He/Him Lesbian

A he/him lesbian refers to a lesbian who uses he/him pronouns but is still a woman or woman-aligned. The term is used by women who are wlw (sapphic) and use he/him pronouns. Those pronouns can be exclusive or one can be multipronoun. It is a more specific form of pronoun non-conformity and crosspronoun usage. A 'disconnect from womanhood' is a common experience among he/him lesbians. Similarly to how lesbians might go by masculine names or present as a butch, a lesbian may refer to himself by he/him to express this disconnect from his gender. This term is only used to identify people who do not consider pronouns to be explicitly linked to gender identity.

Other pronoun-gender contrasting identities include she/her gay people, they/them lesbians, it/its gay people and they/them gay people.

Controversy
The existence of he/him lesbians has been the subject of controversy, more so than other pronoun-sexuality contrasting identities (excluding they/them lesbians). This is likely due to the more frequent use of the identity over other pronoun-gender contrasting identities.

The validity of he/him lesbians and other closely related identities will always be based on the assertion of whether or not a person's pronouns should be directly associated with their gender, or if they are another facet of gender expression.

Transmen vs. He/Him Lesbian
The term "he/him" lesbian has been criticised by some transmen and allies as being disrespectful to them, especially when the term is used to define straight/leaning transmen. Some have argued that people who identify as women and use he/him pronouns invalidate the dysphoria that transpeople feel.

Conflict with She/Her Lesbian
Some she/her lesbians and allies have argued that the term invalidates she/her lesbians (due to the he/him lesbian experience of "disconnection from womanhood), and romanticises the past experiences of women forced to use he/him pronouns to avoid persecution.

Flag
The he/him lesbian flag was designed by Tumblr user Wuvsbian on May 20, 2018. The rainbow was used to encompass all the different ways he/him lesbians express themselves through sexual and gender identity. The colors were chosen to try to represent butch lesbians, femme lesbians, those who don't identify as either, as well as non-binary lesbians.