Talk:Oriented Aroace/@comment-50.30.112.218-20200213024547/@comment-36040512-20200213223312

You shouldn't feel pressured to find the "correct" label right away. There seems to be an idea in LGBT culture that once someone realizes/announces their identity it becomes a permanent, unchangable part of them. While this is true for some people, not everyone knows their identity right away. For many people it takes several tries to find the identity they connect with. For some people they might never find their "one true identity". People are always growing, and learning more about themselves, and finding new labels that more accurately fit their expirences.

You shouldn't feel obligated to continue identifying as something just because that's how you've identified in the past, especially if you think a different label fits you better. Similarly, I don't think it should matter if you change your identity in the future. Maybe this label wouldn't work out for you, but maybe it will. The only way to find out is to try it. Sometimes in order to figure out your identity you need to just try on different labels and see what fits. If you do end up changing your identity you shouldn't think of your previous identities as a failure or a waste of time. By changing and expirenmenting with identites it shows that you're growing and learning more about yourself as a person, and prehaps realizing things about yourself that you didn't know before.