User:CrystalOwl95455

Welcome! I'm glad you're here!

Basic Information
Heya! My name is Crystal! I hope you enjoy getting to know me a bit more! If there is anything not mentioned here that you would like to know about me, please don't hesitate to post to my message wall. I should be able to get back to you within a few days!

Disclaimer
I come from a very queerphobic family and community, so please give me a bit of grace if i sound ignorant or rude at times. I'm still trying to learn how to have my own opinions. If i ever say anything offensive, please just politely let me know and dont hold it against me.

Names
Again, my name is Crystal, but sometimes I'll prefer another name in addition to or as an alternative to my main one. It's always okay to call me Daisy in addition to Crystal, and I will sometimes wish to go by Caroline instead of either one of those. When in doubt, either call me Crystal or check my bio for my preferred name.

Pronouns
I am pronounfluid, so my preferred set changes. It doesn't change too terribly often, but its mostly based on my mood at any given moment, so it is able to change very quickly. My main (most used) sets are she/her and they/them, but I am chill with most sets, aside from he/him and it/its. I will usually prefer she/her in addition to a secondary set, but on occasion, I will use they/them as my primary pronouns. When in doubt, either use she/her or check my bio for my preferred pronouns.

Gendered Terms
I tend to prefer feminine and neutral terms over masculine ones, but there are some exceptions, so i will make a chart anyways.

Gender

 * cisgender
 * female/woman

I've always wondered how one knows that they are cisn't. It's an experience i can't relate to. Quite frankly, i dont even know if i can relate to the experience of knowing for sure that I am cis. It's not like there's this tug in my chest, pulling me away from femininity, but its not like there are any particularly strong ties to femininity. I've always dressed this way because its how I was told to dress. I mean, I like it, but I never considered my other options. If you're reading this and you're cisn't, can you tell me how you came to know that?

Sexual Orientation

 * unspecified ace-spec identity
 * sex indifferent
 * angled aroace
 * aroace
 * varioriented aroace
 * acemid

Most people aren't familiar with the "asexual spectrum," so I usually just tell them that I'm asexual, and most will understand.

When I tell people I'm asexual, they'll be fine with it. I'll get a few questions, but not the stupid kind like "are you a plant?". It'll just be the shit that every queer person gets: "How did you know?" And my answer is always the same. "I didn't know. I read the term one day and it just 'clicked'." Something about this word was so relatable to my experience, even at eleven years of age when I began to identify as demi, that I knew that I just had to use it for myself. Granted, I was eleven, but I understood the concept of sex from a scientific standpoint, i think we all did, but I could never wrap my head around (and still cant, even several years later) why in the world a person would actually engage in such an activity for no reason other than pleasure. And maybe I truly am "too young to understand," but I don't think I am. And even if I am, I'm glad I found a home within the asexual community while I could.

Romantic Orientation

 * demiromantic
 * aro-spec
 * romance positive
 * heteroromantic
 * greyromantic
 * angled aroace
 * aromantic
 * aroace
 * varioriented aroace

I've only ever had one true crush. That's what keyed me in on my aromanticism. It was this one guy in my grade who was my closest guy friend at the time. Since, then our relationship has fluctuated in closeness, but I'd still consider him a good friend. And what I've found, throughout our relationship, is that as we get closer, i begin to like him more, and as we drift further apart, i begin to like him less and less. When I first read about demiromanticism, i was so fascinated with the idea, that I had to add it to my collection. It fit me just right.

Tertiary Orientations

 * m-spec
 * omniaesthetic
 * bialterous
 * delloplatonic
 * demi-heteroplatonic
 * allo-homoplatonic
 * apl-spec
 * demi-bi-queerplatonic
 * demisensual
 * grayasocial

Yeah, so as you can see, I'm mega a-spec. No, this doesn't mean I don't have feelings. In fact, I'm one of the most emotional people i know. No, this doesn't mean I dont want these kinda of relationships, it just means that there is some criteria you must meet before I want this type of relationship.

Other Terms

 * heteroqueer
 * magpiehoarder
 * pronoun non-conforming
 * pronounfluid