He/Him Lesbian

A he/him lesbian refers to a lesbian who uses he/him pronouns but is still a woman or woman-aligned. The term can be used by any women who are wlw (sapphic) and use he/him pronouns. Those pronouns can be exclusive or one can be multipronoun. It is a more specific form of pronoun non-conformity and crosspronoun usage. It is a common lesbian experience to feel disconnected from womanhood due to womanhood often being defined by relationships to men. Similarly to how lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a butch, or otherwise gender non-conforming, a lesbian may refer to himself by he/him to express this disconnect from his gender.

The male counterpart is called a she/her gay.

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The he/him lesbian flag was designed by Tumblr user Wuvsbian on May 20, 2018. The rainbow was used to encompass all the different ways he/him lesbians express themselves through sexual and gender identity. The colors were chosen to try to represent butch lesbians, femme lesbians, those who don't identify as either, as well as non-binary lesbians.