are only attracted to lesbian and/or sapphic women. This is considered a form of fetishization.


 * Rabiosexual/Rabioromantic: a term used to describe individuals who are attracted to rabies/attracted to the idea of getting rabies. This is a dangerous attraction to have and may overlap with mental conditions and/or self-harm, and should not be encouraged.


 * Semi-Bisexual: a term used to describe "bisexuals that are only attracted to one gender." This is a biphobic identity (as it is impossible to like a single gender and be bi) and misconstrues how bisexual preferences and/or fluidity works.


 * Seniosexual: a term used to describe exclusive attraction to intersex individuals. This is considered fetishizing and objectifying, as it degrades an intersex individual down to their sex traits. This term also implies you can tell who is and isn't intersex by appearance, which is untrue.


 * Super Straight/Super Gay/Super Lesbian/Super Bisexual: a term used to describe exclusive attraction to cisgender individuals. This term is inherently transphobic, as it implies being attracted to cisgender individuals makes one "super" in their orientation. It also is objectifying to the individual of attraction and degrades them to their sex traits, as well as implies you can tell who is and isn't trans (which is not the case.)

Terms That Harm The Neurodivergent/Disabled Community

 * Aimagender/Autoaimagender: two terms used to describe when ones gender is "affected by blood" or "affected by ones own blood." This term, along with its flag, promote self-harm; even if ones gender is affected by self harm, there should not be a term promoting it, as it can cause one to feel validated in their self-destructive behavior, and thus can cause recovery to be more difficult.


 * Barlosexual/Barloromantic: a term used by individuals who attempt to normalize the zoophillic attraction to bees as an orientation rather than a disorder, and normalize/encourage acting on said attraction.


 * Incestsexual/Incestromantic/Consang/Consanguinamory: a term used by individuals who attempt to normalize incestual attraction/incestophilia as an orientation rather than a disorder, and normalize/encourage acting on said attraction. Congsang Punk is a movement based around normalizing incestual relationships.
 * Found Consang: a term used by individuals who attempt to normalize incestual attraction/incestophilia to found family as an orientation rather than a disorder. While being attracted to found family isn't inherently a disordered attraction, it can be classified as such if one considers their found family to be like the traditional definition of a family (ie: considering them ones adopted family members/siblings.) This promotes acting on incestual urges and can harm everyone involved, regardless of whether they are related by blood.
 * Genderconsang: when ones gender is connected to/related to "consanguiamory" in some way, possibly including having a consanguiamorous relationship oneself. This promotes acting on incestual urges to oneself or others.
 * Syscest/System Consang: a system that is "consanguinamorous" to either another system, their system members, and/or someone else.


 * MAP/NOMAP/Child Lover/Girl Lover/Boy Lover/Lolisexual: a term used by individuals who attempt to normalize pedophilia as an orientation rather than a disorder, and normalize/encourage acting on said attraction. Some try to claim they are trans in age (not age-regress or age-slide) and call themselves Transage, using their so-called mental age as an excuse/way to justify acting on their attraction. GenderMAP is a term for someone whos "gender is connected to being a MAP."


 * Menosexual/Menoromantic: a term used by individuals who attempt to normalize menophilia as an orientation rather than a disorder, or who try to turn a fetish for menstruation into a sexuality. This can come off as transphobic and intersexist, as well as harm individuals who struggle with paraphilic attraction.


 * Necrosexual/Necromantic: a term used by individuals who attempt to normalize necrophillia as an orientation rather than a disorder, and encourage acting on it.


 * Teniasexual: a term used by individuals who are attracted to individuals infected with tapeworms, or individuals who have symptoms of being infected with tapeworms. This means that they are attracted to underweight individuals (which fetishizes those with eating disorders,) those with sunken eyes, and those who appear dehydrated (which fetishizes those with mental conditions as well as those with some disabilities/illnesses.) This is fetishizing to the neurodivergent, disabled, and illness communities, and also encourages tapeworm infections. Cestasexual is the attempt to normalize zoophilic attraction to tapeworms as an orientation.

Terms That Harm POC

 * Skinsexual: a term used to describe exclusive attraction to a specific race or skin color. This term is fetishizing and objectifying as it degrades oneself down to their skin color, and it is also racist as it puts specific races on a pedestal. A common subset to this is Asian Lovers which are those who fetishize Asian individuals.


 * Transracial: a term used to describe someone who wishes to "transition in race." This often blackface, perpetuating harmful stereotypes, and an attempt to change ones body to "fit their true race." This is not the same as being disparethnic in a system, or having an alterhuman identity of a different race; alterhumans and headmates are often against this term, and do not try to "change the race" of their body. This term is also used to refer to kids adopted by families of a different race, which is an acceptable use.

Terms That Harm Trauma Survivors

 * Problematic Neopronouns: neopronouns are most often a non-harmful concept, however there are a few words that cause harm/suffering to trauma survivors and perpetuate discrimination that should not be used as pronouns. For example, neos that use slurs and neos that use a sensitive topics (ie: ab/abu/abuseself, ra/rape/rapeself, etc) are typically unacceptable and highly controversial.


 * Rapesexual: a term used to normalize the attraction to rape/committing rape.


 * Traumasexual: a term used when one is attracted trauma victims. This term is used to fetishize victims of trauma, and is typically used by non-traumatized individuals to perpetuate the idea that trauma victims are weak/helpless.