He/Him Lesbian

A he/him lesbian refers to a lesbian who uses he/him pronouns but is still a woman or woman-aligned. The term can be used by any women who are wlw (sapphic) and use he/him pronouns. Those pronouns can be exclusive or one can be multipronoun. It is a more specific form of pronoun non-conformity and crosspronoun usage. It is a common lesbian experience to feel disconnected from womanhood due to womanhood often being defined by relationships to men. Similarly to how lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a butch, or otherwise gender non-conforming, a lesbian may refer to himself by he/him to express this disconnect from his gender.

The male counterpart is called a she/her gay.

He/Him Lesbians vs Transgender Men
A he/him lesbian does not identify as male, they may acknowledge they are female, but pronouns do not equal identity, as a he/him lesbian is simply a more specific form of pronoun non-conforming lesbians.

It is commonly misunderstood that he/him lesbians make the transgender community look bad, but that is simply the fault of the people who refuse to think about the subject or break down the concept to understand it. It is the same as implying that transgender people who don't pass aren't valid because it's harder for cisgender people to understand them. While it may be true that it's harder to understand, it is a cruel injustice to leave them behind to propel trans rights forward at the expense of a portion of the community.

Please let everyone define their own orientation as they wish, and don't dictate the labels that other people get to choose.

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The he/him lesbian flag was designed by Tumblr user Wuvsbian on May 20, 2018. The rainbow was used to encompass all the different ways he/him lesbians express themselves through sexual and gender identity. The colors were chosen to try to represent butch lesbians, femme lesbians, those who don't identify as either, as well as non-binary lesbians.