He/Him Lesbian

A he/him lesbian refers to a lesbian who uses he/him pronouns but is still a woman or woman-aligned. The term can be used by any women who are wlw (sapphic) and use he/him pronouns. Those pronouns can be exclusive or one can be multipronoun. It is a more specific form of pronoun non-conformity and crosspronoun usage. It is a common lesbian experience to feel disconnected from womanhood due to womanhood often being defined by relationships to men. Similarly to how lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a butch, or otherwise gender non-conforming, a lesbian may refer to himself by he/him to express this disconnect from his gender. There also exists she/her gays, they/them lesbians and they/them gays.

He/Him Lesbians vs Transgender Men
A he/him lesbian does not identify as male, they may acknowledge they are female, but pronouns do not equal identity, as a he/him lesbian is simply a more specific form of pronoun non-conforming lesbians.

It is a common misunderstanding that he/him lesbians "make the transgender community look bad", but that is simply the fault of the people who refuse to think about the subject or break down the concept to understand it. Oftentimes, pronouns are gendered but in some cases they're not despite what society says. The pronouns one uses are another part of gender expression, just like one's clothes or behavior. In the same way some non-binary people are more comfortable using pronouns other than they/them, some binary people feel more comfortable using pronouns other than the one's typically associated with their gender.

Flag
The he/him lesbian flag was designed by Tumblr user Wuvsbian on May 20, 2018. The rainbow was used to encompass all the different ways he/him lesbians express themselves through sexual and gender identity. The colors were chosen to try to represent butch lesbians, femme lesbians, those who don't identify as either, as well as non-binary lesbians.