Lesbian

Lesbian is a term generally defined as queer or non-conformant attraction to women. Despite this, there is not one perfect definition that encompasses all experiences with being a lesbian.

It is sometimes more broadly defined as non-men attracted to non-men, including all NBLW, WLNB, and NBLNB attractions. However, this definition is not the most commonly recognized. It also has exorsexist implications as it excludes non-binary men who may identify as lesbian. It also places a binary label on attraction that is in no way strictly binary. Additionally, not all non-binary people feel comfortable being included under lesbian attraction. A non-man attracted to non-men is called faunic or daunic.

Many current definitions (such as that lesbian is for exclusive WLW attraction, that lesbians are women who aren't attracted to men, and similar takes), have taken the dominant narrative for what lesbianism is in media, while actually being exclusionist definitions that completely misconstrue what lesbianism has actually meant since the beginning of its usage in relation to queerness; queer attraction to women.

"Queer attraction to women" is a vast umbrella- it refers to any attraction to women that is not strictly conformant. So, this could include any abro- orientation which sometimes includes attraction to women, any aro-spec and ace-spec identity which can also include attraction to women, m-spec attraction where women are one of the genders one is attracted to, being non-binary and feeling that that aspect of one's queerness makes their attraction to women queer as well, and so on and so forth.

All this means is that anyone who feels comfortable with the label because their attraction to women is queer, or they feel disconnected from other labels which technically fit their identity, should never be excluded from lesbianism.

Male Lesbians
The main article for this section is lesboy (in general), and lesboi for Black male lesbians

Though the common narrative and assumption is that lesbians cannot be men, that isn't true, as lesbianism can include any queer attraction to women. So, queer men who are attracted to women may feel their attraction to women is queer even though they're men, so they may identify as lesbian. For example, straight transgender men who feel that their attraction to women can still be described as lesbian due to their trans identity being queer, although they are men. This includes non-binary men, such as multigender people who have a male gender and genderfluid people who may sometimes be male (while still identifying as lesbian). Male lesbians can also be m-spec men who are attracted to women and SAM a-spec men who feel that lesbian describes their attraction, as well as abro- men who are sometimes attracted to women.

Though men can absolutely be lesbians, there are restrictions. Since a man being attracted to women isn't inherently queer, it has to be queer attraction for men to identify as lesbian, and only queer men (men who are not cisgender, straight, allosexual/romantic, and/or monoamorous) can have attraction to women that is queer. Therefore, only queer men can be lesbians.

Male Lesbian Nuance
Queer identity is incredibly nuanced. What feels like queer attraction to one queer person, may feel conformant to another- the point is that it's up to individual queer people to define how their identity feels to them. Some transhet men may identify with the term lesbian because their trans identity is queer, while some transhet men may simply identify as transhet. Some m-spec men who are attracted to women may identify with the term lesbian, while others may feel completely disconnected from it.

Every queer experience is valid, and it is not up to any queer person to dictate the experiences or labels of another queer person. No one has to identify as lesbian- but if they're queer and attracted to women, they can, and that's the premise of lesbianism and lesbian inclusivity.

History
The word lesbian comes from the name of the Greek island Lesbos, the birthplace of the poet Sappho (the origin of the word sapphic). The use of lesbian to mean gay woman or female homosexuality dates back to 1732. Before this was used, the word lesbian meant "of Lesbos", such as "Lesbian wine" or "Lesbian culture".

Romantic and sexual relationships between women go back far in human history, including to ancient times. Most ancient civilizations were surprisingly LGBTQ+ friendly, thinking that it was just human nature to crave sexual or romantic contact from the same gender.

Ancient Greece
As mentioned above, the Greek poet Sappho was a major part in developing the terms lesbian and sapphic. She was believed to love women or be a lesbian. Little of Sappho's poetry survives, but what has survived provides deep description of women's daily lives, relationships, and rituals. Many of her poems proclaim her love for girls, as she deeply studied the beauty of women.

Ancient Greece had thriving homosexual culture, as men were sequestered with other men, and women with other women. Sexual relationships between men were recorded, but almost nothing about relationships between women were recorded. Records of female sexuality are often few and far between in this society. There is generally no clear evidence to suggest that women were encouraged to have same-sex relationships with each other, but with the poetry of Sappho, many historians believe that lesbians were quite abundant in Ancient Greece.

Ancient Rome
Lesbians and same-sex relationships between women were viewed in a negative light in Ancient Rome. Women in ancient Rome were subject to male sexuality. In modern scholarship, it was revealed that men viewed relationships between women with hostility. They viewed these relationships as "biological oddities" that completely shattered a man's view of his sexuality.

Ancient China and Japan
In these societies, homosexuality was commonplace in comparison to heterosexuality. Erotic art prints called shunga depicted sexual relationships between people of the same gender. This was just considered regular art for many citizens.

Early Europe
With the term "sodomy" growing to describe homosexual men, same-gender relationships were viewed in a negative light. This was usually only to describe men who would partake in sexual relationships with other men, though. Female homosexuality went unnoticed - and therefore was not discriminated against in the early stages of modern Europe. The earliest law against female homosexuality appeared in France, circa 1270. In Spain, Italy, and the Holy Roman Empire, sodomy between women was put on the list of acts punishable by death, although few instances of executing lesbians have been recorded.

Relationships between Catholic nuns have surprisingly been recorded during this time as well. Forty days' penance was demanded of nuns who "rode" each other (engaged in sexual behavior) or were known to touch each other's breasts. An Italian nun named Sister Benedetta Carlini was documented to have seduced many of her fellow sisters when being possessed by a Divine spirit. To end her relationships with other women, she was placed in solitary confinement for the last forty years of her life. However, contrary to this, female eroticism was almost fashionable during this time in England.

Victorian era (17th-19th century)
Same-sex relationships between women were also fashionable and encouraged at this time. Other terms for "lesbian" to describe these relationships were "romantic friendships", "Boston marriages", and "sentimental friends". Whether genital contact was present in these relationships or not was not a public matter for discourse, but these relationships were still considered innocent and chaste either way.

World War II-era
As military mobilization engaged millions of men, women were also enlisted. Plans were in place to screen out male homosexuals, but nothing was present for lesbians. Discharge was presented to lesbians if found in sexual contact with each other.

Many women were also at home without their husbands, which gave birth to a wave of education on what being a lesbian was. Independence of these women gave them an opportunity to shape lesbian networks and environments. This fueled the gay rights movement post-war.

Post-war & Stonewall
Homosexuality became an undesirable characteristic for women in the workforce, which further silenced the lesbian community. Some homosexual women still persisted, and reclaimed the pink triangle, a symbol given to gay men in Nazi concentration camps.

A solution to isolated lesbians became lesbian pulp fiction in the 1950's. It was also a replacement for the little knowledge of female homosexuality. It started with a paperback titled Women's Barracks which described a woman's experience in the Free French Forces. It was published in 1950. The book contained a description of a lesbian relationship this woman witnessed. When this book sold 4.5 million copies, more lesbian-themed fiction arose. Between 1955 and 1969, over 2,000 books were published with the main topic being lesbianism or lesbian relationships. They were sold in corner drugstores, train stations, bus stops, and news stands. Surprisingly, most were written by heterosexual men and also marketed to heterosexual men. Lesbians did enjoy this fiction and create an identity out of it. Coded words and images were used on the covers of these books, such as instead of the word "lesbian", words like "strange", "twilight", "queer", and "third sex" appeared. As a result, lesbian pulp fiction helped to proliferate a lesbian identity to closeted and isolated lesbians.

The Stonewall Riots was the first gay rights movement recorded in history. This started when a gay bar called the Stonewall Inn in New York was attacked. This is when many lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) individuals started fighting for their rights.

Gay rights parades, or gay and lesbian pride days, took place all the way through the 1960's to the mid-1980's, when it became more mainstream and were just called Gay Pride Parades or Pride parades.

1970s
In the 1970s, a movement known as lesbian feminism (and more specifically political lesbianism) arose for the purpose of redefining and promoting lesbianism as a feminist concept, instead of a queer one. This movement believed lesbianism to be the natural result of feminism, and that lesbianism was not an orientation, but a political action wherein a woman completely excluded men from all aspects of her life. Not only is this associated with extreme misandry which now characterizes harmful, radical feminist and TERF ideologies, but it was also promoted with the belief that trans women were disgusting (as was the belief of one of the most prominent promoters of political lesbianism, Shiela Jeffreys) and that m-spec women who were attracted to men were disgusting because they were "sleeping with the enemy"- in other words, the drive for this movement was to be exclusionist towards trans and m-spec women.

This is where the now dominant belief that lesbianism is strictly women who are exclusively attracted to other women came from.

1990's-present
Many lesbian characters appeared in sitcoms like Seinfeld and Friends, but only in relation to previous male lovers ("My wife's a lesbian!" and other phrases were common). Pride parades still took place.

In 1997, Ellen DeGeneres's character, Ellen Morgan, came out on her hit sitcom "Ellen". The sitcom was cancelled in 1998 due to sagging ratings following the controversy.

Lesbian-feminism was another movement that appeared. It is now frowned upon, as one of its stereotypes is "man-hating" and misandry.

In the 2000's and 2010's, many lesbians identified themselves and developed a distinct community, creating their own pride flags and slang words. In Western society, being a lesbian is mostly accepted.

The Kinsey report
In 1953, more than 8,000 American women were interviewed for an in-depth report on female sexuality (Sexual Behavior in the Human Female), led by Alfred Kinsey and his staff. They reported that 28% of women had been aroused by another female, and 19% had sexual contact with another female. Of these women, half to two-thirds of them had experienced an orgasm. Single women had the most prevalence of homosexual behavior, the next being widowed, divorced and separated women.

Most of the women who reported homosexual behavior had not experienced it more than ten times. 51% of women reporting homosexual behavior had only one sexual partner.

Based on Kinsey's scale where 0 represents an exclusively heterosexual response and 6 represents an exclusively homosexual one, 6% of those interviewed ranked as a 6 (exclusively homosexual). In between 1 and 6, the most common response was 1.

The Hite Report
In 1976, sexologist Shere Hite published a report on the sexual encounters of 3,019 women. Hite's questions were different than Kinsey's, and focused on what these women identified as and what they preferred rather than experienced. Her respondents indicated that 8% preferred sex with women and 9% answered that they identify as bisexual and refuse to indicate preference.

Population estimates
Lesbians in the U.S. are estimated to be about 2.6% of the population. A survey of same-sex couples in the U.S. showed that between 2000 and 2005, the number of people claiming to be in same-sex relationships increased by 30%.

Flag
At present, there have been at least sixty four different lesbian flag design proposals.

The earliest flag to represent lesbianism is the original rainbow flag, created by Gilbert Baker in 1978 to represent the entire LGBT community.

In 1999, Sean Campbell introduced the labrys lesbian flag, the first flag design specifically for lesbians. The design involves a labrys on a black triangle with a purple background, since all three have historical significance in the lesbian community. The labrys was associated as a weapon used by the Amazons of mythology and in the 1970s it was adopted as a symbol of empowerment by the lesbian feminist community. The black triangle was used by the by the Third Reich to identify "asocial women", which included lesbians. Some lesbians reclaimed this symbol as gay men reclaimed the pink triangle. The violet background is because violet associated with lesbians because of the poetry of Sappho. This flag is sometimes associated with TERFs but it is still widely used by many lesbians, who seek to fight against the association with TERFs.

In 2010, Wordpress blogger Natalie McCray announced her proposed design for a lipstick lesbian flag, using a design plagiarized from Fausto Fernós' 2008 cougar pride flag. McCray's lipstick lesbian flag is not intended for all lesbians, just lipstick lesbians, meaning all other kinds of lesbians are excluded. Variations upon this stolen design have since become very popular on Tumblr. However, the creator is problematic, as she has made several racist comments (and tried to justify them by saying she herself is a POC), has been actively biphobic, anti-sex worker, butchphobic, and lesbiphobic. She and her flag have caused a lot of harm to gender non-conforming lesbians and the lesbians her flag was designed to exclude, exclusion which promoted even greater exclusionism from the people who started using the flag.

There were a large amount of alternate lesbian flags made around 2018, one of those flags was the orange and pink version, created by Tumblr user Sadlesbiandisaster on out before June 6, 2018, originally created by Tumblr user shapeshifter-of constellation in July 3, 2017, with a saturated version. The color meanings are as follows: Dark orange is for gender non-conformity as many lesbians are gender non-conforming. Orange is for independence from men and individuality. Light orange is for community. White represents unique connections to womanhood, and how lesbians are all connected to womanhood in their own unique ways. It encompasses trans and non-binary lesbian experiences, and butch and femme experiences with womanhood. Light pink represents serenity and peace. Pink represents love and sex. Dark pink represents femininity. A five stripe design was created for the purpose of more easily producing merchandise with it. According to polls conducted by lesbianflag on Twitter a large amount of people prefer this design for the lesbian flag. This is currently the most commonly used lesbian flag on the internet.

Though her design is currently the most popular lesbian flag, Sadlesbiandisaster is a problematic user who does not support m-spec lesbians, cis aces/aros/aroaces, usage of queer as an identity, or the diverse history of the terms butch and femme. She has harmed people with those harmful ideals, and she also plagiarized her design from both the butch and femme flags.

Another flag design is by Tumblr user Apersnicketylemon. The color associations are as follows: purple for non-binary and trans lesbians (also to represent how violets were historically given between women to represent their love), pink for lipstick and femme lesbians (and to represent the beauty of feminine love), grey for aspec lesbians (and to represent the difficulty to navigating a "grey area" of society), and blue to represent butch lesbians and gender nonconformity.

Another flag design is by Tumblr user ferretwlw. The color associations are as follows: Dark blue represents the community, and solidarity with each other. This is for the current lesbian community, and the unification of everyone in it. Purple represents diversity in experiences and expression. This is not just for the trans, non-binary, GNC, and/or mspec lesbians, but also for lesbians of every kind of expression and subculture- butches, femmes, those who are neither, and everyone else who considers themselves a lesbian. Pink represents self acceptance and pride. It is also for those who are still coming to terms with being a lesbian, questioning, in the closet, and so on. Yellow represents lesbian history and culture. This stripe reflects back on lesbian history and all the experiences lesbians have had. It’s also for lesbian culture, and all the subcultures within it. Mint represents inclusivity, tolerance, and acceptance.

The lykoi lesbian flag design was created by wiki user Wemrotung on June 1, 2021. The color associations are as follows: Raspberry represents gender non-conforming and pronoun non-conforming lesbians, such as he/him and they/them lesbians, as well as complex or non-normative connections to womanhood. Pink represents sapphic love, sex, attraction, and relationships. Yellow represents community and inclusion. White represents transgender, non-binary, and intersex lesbians. Blue represents lesbian history, culture, and solidarity with the rest of the LGBTQ+ community. Purple represents mspec lesbians. Dark purple represents aspec lesbians. Lykoi lesbian is a term coined by wiki user Wemrotung, intended to represent inclusive lesbians and fight back against longsword lesbians and similar exclusionists. It is similar to lesbians of the longbow, but with less violent phrasing, using cats rather than weapons to symbolize acceptance and inclusivity. The lykoi symbolism is meant to be cute and cuddly, yet fierce and energetic. Wemrotung is a lesbivincian butchwink.

A more inclusive lesbian flag was designed by YouTuber Astri-Nomical on June 29, 2021. The darkest red stands for masculinity, followed by a lighter red for non she/her lesbians, a lighter red for POC lesbians, white for love and freedom, the lightest pink for ND lesbians, a darker pink for non-cis lesbians, and the darkest pink for feminity. (citation needed)